There are two ways you can look at the first sin. Either the act of disobedience (eating the apple) was the source of sin, or the corruption of the knowledge of good and evil. I think that eating the apple was a sin, but it was the “knowledge” of good an evil that accompanied this sin that corrupted man. Once was one has a grasp of morality and the mental capacity to understand it they can no longer claim moral ignorance. Adam and Eve were just like animals and very small children who know something was wrong (eating from the tree), but lacked the capacity to understand morality (why it was wrong). For instance, after eating the fruit Adam and Eve became aware of their nakedness, thus coming to the realization they should put some clothes on.
It was really a twofer by committing the first sin knowledge of good an evil made man completely accountable for all the sins to follow.
I hope that makes sense.
2. Shorter point: I think there was something in the "shame" that Adam had that caused it to be a problem. When Eve first partook of the knowledge, she saw that it was good. I see this same phenomena when people make mistakes; if you see learning in the school of life as positive, then you can work with the process, even when you make mistakes. If you are so ashamed of making mistakes that you hide, deny, project or play other games, this obstructs the process of learning by trial and error, and benefiting from experience without all that shame and blame attached. Again, the difference seems to be "forgiveness" -- when things are done in that spirit, it is innocent.
1. Longer comments:
I understand what you are saying, where you seem to acknowledge both the point that I was making and the point my friend made which I disagreed with.
I am somewhat more forgiving of the "sin" of disobedience at that stage, because of the state of "not knowing everything in full." I do not think it is realistic to hold people accountable when they do not fully understanding the consequences. I believe that by nature, when people DO understand the full causes and consequences, they would naturally be compelled to do the right thing since there is no reason not to. In all cases where I see people compromise, something makes them think that the other choice is better, whether true or false or emotionally guided. There is something they either don't fully understand (until after they learn from experience), or there is some emotional issue that needs to be resolved that is causing them to make a compromised decision. Either of those situations can and should be corrected; instead of seeing God as punishing people, I see negative repercussions or backlash more like a natural consequence in order to steer the learning curve toward better decisions next time.
An example of a situation where I do not feel punishment or judgment is appropriate but some people see it differently:
In the case, for example, of an atheist rejecting Christian teachings because it appears to be imposing false mythological religion that invites cult mentality or other abuse:
a. I believe if such atheists see scientific proof of spiritual energy and the process of healing by prayer such as deliverance/exorcism, then they would understand how this works, not reject based on lack of verifiable proof or natural explanation they understand.
b. many people automatically judge atheists as rebelling or disobeying or having something wrong with their attitude "by choice" they deem should be punished.
I do not think it is someone's choice to believe or disbelieve based on what they have seen and understood; whatever causes conflict should be resolved instead of judging people.
I find that people committed to truth naturally accept things explained or shown to them to be true and consistent; so it is a process of forgiving past misunderstanding and receiving consistent information, and people are naturally compelled toward truth, there is no need to disobey which is usually caused by not trusting or understanding the source.
I would understand if the fallout/"punishment" for the original sin was taught as "natural consequences" of biting into more knowledge than you can handle responsibility.
That makes sense to me in terms of natural causality.
but it makes no sense to me to teach it as "punishing" people for disobedience if
a. they didn't have enough knowledge to know what kind of suffering would result until after they committed that and ended up going through all the experiences to see it
b. Satan was more responsible for having knowledge and abusing it, as Satan was conscious of this deliberate act of jealousy to cause harm. I would understand punishing Satan, but not humanity; suffering the consequences is just natural cause and effect
and is not meant to be a judgment for doing something that was manipulated and not understood. I really don't see how anyone could be held to obedience at that point.
Also, since taking this approach, of judging and punishing humanity, did not stop humans from making further errors or messes; that is not the answer anyway, and God has to know that, being omniscient as the creator of human free will and conscience. So to me, this whole process seems to point toward reaching spiritual maturity where it is possible to hold people to account AFTER we have a fully developed conscience and understanding.
It really makes no sense to me to judge people before that point, except for the purpose of teaching and correction which isn't the same as punishing people for trial and error.
I also see Judgment Day as a correction process more that punishment, for this same reason. Whatever we did not understand is why we would fail; so the point of judgment would be to compare our words and actions to eliminate conflict and inconsistency.
The purpose would be to make sure we all get the answers right in the end, not necessarily to judge people for mistakes in the process for which we suffer enough!
I just see it differently, because of how people change from BEFORE they understand to AFTER they understand, at which point I do believe it is fair to hold them accountable.
As long as they are making errors in judgment, that tells me there is some lack of understanding causing it, or else that fault could have been prevented or corrected.
When I do practice this approach, of not blaming or judging people, but just identifying and correcting the source of conflict, it tends to be effective; moreso than threatening people with punishment for disobeying and rejecting God without adequate explanation!