The Marriage Question

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    I just saw a search term, "My boyfriend says he doesn't believe in marriage", and it reminded me of when I was young. I don't know if we have any young people on this board, but the situation may still come up.

    If one person believes in marriage and the other doesn't, what should the couple do? My first reaction is 'break up', because you know one or the other is always going to be unhappy/feel pressured, etc.

    What would you do? And if it's nothing you can relate to, how would you advise a friend, or offspring?
     
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    You don't have to be married to be together.
     
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    Of course not.

    I'm asking about when two people fall in love, and one thinks that is a step on the path to marriage, and the other thinks like you.
     
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    I agree with your solution, BDBoop. and for the same reason. One might win the battle but lose the war???
     
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    Oh, TOTALLY lose the war. Either they won't marry and one will be miserable, or they will marry - and one will be miserable. I figure they should just say oh, hey; hi. Nevermind. This is not a good fit.

    There are plenty of fish in the sea for each of them. In my estimation, they don't belong together with their current belief systems.
     
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    there are plenty of fish in the sea. One of the most important parts of a relationship is shared values.


    there is a Korean comedy on this topic. It is really great. It is called Bad Couple.

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    She wants a sperm donor who is intelligent and good looking. He is very religious and is opposed to sex before marriage.

    Female on male rape presented as comedy
     
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    My friend has this problem. She has been with a guy for awhile and he hasn't asked her to get married which pisses her off.
    Of course he is the best guy she has ever been with, and he is a great dad to her child(the father died). She has had the worst luck with boyfriends, and personally I think she should just get over it. Be happy with what you got.
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    I don't think marriage is compatible with the society we live in anymore, if you don't believe me look at the divorce rates in this country, they are through the roof.
     
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    If it something you feel strongly about and the married or not married thing is a deal breaker....the best thing in my opinion is to end the relationship sooner rather then later. It will always be an issue and it will never change.

     
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    I think you are wrong. :)

     

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