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Not all who wander are lost
- Oct 21, 2014
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Is it good to approach anyone after any death with "It's God's will." Most of us have lost someone. When people are grieving, do they want to talk about the weather? Would we approach someone at such a time and say, "Great weather we're having, isn't it?" Or, maybe, "How about those Dallas Cowboys last game?" While I can't speak for everyone, after someone died, I did not want to talk about the weather, sporting events, recipes, or God. All that interested me was the deceased. Talk about your favorite memory of the deceased, and keep it short. Even an, "I loved his/her laugh" is better than changing the subject to God.Would you approach the parents with a 'It's God's will' line ?
Now, (if later--it will never be the day of and up to the funeral) the grieving approach you and ask you about why God did this, forget about God's will. Each life, each existence has purpose. What purpose did he bring to his family, friends, acquaintances. What did he bring and contribute to this life--because it's valued.
Perhaps like in our family, in the ninth month of pregnancy the baby stopped moving. It was born dead. I believe his existence had purpose. What kind of comfort can be offered? "I'll remember him. Always."
What say you?