Nice Guys or Bad Boys?

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    Ok folks, this is one of the Eternal Relationship Questions....

    Ladies, do you prefer Nice Guys or Bad Boys?.... and WHY?

    I'm truly interested to hear what members of both genders think on this one. Ladies, what do you prefer, and are you honest with yourself (and others) about it? Guys, what has your experience been over the years.... do the ladies prefer the nice guy or the guy who is in some way dangerous, or at least a rebellion against social standards?
     
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    bad boys

    and one pays the price....i simply expect him to take it outta town....what he does when he is outta town is his business...now fuck up and let it get back to town...i am not happy....be discreet how hard is that

    i think it just goes to what you want in life....security and safety go with the nice guy....
     
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    When I was younger I liked the "semi bad" boys.

    Now that I'm older, a man with good character, who is honest, smart and funny is what I look for.

    I have that all in my man, and he's a great father to his 2 kids too, which is the most important thing of all.
     
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    Echo, a question for you....

    When you were in your "semi-bad boy" phase, were you honest with yourself and others about who/what you were looking for, or did you go around telling yourself and others that you really wanted a "nice guy"?
     
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    Well, I'm not sure what you consider a 'bad boy'-I was raised that men respect women and treat them like ladies. If a guy was an 'a-hole' then I would dump him. So I guess back then, it was more of an attraction thing at first, and then when I got to know their true character I decided if they would stay or they would go.

    I've made some mistakes for sure, I was "fooled" by someone BIG TIME, but never again.
     
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    Echo, what I'm asking is more a matter of once you found out what they really were, did you stay with the semi-bad guy or dump his ass and go looking for the "nice guy".

    In my personal experience, I spent a LOT of time in High School and college consoling young women who CLAIMED they wanted the "nice guy" (which I tend to be) in their life; but who repeatedly chose and were burned by the "bad boys", only to go right back to them once the tears were wiped away and the initial emotional pain disappeared.

    It got bad enough in college that I instituted a "one cry per guy" policy with my female friends. I would be there for them the FIRST time that Mr. Right did them WRONG. If they went back to him a second time, I would not be there the next time he did her wrong.
     
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    Nope, only ONCE in my life did I get back with the 'bad guy'- (after a year of not seeing him) and 3 months later he did the same thing to me. Lesson learned, never again.

    Nice guys finish first in my world.
     
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    Glad to hear that you learned the lesson the first time, though sorry you had to go through that to learn it,

    Good to hear. Not if only more ladies felt that way.
     
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    What's the deal with the bad boy attraction anyway ? A challenge or self fulfilling prophecy ?
     
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    Good question.

    You would hope as women mature, they would look for someone that is going to treat them right and be honest and faithful to them.

    But, as some of my friends who continue the cycle of dating 'bad boys'-a lot stems from self-esteem issues and things from their past. They always need 'drama' in their life, and if it's not there they get bored.
     

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