Would You Cheat on a Spouse?

[dilloduck]

not much point in keeping that on your payroll .
Is exclusive and "enough" sex part of the marriage contract ?

It is for me. Now, given that, if he has some physical disability that renders him unable to perform, there are ways to have sex without having SEX, if you catch my drift. But someone who simply stops putting out, entirely? Fuck that noise.

I think we're back to William's point but he apparently isn't intimate enough with us to give us the details of behind his question.

 

[catzmeow]

In sickness and in health until death do us part. Does a wife dump her husband and start shagging someone else when he has prostate cancer?

Does prostate cancer incapacitate his fingers or tongue? There are dozens of ways to give a partner sexual pleasure and satisfaction, and only a few of them require a functional penis. Failing that, you can hold each other and provide physical comfort.

I cannot imagine a scenario in a healthy marriage where I would not somehow try to please my partner physically, no matter what my health was.

But, there are a whole lot of people out there who are neither sick, nor disabled, who simply have no desire to have sex with their significant other. They just stop...for reasons that frankly baffle me. They don't even try. And then, they expect the other person to remain faithful, to not pursue sex outside the bonds of marriage, and to keep supporting them.

In general, I've found that the people who choose to stop having sex are women, who still expect the man to keep providing for them financially. In my friend's case, it has been YEARS since his wife allowed him to have sex with her. Or, for that matter, to sleep in her bed. And, this is an attractive man with good hygiene. There is literally no reason that I can think of that this woman refuses to even TOUCH HIM. Or, sleep next to him.

What's wrong with that picture?

 

[dilloduck]

In sickness and in health until death do us part. Does a wife dump her husband and start shagging someone else when he has prostate cancer?

Does prostate cancer incapacitate his fingers or tongue?

See, there are a whole lot of people out there who are neither sick, nor disabled, who simply have no desire to have sex with their significant other. They just stop...for reasons that frankly baffle me. They don't even try. And then, they expect the other person to remain faithful, to not pursue sex outside the bonds of marriage, and to keep supporting them.

In general, I've found that the people who choose to stop having sex are women, who still expect the man to keep providing for them financially.

What's wrong with that picture?

Lot's if the man has a healthy sex drive.

 

[catzmeow]

In sickness and in health until death do us part. Does a wife dump her husband and start shagging someone else when he has prostate cancer? What about mental illness or normal aging?

Do you dump the man or woman you love for improved body parts?

What about a woman who is married to a man who suffers from alzheimers, and who lingers for a decade in a completely incapacitated condition. Is she NEVER supposed to stray from her vows?

 

[007]

I would think that if the wife ballooned up to hippo status and her sweaty, celulite rolls didn't turn me on anymore, I'm not going to poke it, even if she does want it. Now that story can go both ways. Or maybe we just both grow old and neither of us want sex anymore. But while you're virile enough and want to have sex, and your partner says no, then there IS something wrong. An affair, a medical problem, whatever, but it should be taken care of, pronto. If there is no remedy for the situation, then it's time to move on, and I don't mean cheat. I mean get a divorce.

 

[Sky Dancer]

There are conditions that cause a lack of desire. Certain medications for example. I don't have judgments of other people who cheat in their marriages. It's the stuff of real life and great fiction.

I'm watching a very successful married couple, go from a regular married life to one that is an 'open marriage' model. I wish them luck.

 

[dilloduck]

In sickness and in health until death do us part. Does a wife dump her husband and start shagging someone else when he has prostate cancer? What about mental illness or normal aging?

Do you dump the man or woman you love for improved body parts?

What about a woman who is married to a man who suffers from alzheimers, and who lingers for a decade in a completely incapacitated condition. Is she NEVER supposed to stray from her vows?

I would imagine some would praise her for her sacrifice while others would think she's just stupid or not interested either.

 

[Said1]

In sickness and in health until death do us part. Does a wife dump her husband and start shagging someone else when he has prostate cancer? What about mental illness or normal aging?

Do you dump the man or woman you love for improved body parts?

What about a woman who is married to a man who suffers from alzheimers, and who lingers for a decade in a completely incapacitated condition. Is she NEVER supposed to stray from her vows?

I don't see a problem with that, considering he'll forget about it immediately if he finds out.

 

[dilloduck]

In sickness and in health until death do us part. Does a wife dump her husband and start shagging someone else when he has prostate cancer? What about mental illness or normal aging?

Do you dump the man or woman you love for improved body parts?

What about a woman who is married to a man who suffers from alzheimers, and who lingers for a decade in a completely incapacitated condition. Is she NEVER supposed to stray from her vows?

I don't see a problem with that, considering he'll forget about it immediately if he finds out.

great point !

 

[007]

Ultimately, it comes down to the two people involved. Is one willing to stay with the other even if they've been cut off, or not?

But under no circumstances should you ever cheat.

 

[Sky Dancer]

If a spouse is ill and dying, it wouldn't be so surprising to see the husband or wife of the terminally ill or dying spouse seek comfort. Would you condemn that individual?

 

[dilloduck]

Ultimately, it comes down to the two people involved. Is one willing to stay with the other even if they've been cut off, or not?

But under no circumstances should you ever cheat.

When you get married there is a whole hell of a lot of things you shouldn't do anymore !

 

[007]

Ultimately, it comes down to the two people involved. Is one willing to stay with the other even if they've been cut off, or not?

But under no circumstances should you ever cheat.

When you get married there is a whole hell of a lot of things you shouldn't do anymore !

That's why I've been single for going on 22 years... I want to do what I want to do, when and where I want, how I want, why I want, and I don't want anybody to bitch at me if I do. I'm exercising my freedom.

 

[Sky Dancer]

Remaining in love, that's the key.

 

[Said1]

What about a woman who is married to a man who suffers from alzheimers, and who lingers for a decade in a completely incapacitated condition. Is she NEVER supposed to stray from her vows?

I don't see a problem with that, considering he'll forget about it immediately if he finds out.

great point !

But seriously. My friends brother met someone right before his wife died - she was sick for a long time. And yes, he was shunned for it, but only for the girl he started dating and married (and divorced) rather than how soon he moved on after his wife died.

 

[Sky Dancer]

Ultimately, it comes down to the two people involved. Is one willing to stay with the other even if they've been cut off, or not?

But under no circumstances should you ever cheat.

When you get married there is a whole hell of a lot of things you shouldn't do anymore !

That's why I've been single for going on 22 years... I still want to do what I want to do.

More than likely you'll die single. Many of us who are married will stay true to our spouses and die single.

 

[dilloduck]

I don't see a problem with that, considering he'll forget about it immediately if he finds out.

great point !

But seriously. My friends brother met someone right before his wife died - she was sick for a long time. And yes, he was shunned for it, but only for the girl he started dating and married (and divorced) rather than how soon he moved on after his wife died.

That social taboo can be a bitch.

 

[Said1]

great point !

But seriously. My friends brother met someone right before his wife died - she was sick for a long time. And yes, he was shunned for it, but only for the girl he started dating and married (and divorced) rather than how soon he moved on after his wife died.

That social taboo can be a bitch.

She wasn't very nice, either.

 

[dilloduck]

But seriously. My friends brother met someone right before his wife died - she was sick for a long time. And yes, he was shunned for it, but only for the girl he started dating and married (and divorced) rather than how soon he moved on after his wife died.

That social taboo can be a bitch.

She wasn't very nice, either.

Apparently----divorcing a nice person would be stupid.

 

[Sky Dancer]

I've done it. Divorced someone I loved.