Guess you've never been the victim of a robbery.
Surprising their victim is very important.
I've been the victim of worse, and yes I was shocked.
I was forced to have an abortion against my will by my boyfriend at the time I thought I understood.
So this was worse than rape, because it was blamed on me as the victim.
I've been judged as a murderer for something I did not believe in but was forced
on me, and people go around saying it was "my choice.' Like people think a rape victim
chose to walk into that.
Totally did not see it coming, and would never have thought this guy was my future husband
and we would get married and have the baby as he promised, knowing and stating I did not believe in abortion
and if I got pregnant then I will have the baby.
All that was robbed from me, and I was blamed for it on top of it all.
I found out he had been cheating and was covering it up out of guilt.
So this is how I found out the hard way, if you are going to see in advance
who is fraudulent, in denial or hiding things, you look into their family history.
If they haven't resolved past issues, they are going to REPEAT them.
So you can screen anyone in advance, and tell 90-98% of the time
if someone has abuse issues.
Maybe 1-2% can hide it even from experts.
But my friends who practice spiritual healing can READ into people
and TELL if they are still sick and in denial. They are not fooled.
You can detect these things, and one day we'll get smart
and develop scientific technology to detect criminal brains
in advance, similar to detecting cancer or diabetes. it is an illness
it has a cause and symptoms.
Some diseases and cancer cases can't be detected in advance.
so it won't be perfect. But most cases have signs and people's
attitudes follow patterns. Once I knew what to look for, I could see
this repeating in any family that has patterns passed down from parents to kids.
There are prison rehab programs that work on this, that identify and break
that cycle between parents and kids instead of letting it repeat another generation.
Whole therapies are based on this concept.
it's not that hard to see but harder to do. we are so caught up
in our own denial and projection of blame, we can't see if other people
really have problems if we are too busy with our own.
But if everyone were busy SOLVING problems
then the people with no interest in this would stand out.