Student Suspended For Sexual Harrassment - Wearing A Costume To Another School's Prom

[The ClayTaurus]

Here's one who likes to masterbate with a sex toy under his robes:

http://abclocal.go.com/wpvi/story?section=bizarre&id=3461941

I didn't see where he was addicted to porn, though. The guy's just a freak. Got anything else? One example doesn't really prove your "more of whom are becoming porn addicts" claim.

 

[Bonnie]

I didn't see where he was addicted to porn, though. The guy's just a freak. Got anything else? One example doesn't really prove your "more of whom are becoming porn addicts" claim.

http://www.public.iastate.edu/~jcullen/pornographyhandout.pdf

It’s time we men who use pornography got more honest and self-aware about
the role we’ve given pornography in our lives. Pornography affects our moods,
our well-being, our self-esteem, and our ability to live fully. Once we’ve
surfaced the effects pornography is having on us, we can begin to decide
whether or not we’ll allow those effects to continue to control us.
Check Yourself Out
Here are some effects that pornography use can have on men. Not every man
experiences all of them, but chances are there is at least one effect on this list
that has happened to you:
You become dissatisfied with your sexual partner’s physical
appearance or how they express themselves sexually
You become dependent on pornography in order to masturbate.
You look at people’s body parts a lot, especially the parts you look
at most in pornography.
You become attracted to people just because they remind you of
people you have only seen in pornography.
When you are having sex with someone, images or scenes you’ve
seen in pornography “get in the way”—they come into your mind
and won’t go away, even if you want them to.
You treat people the way you see people in pornography treated.
You become more hostile or more aggressive toward your sexual
partner.
You seek out more and more violent/degrading pornography in
order to get the same sexual turn-on.
You can’t feel “turned on” without pornography.
IS PORNOGRAPHY JERKING YOU AROUND?
SURGEON GENERAL’S WARNING:
Habitual use of this product may be hazardous
to your self-esteem and well-being.
Porn Defines Sexuality For Men & Women
One way pornography works is by manipulating men’s sexuality. Many men
have learned a lot from pornography about what sex is supposed to be, what
women are supposed to be, and what we’re supposed to be as men.
Pornography gives men false ideas and expectations about women’s sexual
nature—that women want men to possess and dominate them. Pornography
also encourages us to “get off” on the objectification of women, so it gives us
a false notion of our own natures as well.
Pornography As A Stimuli for Classical Conditioning
“Is it possible to stare at women’s breasts or other body parts and not be treating
them as objects? It is no secret that a great many men ‘have sex’ with these
two-dimensional ‘impersonations’ of women—that is, they use visual
pornography as masturbatory stimuli. Despite the arguments of apologists
and profiteers, these glossy pictures are not ‘sex aides’. Men do not use
pornography to help themselves ‘get into’ the relationship with their partner,
but use them instead of their partner. Some use pornography to masturbate
instead of having sex with their partner; others have sex with the ‘pornographic
impersonation’ during sex with their partner. American boys, adolescents,
and men are being taught [classically conditioned] to become sexually obsessed
with constant, intense, sexually arousing fantasies, and to make their sexual
arousal more dependent upon use of nonliving objects than on real women
with whom they are partnered” (p.113-114). 3
Cartoons That Perpetuate Rape Myths
“There’s a cartoon; it’s from Penthouse: A man and a woman are in bed. He’s
on top, fucking her. The caption reads: ‘I can’t come unless you pretend to be
unconscious.’ The joke could as well have taken any number of variations: ‘I
can’t get hard unless…I can’t fuck unless…I can’t get turned on unless…I can’t
feel anything sexual unless…’ Then fill in the blanks: ‘Unless I am possessing
you. Unless I am superior to you. Unless I am in control of you. Unless I am
humiliating you. Unless I am hurting you. Unless I have broken your
will’…autonomic nervous system surges at the thought and/or the action of
forced sex, bullying sex, violent sex, injurious sex, humiliating sex, hostile
sex, murderous sex. The kind of sex that puts the other person in their place.
The kind of sex that keeps the other person other” (p.63). 2
References:
1 Men Against Pornography. (1990). Is pornography jerking you around? In M. Kimmel (Ed.). Men
confront pornography (pp. 293-296). New York: Crown Publishers.
2 Stoltenberg, J. (1990). Pornography and freedom. In M. Kimmel (Ed.). Men confront pornography (pp.
60-71). New York: Crown Publishers.
3 Brooks, G. R. (1995). The centerfold syndrome: How men can overcome objectification and achieve intimacy
with women. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.

more at website above

Sexual Addiction
Pornography can be just as addictive as any drug, especially if a person starts using it early enough. “In my experience as a sexual therapist, any individual who regularly masturbates to pornography is at risk of becoming, in time, a sexual addict,”
writes Victor Cline, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist who has treated over 300 sex offenders or sexual addicts.34
According to Dr. Cline, repeated exposure
to pornography can lead to: addiction, where the consumer becomes “hooked” on the material; escalation, where the addict, over time, begins to desire more hard-core material to obtain a sexual high; desensitization,
where porn they once considered “repulsive” becomes normal; and acting out sexually.35
A study of 932 sex addicts conducted by Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., a nationally recognized expert on sex addiction, found that 90 percent of the men and 77 percent of the women reported porn as “significant to their addictions.” Dr. Carnes also found two common elements in the development of sex addiction: “childhood sexual abuse and frequent pornography accompanied by masturbation.”36
Sexual addiction can be harder to treat than other addictions because, unlike drugs or alcohol, the addictive substance cannot be physically removed from the addictʼs body. “Sex addiction from pornography…produces mental imagery which is permanently implanted in the mind of the user and is scaled in by brain chemistry,” writes Mary Anne Laydon, Ph. D., a psychiatrist who specializes in the treatment of sexual violence victims and perpetrators. “This is the first addictive
substance for which there is no hope...

..more here

http://www.ncfamily.org/PolicyPapers/Findings 0704-SexualDegrad.pdf

references are included.

 

[The ClayTaurus]

http://www.public.iastate.edu/~jcullen/pornographyhandout.pdf



more at website above


..more here

http://www.ncfamily.org/PolicyPapers/Findings 0704-SexualDegrad.pdf

references are included.

Good stuff Bonnie, but I wasn't trying to say that porn was or was not addictive... just that the "erototoxins" thing is garbage and someone jerking off in public doesn't necessitate (although increases the likelihood) of them being a porn addict.

 

[ScreamingEagle]

Pure democracy is mob rule. There is no moral compass there either. Acutually we are a constitutional republic with democratically elected legislator and executive. The constitution is there to safeguard against potential excesses of mob rule.

Of course. I'm using the word "democracy" as per general usage.

I didn't see where he was addicted to porn, though. The guy's just a freak. Got anything else? One example doesn't really prove your "more of whom are becoming porn addicts" claim.

If you can't connect the dots you are either blind or a nit-picking nut whose being deliberately obtuse. Where do you suppose the sex toy came from? I'm guessing at the very same place you can get all sorts of porn. The guy probably had pics right there on his desk. If that type of behavior isn't a sign of "addiction", then what is?

 

[Bonnie]

Good stuff Bonnie, but I wasn't trying to say that porn was or was not addictive... just that the "erototoxins" thing is garbage and someone jerking off in public doesn't necessitate (although increases the likelihood) of them being a porn addict.

UMM okay?? lol

Really when a young boy looks at women even sexy women and fantasizes, that's normal and expected, boys get curious from a very young age about women, and the mystery they are to men...That is healthy, the problem comes later when that innocent curiosity turns into what the doctors have described in those journal articles. Maybe, men ought to look at the real in the flesh beautiful women they have right next to them and create new fantasies just between the two of them, this way the bed isn't too crowded

 

[The ClayTaurus]

Of course. I'm using the word "democracy" as per general usage.




If you can't connect the dots you are either blind or a nit-picking nut whose being deliberately obtuse. Where do you suppose the sex toy came from? I'm guessing at the very same place you can get all sorts of porn. The guy probably had pics right there on his desk. If that type of behavior isn't a sign of "addiction", then what is?

So, you've got one example for "more of whom are becoming porn addicts"

I guess that technically makes your claim true...

 

[The ClayTaurus]

UMM okay?? lol

Really when a young boy looks at women even sexy women and fantasizes, that's normal and expected, boys get curious from a very young age about women, and the mystery they are to men...That is healthy, the problem comes later when that innocent curiosity turns into what the doctors have described in those journal articles. Maybe, men ought to look at the real in the flesh beautiful women they have right next to them and create new fantasies just between the two of them, this way the bed isn't too crowded

More, real life sexin' can't be beat. I think some of the problems that arise sexually these days are because people are too afraid to raise fantasies with their significant other, mainly because the connection isn't as strong as it should be. Some might think porn is ruining relationships, I think the quality of relationship starting off has been on the decline for years.

 

[Bonnie]

More, real life sexin' can't be beat. I think some of the problems that arise sexually these days are because people are too afraid to raise fantasies with their significant other, mainly because the connection isn't as strong as it should be. Some might think porn is ruining relationships, I think the quality of relationship starting off has been on the decline for years.

I think you may have a good point there...But if communication and honesty is the problem in having a closer relationship I doubt sticking ones nose in a porn mag will help much LOL.........

 

[insein]

I think you may have a good point there...But if communication and honesty is the problem in having a closer relationship I doubt sticking ones nose in a porn mag will help much LOL.........

Im sure it can't but then is porn the cause of the relationship failure or is it merely a product of the bad relationship?

 

[Bonnie]

Im sure it can't but then is porn the cause of the relationship failure or is it merely a product of the bad relationship?

Probably to the first part, and probably to the second part. I suppose it depends on the very individual situations of each relationship.

Now go grab your woman and your cowboy outfit and sweep her off her feet....OKAY!!