Well, I think it's intelligent to look for trends. I look for things that work. And the trend I notice is the people I go to church with, several hundred of them, are really nice, solid and together people, with seemingly few if exceptions. And then I look at the demeanor of people who are hostile to Christianity, and they seem less together and less pleasant. The studies I have looked at regarding happiness, drug abuse, and suicide seem to fit what I have observed. This is not to say there aren't exceptions, as you certainly have seen.
I was wondering if you ever tried to persuade your husband out of atheism or if you want him out of atheism. And has the difference ever been a problem for you, as in raising children? For me, I couldn't have married an atheist or even a non-Catholic, and the reason was the silent conflict between my parents. My father was Catholic, my mother was not. They apparently didn't address this difference before marriage, so when it came time for my oldest sister to be baptized, there was disagreement. This was the 1950s, and my father said how it would be, and my mother dutifully, but resentfully went along. So all those years, my mother took us to Mass, but never herself participated, and was always somewhat negative towards the church. When I was to be married, I didn't want any part of that. I told my future wife that I had to marry a Catholic, and she converted. And we haven't had problems because of that except we didn't do 'super Catholic' things together. We went to weekly Mass, said grace, and had a crucifix in the house, but we never said the rosary together as a family or went to reconciliation as a family except for a few times. So in a sense, I didn't go full throttle out of deference to my wife. I didn't want to 'come on too strong'. So in that regard our situation wasn't 100% ideal, but it was pretty good.