As for Friday's wedding of a lesbian teacher and her longtime partner, Newsom wasn't aware that the first-graders would be skipping school for the event, Jaye said. The mayor performed the ceremony because one of the women was a friend of a friend. The students didn't attend the wedding itself but surprised their teacher on the steps outside City Hall. Newsom believes the students should have stayed in school that day, Jaye said. "He doesn't think it's a good idea for students to come out of class to attend any wedding," Jaye said. Political insiders say images of children attending a same-sex wedding play right into the hands of the proponents of a same-sex marriage ban. The more proponents can make the issue about protecting children and less about removing people's rights, the better their chances, several people said. Newsom becomes campaign tool for Prop. 8 backers It would seem not only a bad idea for the students to attend this wedding but if it were sanctioned in any way by the school itself then it would IMO be wrong. The school in this case should have no say so in ethical matters that are clearly a parental matter in this case.