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Another mostly sleepless night, about three hours of broken sleep. The good news is an aide came by, bathed her and changed the bed then a volunteer showed up for two and a half hours, I was able to take a shower and nap before the nurse and the doc showed up. When I told the doc about the wife's restlessness and confusion she told me next time to call because her restlessness means to them that they aren't doing their job. So if it happens again tonight I'll call but they upped her morphine and anti-anxiety meds which I gave the wife when they we still here and she's sleeping like a baby. I'm also waiting on a hospital bed to help make the wife more comfortable with the ability to raise her head up without twenty pillows. They also delivered a small wheelchair so that helps also.
Do you or she have any family you can call on for some help?
No. Her family is back east and her youngest brother is the only one she has any contact with, he's in New York State and can't make it which he's not happy about. The only brother I have that's relatively close she hates, the feeling is basically mutual there with him.
 
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May the Coffee Shop always be a virtual family for those who need or enjoy one here. Meanwhile we pray or send positive vibes or keep vigil for:

Harper, the inspiration for the vigil list.
Pogo’s friend Pat and special comfort for Pogo,
Montrovant for continued progress in his transition.
Kat for wellness
JustAnotherNut for wellness
Mindful and healing for her shoulder.
Good results for Nosmo King 's step nephew dealing with difficult surgeries.
Beautress for wellness.
Gracie and Mr. G. for continued progress for solutions.
007 and his mom and family for comfort and peace.
Corazon for wellness.
For gallantwarrior for impending surgeries and his safety and resolution of his impossible situation with his 'partner' and the help he needs during this difficult time.
Ringel and Ms Ringel - help, comfort, wellness, strength, peace, love for both.

And we keep the light on so others who have been away can find their way back and we hope they do.

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What a year.

Shoulder still hurts, after nearly a year. Otherwise, good health.

Will I ever see my children again? Scattered in different parts of the globe.

Friends: people are dying. One of mine is in palliative care in a hospital I heard yesterday. She only telephoned me 2 weeks ago. I doubt I will be able to visit her, due to health restrictions.

Bitter sweet, isn’t it?

Hope you are all bearing up. :)
Prayers up for you and yours, Mindful.
 

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Another mostly sleepless night, about three hours of broken sleep. The good news is an aide came by, bathed her and changed the bed then a volunteer showed up for two and a half hours, I was able to take a shower and nap before the nurse and the doc showed up. When I told the doc about the wife's restlessness and confusion she told me next time to call because her restlessness means to them that they aren't doing their job. So if it happens again tonight I'll call but they upped her morphine and anti-anxiety meds which I gave the wife when they we still here and she's sleeping like a baby. I'm also waiting on a hospital bed to help make the wife more comfortable with the ability to raise her head up without twenty pillows. They also delivered a small wheelchair so that helps also.
Do you or she have any family you can call on for some help?
No. Her family is back east and her youngest brother is the only one she has any contact with, he's in New York State and can't make it which he's not happy about. The only brother I have that's relatively close she hates, the feeling is basically mutual there with him.
Prayers being sent your way, Ringel. The last few days are indescribable, and those of us who've been through it send up prayers up for your strength for all.
 

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I just woke up, the ER doc called me just after 1AM, The wife seemed to be deteriorating and I should come in. They were going to put her in the ICU but she decided to go home. I didn't get to bed until 4AM.
Apparently the small mass in her lung is now a very large mass which was hiding the pneumonia behind it, the problem is there's nothing they can do other than what hospice is doing and that's making her as comfortable as possible.
My prayer now is that the Lord takes her quickly with the least amount of suffering and that He takes her unto his bosom as a saved child in Christ with the gift of eternal life. It's now a matter of days.
Oh my Ringel. There are no words. I wish there was someone you could have stay with you so you could get some rest.

When my Uncle Ed was dying at home, he had his wife and his niece there when he needed round the clock watching and they could trade off. Both retired RN's. I don't know what Hombre & I will do if one of us is passing and the other has to deal with it.
Hospice has set it up so a nurses aide will be here twice a week and yes, I could use a nap right now. She's asleep but if she wakes up and tries to walk she's going to fall. She did that this morning and has a big knot on her forehead and an abrasion/bruise under her left eye. Both knees are badly bruised and a bruise on her back,I have to watch her constantly. If someone didn't know what was going on I'd probably be accused of spousal abuse. The lack of sleep is not that big of a deal, did that for almost 5 1/2 years for a job, I can do it for her if I have to.
Her hospice nurse was here today and the spiritual coordinator came by and we talked for a while. That was more helpful than I thought it would be. The wife and I were both raised Catholic so I'm having a priest come by tomorrow basically for last rites, she's good with that.
She was up for a while watching her "soap opera", the news and wasn't doing too but also not that great. The last few times she's used the TV remote she's hit some button on it and I don't know which so I have to turn it off then back on again to get it back to normal.
As for what you or hombre would have to do hospice is great at providing some help so that's a relief. Also I talked with our patient coordinator, Amy at the UNM Cancer Center, she runs the assistance center which helps with food, etc and can get us at least $300 but trying to get us $500 to help cover the cost of cremation. Cremation runs around a grand. I have to find an urn, Amy recommended any pottery we might have in the house or buy a cheap one at Hobby Lobby as the funeral homes charge big bucks for theirs. As for burial she will be buried with me at the VA Cemetery.
So sorry Ringel :smiliehug:
 

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Hi Mortimer. Haven't seen you around here much. I'm posting from a new gadget and haven't learned to post pictures so I'll have to ask you to imagine a sturdy cuppa Joe with a plate of good food and dessert cookies on the side and being surrounded by friends saying "welcome!" :thup:
 

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