Beachboy
Irritated Indy Voter
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Beachboy, you have some serious issues with your sister that you have never worked out. You were never in a contest as to who your nephew loved best, you or his mother. You just wanted it to be that kind of contest. Maybe you have decided you don't like your sister because she's too religious and you don't like that. Your nephew is reflecting the way you feel about your sister and that has made you allies against her.
I don't know you, your sister or your nephew although I have met many similar types across the years. Your nephew sounds like any rebellious young man, if that is true, a change of living arrangements won't make him any less rebellious he will just be rebellious against you.
I do not see this situation with my sister as a big psychological drama, (though I was prepared to drop the matter into the hands of a psychiatrist). At least at the moment, my nephew hates his mother, and I think you have nailed this as "rebellious" behavior. My sister has gone too far, and I am going to reign her in.
I think my sister is a lost cause. She places her Bible as more important than family, or her son. Those two things are a "deal breaker" for me. To be honest, I do not enjoy the holidays with family. There is always something that spoils the day. And, I have not forgotten the way my brother dumped this whole gay business in my lap.
This year we will go out to eat for all three holidays, (my wife does not allow holiday preparations to be dumped on her, she has a career too). If my nephew wants to invite his mother's family, she will be welcome. But, I am not going to invite anyone with the possible exception of my father, and that will depend upon how he deals with the news about my nephew. Our dad sees my sister as "much ado about nothing." He sees my brother as irresponsible.
My great, great grandfather turned out family into a limited liability corporation for tax and inheritance reasons. I am practically the corporate agent now, which means I will control the money in the living trust after my father relinquishes control. If I can not keep this family together with mutual respect and love, I will use money to do it. And, that is precisely what my father wants. As LBJ used to say, "If you grab them by their nuts, their hearts and minds will follow."
Lyndon Johnson was a very passionate person.
On this occasion JFK tried to cool LBJ down.
I truly love this photo. It is so American!
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