Your mother sounds like she was a very wise lady.
My family is definitely an "interesting" family.
At times I feel that they have been a little too pampered for their own good, and admittedly, I've enabled them to be that way through my own actions on occasion. But overall, they've all graduated from college and have obtained good jobs. I worry at times how they will handle adversity when they experience it, but when that time arrives we will see.
My father was an educator, and finished his career as a school superintendent in northern California, so he always stressed the value of education, since it was his ticket out of living in poverty in segregated Kansas.
His dying request of me was to take care of my mother, and to ensure that my own children graduated from college.
I'm fortunate that both of those requests have been fullfilled.
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I am so glad you had the opportunity have that kind of relationship and respect for your father.
My mother was the smart one ... My dad was the wise and smart one ... Some of that rubbed off on Mom.
He was in no way an abusive or cruel man ... But he didn't talk much, and when he did, everyone listened.
When he dropped knowledge and wisdom on us ... He was not compassionate ... It came at you hard, bare-knuckled and absent any sugarcoating.
He was still always the Rock and the Glue.
To get back to some of the topic ...
My parents taught us how to be independent and succeed at our goals ...
And it comes back to me in the words of my father, never spared at any opportunity ...
"When you fail, you have no one to blame but yourself.
Get back up and get to it, because no one else is required to assist you."
It's not Justice for everyone ... It's not Fair when measured against the atrocities of the past, nor does it correct governance or systemic problems.
At the same time, it eliminates the ability to retreat to a perpetual excuse for failure.
I honestly don't know how we will ever get past that in a Modern Society that as a whole promotes the Past over the Future.
We can learn from our Past, but it serves no purpose until it provides the Vision necessary to advance towards a better Future.
As people become defensive and fight about it ... Nothing really changes, and we are going nowhere.
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I am so glad you had the opportunity have that kind of relationship and respect for your father.
My mother was the smart one ... My dad was the wise and smart one ... Some of that rubbed off on Mom.
He was in no way an abusive or cruel man ... But he didn't talk much, and when he did, everyone listened.
When he dropped knowledge and wisdom on us ... He was not compassionate ... It came at you hard, bare-knuckled and absent any sugarcoating.
He was still always the Rock and the Glue.
To get back to some of the topic ...
My parents taught us how to be independent and succeed at our goals ...
And it comes back to me in the words of my father, never spared at any opportunity ...
"When you fail, you have no one to blame but yourself.
Get back up and get to it, because no one else is required to assist you."
It's not Justice for everyone ... It's not Fair when measured against the atrocities of the past, nor does it correct governance or systemic problems.
At the same time, it eliminates the ability to retreat to a perpetual excuse for failure.
I honestly don't know how we will ever get past that in a Modern Society that as a whole promotes the Past over the Future.
We can learn from our Past, but it serves no purpose until it provides the Vision necessary to advance towards a better Future.
As people become defensive and fight about it ... Nothing really changes, and we are going nowhere.
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