You always seem to bring intelligent, insightful responses. I believe the God of the OT and NT is the same God.
I Fear God every time I pay the Lord's prayer and say forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us. I have not always been the most forgiving of people. I understand that if I fail to forgive, I am asking God not to forgive me.
Two thoughts.
The etymology of forgiveness is that someone owes something to another. An easy example is that you loan someone a large amount of money with the promise and expectation it will be repaid. And it's not and becomes clear there is no intent to repay you. So, you forgive the debt, accept you won't be repaid, and tell that person the debt is forgiven and no need to ever repay it (even though you could really use that money!).
A little time goes by, and once again this person approaches you and begs for money. In such a circumstance, some would be thinking, "Here is my chance to show I truly forgave him for not repaying me, but...again he is asking for what I can barely afford. I need this money."
You already completely forgave him what he owed you. You forgave him that trespass--completely. Notice what the Lord's prayer does not say: It says nothing about restoring trust.
It does not say we must now still give our full
trust to the person who trespassed against us and once again receive him in our debt so we can forgive him yet again. You are fully within your rights to confess you cannot spare the money and (if a close friend or relative) offer to give him an amount you can afford. Or not. You are under no obligation to him this time.
Second thought:
Full disclosure, because I generally find it easy to forgive (as I need so much forgiveness myself). Then one day something happened at work and I was at a complete loss because I knew I could never forgive this person for what he had done. Not ever. I know exactly how you feel when coming to the words
as we forgive those.
I had not the strength to forgive. But who was I praying to? The most powerful being! I may not have the strength to forgive, but God has the strength, so I asked God to forgive this man as it was beyond my own strength to do so. I prayed that God would forgive him until one day--perhaps--I would have the strength to forgive him myself.
God is our Father, Abba...Remember, when we were little and something was beyond our strength, we went to Daddy for help? Same situation here (
and please forgive the one I cannot forgive).