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It looks like your family has more serious issues than the rather simple one of your nephew being gay.
He wants to strike out on his own, but wants someone else to pay for his college. This isn't striking out on one's own.
If I were this kid's mother, I would tell him to put his dick in his pants (whether the object is male or female) and make the college money well spent. And leave it at that. You have another question to answer. Are you helping or enabling.
Now the deal breaker. My nephew will only take the MMPI psychological test if his mother does. I have not even asked her yet, but I don't think this is going to happen, so it is back to square one. My nephew does not seem concerned about taking the MMPI psychological, but my sister thinks it is some kind of trick.
Family has always been the primary value which we instill in our children. It has been the responsibility of one generation to pass on the family in tact to the next generation.
It looks like your family has more serious issues than the rather simple one of your nephew being gay.
He wants to strike out on his own, but wants someone else to pay for his college. This isn't striking out on one's own.
If I were this kid's mother, I would tell him to put his dick in his pants (whether the object is male or female) and make the college money well spent. And leave it at that. You have another question to answer. Are you helping or enabling.
You don't think college kids have sex? You think just because they have sexual relationships they can't succeed in college? Wow, what world do you live in?
I'm surprised anyone ever manages to get a degree, because as I recall, sex was BIG part of college life.
People "choose" to become rapists, child molesters, homosexuals, murderers, etc.
There is No gene that makes/forces them engage in these aberant lifestyle choices.
So parents disown their son for who he is? So what if he puts up a silly and mildly tasteless video. He probably won't believe it, but I'm sure he is better off without them until they grow up. And if he is staying with someone who is helping him out, they don't need to be bringing "sex partners" into the house for sleepovers. That would be disrespectful. In fact, while he is there, if he had any class, he would be doing dishes, taking out the garbage and anything else that would be "helpful". You "earn" help, you don't "expect" it.
holy Shit!......is that really you Dean?.....you actually said something worth while.....and you did not even bring up how his folks MUST be Republicans....Gulf Clap.....
I thought that was understood.
Nobody can take you anyplace you don't want to go.... it has felt like an issue thrust on me by everyone.
You have the power to put this all right back in the laps of the primary players. Be supportive but really, you cant do more than that and, as I said before, it will most certainly backfire on you.
I hope your nephew is doing okay with this. Its really no one's business but his and his lover's.
Flexibility goes both ways. Maybe beachboys spend too much time watching gay porn to be tolerant of Christian beliefs.
It looks like your family has more serious issues than the rather simple one of your nephew being gay.
He wants to strike out on his own, but wants someone else to pay for his college. This isn't striking out on one's own.
If I were this kid's mother, I would tell him to put his dick in his pants (whether the object is male or female) and make the college money well spent. And leave it at that. You have another question to answer. Are you helping or enabling.
You don't think college kids have sex? You think just because they have sexual relationships they can't succeed in college? Wow, what world do you live in?
I'm surprised anyone ever manages to get a degree, because as I recall, sex was BIG part of college life.
If kids want to go to college to get laid, they can do that on their own dime. They go to college to get an education, that's what their parents are paying for, not the opportunity to have sex. Someone who wants to "strike out on their own" should strike out on their own and not keep a financial umbilical cord attached to their parents' wallet.
Let's see how much sex the "kid" has when he has to make classes and hold down a job.
Years ago a Bible reading Christian was considered to be an honorable person whom you could trust for an honest viewpoint. Now that the sodomites have gained power a Bible reading person is viewed as "inflexible". Bigotry runs both ways and you can bet your ass (no pun intended) that there is no flexibility in the radical gay community.
Yeah, quite frankly it sounds like your sister is the whacko, not your nephew. And your nephew was quite right in requiring that she also be expected to take the test if he does.Now the deal breaker. My nephew will only take the MMPI psychological test if his mother does. I have not even asked her yet, but I don't think this is going to happen, so it is back to square one. My nephew does not seem concerned about taking the MMPI psychological, but my sister thinks it is some kind of trick.
And as for this:
Sounds like your sister hasn't gotten that message. She is, after all, the parent, and has a responsibility to behave rationally and maturely and set the tone.Family has always been the primary value which we instill in our children. It has been the responsibility of one generation to pass on the family in tact to the next generation.
You should be very wary of letting an active homo into your home and around your family.
Most gays have at least one STD. (higher than the general population)
Also, HIV/AIDS is rampant among practicing homosexuals. (again, far higher numbers than the general population)
And could be transmitted to a family member by accident.
It looks like your family has more serious issues than the rather simple one of your nephew being gay.
He wants to strike out on his own, but wants someone else to pay for his college. This isn't striking out on one's own.
If I were this kid's mother, I would tell him to put his dick in his pants (whether the object is male or female) and make the college money well spent. And leave it at that. You have another question to answer. Are you helping or enabling.
You don't think college kids have sex? You think just because they have sexual relationships they can't succeed in college? Wow, what world do you live in?
I'm surprised anyone ever manages to get a degree, because as I recall, sex was BIG part of college life.
If kids want to go to college to get laid, they can do that on their own dime. They go to college to get an education, that's what their parents are paying for, not the opportunity to have sex. Someone who wants to "strike out on their own" should strike out on their own and not keep a financial umbilical cord attached to their parents' wallet.
Let's see how much sex the "kid" has when he has to make classes and hold down a job.
Oh, this young man will be doing dishes, yard work, and my favorite of all times, washing all the windows! When he is here, he will be volunteering at our local homeless shelter where I am on the executive committee. He will also be getting a job if he wants to finish college, I am not picking up the entire tab for his education.
This young man will understand the the laws of physics, "For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction." He sent the video, now he will take the consequences for his action. He will also understand how lucky he is to have his uncle step in to help.
It could be a lot worse, he could be selling his ass down in Boys Town, West Hollywood. I'm told that's what usually happens to runaways. You can be sure I will be taking him for a drive down there to see the ugly under-belly of gay life.
Nobody can take you anyplace you don't want to go.... it has felt like an issue thrust on me by everyone.
You have the power to put this all right back in the laps of the primary players. Be supportive but really, you cant do more than that and, as I said before, it will most certainly backfire on you.
I hope your nephew is doing okay with this. Its really no one's business but his and his lover's.
I think you are correct. I have quarried the issue with reasonable fairness. I have made a decision. I think you are 100% correct, this will backfire on me. I think my sister has already made her choice to go with her church rather than her family.......
Incorrect Poindexter.......You have lost your credibility with me. You have not posted a single fact to support your anti-gay rhetoric. You can take partial credit for turning me into a gay rights believer. You comments about STD's are totally unsubstantiated hate preach. My God, you aren't even an American, you clearly have no idea what is going on in the Western culture. However, thank you for your postings. I could not have arrived at my conclusions without you.
Nobody can take you anyplace you don't want to go.
You have the power to put this all right back in the laps of the primary players. Be supportive but really, you cant do more than that and, as I said before, it will most certainly backfire on you.
I hope your nephew is doing okay with this. Its really no one's business but his and his lover's.
I think you are correct. I have quarried the issue with reasonable fairness. I have made a decision. I think you are 100% correct, this will backfire on me. I think my sister has already made her choice to go with her church rather than her family.......
Your sister made a decision to go with her beliefs and principles rather than her family. Which is as it should be. Your nephew is being defiant. He wants to be defiant for the purpose of challenging his mother. Yet he certainly doesn't want to give up the money. Given some time your nephew will find out what ever principles you have and defy them too.
The video is hardly a "mom I'm gay" video. It's guys being fools in front of a girl video. If he wants to strike out on his own, as you say, encourage him to start growing up and get a part time job to defray his college expenses.
There comes a time in the lives of children when they instinctively want to leave the nest yet they are terrified at doing so. Many times they get a cause, usually one their parents don't care about or object to. They can't take that step so they make their parents throw them out.
Incorrect Poindexter.......You have lost your credibility with me. You have not posted a single fact to support your anti-gay rhetoric. You can take partial credit for turning me into a gay rights believer. You comments about STD's are totally unsubstantiated hate preach. My God, you aren't even an American, you clearly have no idea what is going on in the Western culture. However, thank you for your postings. I could not have arrived at my conclusions without you.
I am a 5th generation born American and a US Army veteran. ..
Here is the straight (OUTDATED) dope from PubMed.gov/NCBI (National Center for Biotechnology Information)
Comparative prevalence rates of sexually transmitted diseases in heterosexual and homosexual men.
This study compared prevalence rates of most common sexually transmitted diseases (STD) in heterosexual and homosexual men who made respectively 12,201 and 5324 visits to an STD clinic over 18 months.
Overall, homosexual men were significantly (p < 0.001) more likely than heterosexual men to have gonorrhea (30.31% vs. 19.83%), early syphilis (1.08% vs. 0.34%) and anal warts (2.90% vs. 0.26%) but less likely to have nongonococcal urethritis (NGU) (14.63% vs. 36.40%, p < 0.001), herpes genitalis (0.93% vs. 3.65%, p < 0.001), pediculosis pubis (4.30% vs. 5.35%, p < 0.005), scabies (0.42% vs. 0.76%, p < 0.02), and genital warts (1.68% vs. 6.69%, p < 0.001).
In most cases the differences in rates remained significant (p < 0.05) when corrected for age and race. It is speculated that higher rates of gonorrhea and syphilis result from a larger mean number of sexual contacts, more potential sites of infection, and more hidden and asymptomatic disease, while the lower rates of the other STD result from a lesser susceptibility of anal mucosa to the causative agent(s) of NGU, herpes genitalis, and venereal warts or from a lack of pubic apposition (pediculosis pubis).
Comparative prevalence rates of sexually tran... [Am J Epidemiol. 1980] - PubMed - NCBI
