Bonzi
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- May 17, 2015
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sounds like you need to move to get your "fantasy come true" - I'd love to see you come to Jesus, instead, but if won't, you should live in the world and do at it takes to make your fleshly dreams come true....
Often times, our fantasies are more satisfying when they remain fantasies.
I've found that to be true. The reality is never as good as the fantasy. I wonder why?
Simple enough I think. In our fantasies we don't have to wear condoms or worry about getting naything icky. Fantasies are perfect in every way. Reality, we're lucky and having a pretty darned good day if 1 or 2 things we imagine in a fantasy are in play.
why do people even deal with the "real world" then?
Conditioning. Most uncomfortable with masturbation have simply been conditioned to view other people as the means to their own satisfaction. I was raised to rely upon myself for my sexual pleasure. And while I also enjoyed other people, it was never my first choice.
I've always felt people who got horny and went to a singles bar or found a less than ideal partner elsewhere were fundamentally weak. If your pleasure is dependent upon another person's willingness, you're making yourself very weak indeed. So much simpler, quicker, cheaper to take 30 mins and satisfy those urges on your own. Then reassess if you're really interested in someone once the sexual aspect has been suppressed.
I don't think it's a weakness as much as a preference. I think (like you said, I believe) it's all determined based on early childhood experiences and "imprinting".... I have known men that "resent" having to masturbate. I just am not sure if that is physical or psychological (primarily).