Cheating?

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  1. Amanda
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    I have a friend (really!) that is with one guy and seeing another on the side. She says it hasn't gone any farther than kissing, but to me anything you wouldn't do in front of your bf is cheating, and I know for sure kissing would be cheating to me.

    So my question to all of you is what is cheating? She says as long as they don't actually have sex it's not cheating. What do you think?
     
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    First of all, are you saying that she had an exclusive relationship with the one guy? Then, I agree with you, kissing is cheating.
     
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    Would your friend consider it cheating if her boyfriend was messing around with another woman like she is?

    In a committed relationship, physical contact is cheating.
     
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    If the guy assumes the relationship is exclusive, then of course it's cheating.

    Why cheat though, if it isn't for sex? Seems pointless.
     
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    Cheating. I would suggest that she not enter into exclusive relationships to begin with.
     
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    She's just testing the waters with guy #2. She's not ready to give up guy #1 until she's sure guy #2 is a sure thing. Plus, if she's your age (18) I'm sure the thrill of it all is exciting for her.

    Also, how would she like it if guy #1 was making out with another girl too? Ask her that. (If guy #1 thinks they have an exclusive relationship that is, if not then it's no big deal anyway!)
     
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    The definition of cheating is up to the individuals involved.
     
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    Hmm. If you have an agreement to be monogamous, and you make out with someone, you're technically cheating.

    There's all kinds of mind games and justisfication that kicks in. It's like diet rationalizations about what calories count.
     
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    if the bf doesn't know about it, its cheating
    its being deceitful
     
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    The guy's getting cheated on, plain and simple. Sucks for him!
     

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