It really is no wonder that people turn away from christians and christianity.
It's the Christians who are UNFORGIVING who send the wrong message,
completely contradicting the point.
Of course people respond in different ways:
1. some people reinforce unforgiveness by getting angry and hateful at rejection, and giving back to Christians what they see wrong which is unforgiveness in return. So this makes matters worse, sends and reinforces "retribution and revenge" -- the very OPPOSITE message than in Christianity (which is basically "charity" where forgiveness is the greatest act of charity and the most meaningful acts of forgiveness are neither earned and least deserved)
The worst part is when this is blamed on Christianity (at the same time believers blame nonbelievers as the problem),
so the person does not even accept responsibility for their part of the conflict but remains a victim of hating others they blame.
This vicious cycle has no end; only forgiveness can break people out of this deadlock.
2. Some recognize the hypocrisy and forgive it to some degree, but then go on their own rampage denouncing the wrongs and claiming to be better and have authority to fix others.
When this is done in unforgiveness, it causes more of the same problems.
3. Others can forgive themselves and others equally, so this "proselytizing" about Christianity does compel interactions that lead to corrections and understanding.
How ironic that when people preaching forgiveness in Christianity are not forgiving themselves,
they "force people" indirectly to HAVE to be "forgiving" to deal with them!
It is like teaching patience to people "indirectly" by making such a huge ruckus or mess,
that people "have to be patient with you" to undo all the damage you are causing!
By not being patient or productive, you force others to learn this anyway because you aren't.
By being hateful and unforgiving, you force others to learn to forgive where it isn't deserved because you are the one who has it backwards.
Totally ironic, isn't it?
Either way, the process of sharing, albeit faulty and imposed backwards,
can lead to corrections and restored relations as the abuses and issues are resolved.
And yes, it does take forgiveness on the part of the perceiver of injustice and hypocrisy.
Indirectly, the message in Christianity of forgiveness and correction to restore peaceful relations and justice
is still pushed to the forefront to be received and understood by resolving the conflicts that come up.
The process is not always in the way the evangelist thinks, but often the opposite,
where they are sometimes the one who ends up "receiving rebuke and correction"
to learn the true meaning and fulfill these very laws. In the opposite way they may have intended.