What do you think is the reason for me not being able to find a boyfriend

[Moonglow]

Never seen her posts before at all,

Still dozing I see

 

[Votto]

Most men are attracted by good looks and sexuality, so make yourself as good looking and sexually attractive as you can comfortably do. Then put yourself out there where men can see and meet you. This is the time-honored, age-old way to attract the attention of men. After that, personality, character, and compatibility come into play and looks become less important.

And make sure you are standing at a well lit street corner.

You left that part out.

 

[Woodznutz]

And make sure you are standing at a well lit street corner.

You left that part out.

High class hookers don't stand on street corners.

 

[Moonglow]

Only if you are into lots of porn.

I wouldn't do that if I were you.

Just say'in.

I am a producer and director.

 

[RetiredGySgt]

To answer:

No. In fact, I hate the outdoors and sports in general. Also not into the whole clubbing scene, either. I spend almost all of my time online. The only way to meet men in real life that I can think of, is walking around in malls and grocery stores, and hope that a guy will come up to me and say something insincere about my shoes.




Well, I thought about moving to a smaller town, where there are more of the kinds of guys I want to date. Other than that I really don't have any ideas. Seems to me like men have almost completely disappeared from the surface of earth.

In today's environment I doubt many people are willing to randomly approach any one and start a conversation with the intent to date. To dangerous

 

[MayorQuimby]

I think it does have to do with your appearance. Not all about your looks, but you are not meeting your own expectations of compatible appearances. Are the men you are interested in meeting concerned about their appearance, or do they wear T-shirts with dopey messages?

What's the difference between looks and appearance? I thought they were the same thing.

So, are you saying that I should start dressing more fashionably? I don't wear dresses or skirts at all, maybe that's why. I don't go out in T-shirts though, I just wear regular clothes that are not as casual as T-shirts but way less dressy than a dress.

If I had a picture I'd show you what I normally wear when I go out.

Yes. You need to adjust your behavior around men and get rid of the goofy girlfriends who are not doing you any good.

Haha, I don't have any "goofy girlfriends" that I need to be worrying about, although I am really not sure what I am like around men. I just know that I get really intimidated by a lot of men, and when they are also good-looking, it gets worse. I freeze up.

You should at least try to describe your personality. Do you understand you?

A very, very, very, very good question. I kind of think I do, but I am not entirely sure. I have these vague ideas of what I am probably like, how I appear to others, but the thing is, nobody has ever said anything to me directly. I just read all these things online, which I think people are saying about me (No, I am not hallucinating). But again, there is no hard proof that they are indeed talking about me. So sometimes I feel very unsure about how people perceive me, never really having received any real feedback on that ever.

Do a lot of writing. It will help you understand how you think. Research the personality description tests.

No. Your personality needs some development. You need to build confidence. Find something you are interested in and do something.

I see.

 

[MayorQuimby]

Only if you are into lots of porn.

I wouldn't do that if I were you.

Just say'in.

lol

 

[MayorQuimby]

Most men are attracted by good looks and sexuality, so make yourself as good looking and sexually attractive as you can comfortably do. Then put yourself out there where men can see and meet you. This is the time-honored, age-old way to attract the attention of men. After that, personality, character, and compatibility come into play and looks become less important.

This is good advice and also how I see it, too.

I have put myself out there like that before, and got very little response. So I don't really know whats wrong with me, maybe I need to lose more weight, or I am simply too ugly? I really don't know. I am just gonna lose a bit more weight, wear something that's a bit tighter, and go into the foray like I am in a suicide squad.

 

[EvilCat Breath]

Yes, yes; you are hot-stuff. We all know that by now.

Why do you think that is?

You have made yourself into the kind of woman men don't want to be with. Likely you don't have female friends either. I doubt you have a pet. No cats or dogs.

That's true isn't it.

 

[MayorQuimby]

You like doing the back door trick?

woah innuendo

 

[MayorQuimby]

Why do you think that is?

You have made yourself into the kind of woman men don't want to be with. Likely you don't have female friends either. I doubt you have a pet. No cats or dogs.

That's true isn't it.

Because men in your country are so desperate that now they will even approach a ***** like you?


All joking aside, ma'am, you are very abrasive and unlikable. Just being completely honest. I know you're (probably) trying to help me, but honestly, the kind of feelings that you make me feel.....they are not good feelings at all. Not at all, madam.

 

[cnm]

The only way to meet men in real life that I can think of, is walking around in malls and grocery stores

Those infamous haunts of single men...

 

[cnm]

the sport of poker

First time I've ever seen it called a sport.

 

[cnm]

I guess I like smart guys who are into the same or similar things as me, such as politics, philosophy...etc.

I suppose that could be how you think of your pointless daydreaming. I don't know many guys into that as a rule, they'd rather play pointless games.

 

[EvilCat Breath]

Because men in your country are so desperate that now they will even approach a ***** like you?


All joking aside, ma'am, you are very abrasive and unlikable. Just being completely honest. I know you're (probably) trying to help me, but honestly, the kind of feelings that you make me feel.....they are not good feelings at all. Not at all, madam.

Of course they are not good feelings. All good feelings will help you stay exactly where you are. Look at all the great advice you have gotten. Has any of it helped? No. You are still a lonely middle aged woman who daydreams. You cannot extend yourself to be interested in anyone else, not a man, a woman, you can't even take a dog for a walk. Your entire idea of meeting men is hanging out in the canned goods department of a grocery store hoping someone will notice your shoes.

You said you still live at home. With your parents? Do you have a job? Ever?

 

[MayorQuimby]

Of course they are not good feelings. All good feelings will help you stay exactly where you are. Look at all the great advice you have gotten. Has any of it helped? No. You are still a lonely middle aged woman who daydreams. You cannot extend yourself to be interested in anyone else, not a man, a woman, you can't even take a dog for a walk. Your entire idea of meeting men is hanging out in the canned goods department of a grocery store hoping someone will notice your shoes.

You said you still live at home. With your parents? Do you have a job? Ever?

Ma'am, kindly I ask you, back off. I don't enjoy talking to you. Not that you'd care. But honestly, the way you talk...I am so glad that I am not a man, otherwise I would have to chase someone like you.

 

[EvilCat Breath]

Ma'am, kindly I ask you, back off. I don't enjoy talking to you. Not that you'd care. But honestly, the way you talk...I am so glad that I am not a man, otherwise I would have to chase someone like you.

You would do yourself a favor if you pretended to be a man. Pretend to be a man. What woman would be interested in you?

If you were a man, you would be an incel and you know it.

 

[MayorQuimby]

You would do yourself a favor if you pretended to be a man. Pretend to be a man. What woman would be interested in you?

If you were a man, you would be an incel and you know it.

Lmao, I now have confirmation that you are offended.

I bet you have never had truth spoken to you like that in real life. So you can't handle it. I can tell. lol lol lol lol lol

 

[EvilCat Breath]

Lmao, I now have confirmation that you are offended.

I bet you have never had truth spoken to you like that in real life. So you can't handle it. I can tell. lol lol lol lol lol

It never crossed my mind to be offended. I'm not the one sitting around spending my time in daydreams.

 

[MayorQuimby]

It never crossed my mind to be offended. I'm not the one sitting around spending my time in daydreams.

Lmao you keep confirming to me you're butt-hurt.