Mankeeping

[braalian]

I could see it.

Care to elaborate?

 

[initforme]

I think it's more the feminists.

Could you explain that in more detail?

 

[Correll]

Seems like you want to scapegoat the left.

That's your spin on it. Certainly I hold the left responsible for major portions of the problem. But you make a valid complaint against the right, and I will agree immediately.

Maybe, but unlikely. Gay and bisexual people actually have a pretty robust community. If they were the problem, then we wouldn't see the effects so widespread throughout society.

They could be fine internally and still ******* up the overall dating scene.

We can see signs of the problem way before anyone would be sexually active. Kids don't hang out with other kids nearly as much as they used to.

I'm quite sure the bulk, if not the entirety of the problem stems from technology and overprotective parents.

IMO, feminism has been filling the heads of girls with nonsense, and the heads of boys with despair for decades.

 

[initforme]

That's your spin on it. Certainly I hold the left responsible for major portions of the problem. But you make a valid complaint against the right, and I will agree immediately.




They could be fine internally and still ******* up the overall dating scene.




IMO, feminism has been filling the heads of girls with nonsense, and the heads of boys with despair for decades.

What nonsense are you speaking of?

 

[Marener]

Do you mean where could they drive to? What kind of a question is that? To school, to work, to their buddies houses, to a party, to the beach?

I was poor, but even us poor kids could drive up and down the main drag thinking we were badasses.

The kinds of stuff kids are supposed to want to do around 16

Gas is expensive. Joyriding all night is expensive not to mention that the cops are likely to ding you for it.

We've eliminated any interesting places for kids to go. The adults chased them out.

 

[Correll]

Care to elaborate?

My daughter is a teen. Many of her peers, are really...just fucked in the head with this...identity nonsense.


A significant portion of the potential dating pool, are basket cases, who don't know what they want, so approaching them would be a ******* nightmare.

 

[iamwhatiseem]

Gas is expensive. Joyriding all night is expensive not to mention that the cops are likely to ding you for it.

We've eliminated any interesting places for kids to go. The adults chased them out.

LOL - yeah no. Kids staying at home with their faces in screens instead of going out put them all out of business.

 

[Correll]

Could you explain that in more detail?

Yes, very much.


Feminists have created a narrative of sexual relations that is false and told it to the young.

So the young are trying to operate ina world, where the rules they were told, make no sense.

 

[Marener]

That's your spin on it. Certainly I hold the left responsible for major portions of the problem. But you make a valid complaint against the right, and I will agree immediately.

I don't think it's political. It's far too widespread for this to be just one party. Overprotective parenting and overuse of technology crosses party lines.

They could be fine internally and still ******* up the overall dating scene.

This is just more scapegoating.

IMO, feminism has been filling the heads of girls with nonsense, and the heads of boys with despair for decades.

More scapegoating. There's nothing inherently wrong with feminism and was badly needed. You probably have a point about neglect for boys. The attention given to boys pushes an idealization of masculinity that is equally problematic. They push men into ideals that they have to be the provider and protector in a society that doesn't favor male labor and doesn't need protectors. Masculinity is idealized as an rugged independence that doesn't need anyone. Doesn't have faults. Doesn't have emotions.

It's impossible for them to live up to.

 

[Marener]

LOL - yeah no. Kids staying at home with their faces in screens instead of going out put them all out of business.

Overprotective parents won't let them out of the house because they're afraid of what might happen.

 

[martybegan]

I think it's more the feminists.

All part of the same problem. It's not all feminists, it's the ones that have gone beyond "women should have the same opportunities men have" and went on to "all women should want to live like men live"

 

[iamwhatiseem]

Overprotective parents won't let them out of the house because they're afraid of what might happen.

 

[initforme]

My kids were not permitted to date in HS or college. Not even attend a prom. It served them fine. No unwanted pregnancies.

 

[Marener]

Get to know modern parents. They don't let their kids have sleepovers because they're afraid of sexual abuse.

A parent can be arrested because they let their kid walk to the store alone.

Mom arrested after her 10-year-old son went on a walk alone

Law enforcement says the Georgia mother failed to report a missing child. The woman's lawyer says the case is absurd.

www.usatoday.com

 

[braalian]

Gas is expensive. Joyriding all night is expensive not to mention that the cops are likely to ding you for it.

We've eliminated any interesting places for kids to go. The adults chased them out.

What are you taking about? They still need to go to school and work. They can drive to a friends house. They can go to the beach. They can go to the mall. They can go to an amusement park. How have adults “chased them out” of any of these places?

And gas isn’t so expensive that people can’t drive places. Stop being dramatic.

 

[Orangecat]

One of the best things about growing old as a man is you start to look like Sean Connery. One of the worst things about growing old as a woman is you start to look like Sean Connery.

 

[BothWings]

I never went traditional formalities in "dating". When I found a nice female and it was mutual, we just gradually spent more and more time together until we were together most of the time and doing it all. I never spent time stressing about "how to ask a girl out" or get her attention or win her fancy. Maybe briefly in my late teens or early 20's. And that was usually after I had suffered an early heartbreak or breakup, and was feeling empty or desperate. Now I've been married for 17 years and if I did split with my wife, I would be in no hurry to replace her or find someone new at my age. I'd probably embrace and make use of my freedom while being there for our son and just try to remain her friend. Most women's personalities just turn me off these days anyways. I often wish they'd just leave me alone. Just last week some woman tried to flirt with me while I was buying cherries in a produce aisle. I made it clear the attention was not appreciated. It probably happens once a week or more. The woman who cut my hair the week before that also obviously had some ideas, and to be honest I kind of like her, so I was more polite about it than I was in the produce aisle. Soon after I brought my son in for a haircut at the same place and I noticed her eyeballing me but I completely ignored her and just immersed myself in reading. Ever since I liberated myself from the need to respond to flirtatious or gregarious women I've actually been a happier person. I used to attract them like flies, and they were usually Leos or Geminis. I still get it sometimes (like in the produce aisle), but somehow I've managed to break that spell over the years. I've learned to build a wall that keeps them away that they can't wile their way through anymore.

 

[Marener]

What are you taking about? They still need to go to school and work. They can drive to a friends house. They can go to the beach. They can go to the mall. They can go to an amusement park. How have adults “chased them out” of any of these places?

And gas isn’t so expensive that people can’t drive places. Stop being dramatic.

Have you been to a mall lately? They're ghost towns.

 

[braalian]

Get to know modern parents. They don't let their kids have sleepovers because they're afraid of sexual abuse.

Well then they’re just ridiculous parents and are probably passing on their paranoia to their kids

 

[initforme]

I ensured my daughter went to college to get educated. I think that was much better than her getting married at 25, broke, to a young man, basically broke and working hard. Thered she be with 2 kids probably, stuck, with no degree nothing. Was that wrong of my wife and I?