Yet you are so great at imagining what people of faith are living. Try living in/with reality sometime.
That happens a lot for those who ask who they imagine God to be, and further imagine what his purposes should be. Your imagined God did not live up to your imagined purposes for the imagined God. Could that be the root of the problem? You imagined what God should be and imagined his purpose--and concluded everyone else was imagining God as well.
Joe, when I was a small child, my mom wasn't dying of cancer so my approach to God was entirely different. I could not imagine who God was, or even what he was doing. I have always had an excellent imagination and have always understood the difference between imagination and reality. I wanted to know the reality of God. That was the road I traveled, one that took up all my childhood. But I learned, even experienced.
My advice: Give up imagining God, as he is well beyond imagining. I get why you imagine God should cure a little boy's mom of cancer. I even get that imagining God does not exist as being the easier path to travel. Try to understand that those who opt to pursue the reality of God are far from groveling. In fact, we are more "science-minded" than you may even believe yourself to be.
I could show you some of my quilting, but I wouldn't want to. I have a wall-hanging that is especially meaningful to me, but you would turn it over and show me all its faults and repairs. Yes, it is well-known the Church, too, has its underside. However, taking time to look at its topside can bring blessings, even awe, as well.