virginity

[syrenn]

i dont think that, im not asking anything, it is just my wish that she is a virgin. no one wants used everyone wants new and it is not like im going around preying on women to bring them into bed, i had only once sex. im a shy, romantic and conservative guy. i dont think i deserve a slut because i had once sex.

That isn't what anyone has said. What we are saying - and I think it's ALL of us! - is that your attitude is very far from 'right', it is anti-woman, and that you don't 'deserve' ANY woman at all.

Think about it: you've got people of both genders, from at least 3 religions and 'none', people of quite a wide range of sexual experience, from different cultures - and ALL of them are telling you that your attitude is a major obstacle to you ever getting what you wish for!

A prudent person would by now seriously consider the possibility that they've made a mistake somewhere in their thinking......

As one who's been married for 38 years, I must inform you that even with a partner who is very laid-back and secure in himself - a considerable amount of compromise is vital.

And you have shown an extreme stubbornness, a refusal to even consider that something in your 'logic' may be lacking. That bodes extremely ill for your value as a partner - or a co-worker or any other relationship. I'd even suggest you may be more likely to have a poor driving record as well.....

Why I dont deserve any woman at all? Why is it not right? There is no right and wrong when choosing ones preferences for a mate. You know. If i have a Preference for untouched virgin then it cant be "wrong" objectively.

no one is saying your preference is wrong... you want what you want


what we are saying


is your preference is fucked in the head.

 

[syrenn]

if she wants that i would respect that, but i couldnt meet the criteria. it is like if she wants me to have blonde hair and blue eyes and be 6feet tall. should i whine that i dont meet that criteria?

Like I said double standard. You hold a woman to a different standard than you hold yourself.

yes i do. i also want her to have a vagina, but i dont have one.

are you sure?


cuz you are coming off as a total *****.

 

[syrenn]

you are just jealous because you are not a virgin and you are offended if someone values virginity in a female because you lost yours when you have been 14

not jealous at all.

its call the real world. If anything i pity you and any woman who ends up being defiled by you.

i wouldnt defile any woman, because im a nice guy and not a asshole

you do realize just being in the same room with a woman could defile her?

And i doubt seriously you would know how to have sex....so im pretty sure her hymen is safe.

 

[syrenn]

it's good that you clarified what your ideal is, but I think it's apparent to most in this thread that you don't understand love or romance at all. you seem to think it has something to do with a hymen. I hope you do find love, so you can realize it's more centered on chemistry than history. get the right school subject.

it seems that you and others dont understand the value of intimacy and sex. for you it is just soulless "in and out" game. getting a need satisfied like eating. so you wouldnt care how often, with whom and how many (maybe even at once) guys your Partner had sex. for me sex has a different value then for you. in my Imagination it something else then in yours. that is where the difference lies. you tend to rationalise too much (only a hymen get lost) but im emotional. i connect sex with something deeper, something higher. and no sex is not dirty for me, it is sacred Connection between men and women. that is why i want her to have it only with me.

is that what you get off of him?

let me tell you what i get off of him..


he understands women
he knows how to have GOOD sex
he does not hold a woman to any standard that he himself does not come up to.
he is emotionally secure
he has self confidence
he knows who he is.
he gives off the feel of being a man and not a schoolboy.
he knows the difference between fantasy and reality.




try getting some of that for yourself and you may start to grow up and be a man.

 

[Mortimer]

not jealous at all.

its call the real world. If anything i pity you and any woman who ends up being defiled by you.

i wouldnt defile any woman, because im a nice guy and not a asshole

you do realize just being in the same room with a woman could defile her?

And i doubt seriously you would know how to have sex....so im pretty sure her hymen is safe.

you are cute. i dont hate you. you are quiete lovely

 

[Mortimer]

he knows how to have GOOD sex

how important is good sex for you? would you leave a guy if he were not good in bed?

 

[syrenn]

i wouldnt defile any woman, because im a nice guy and not a asshole

you do realize just being in the same room with a woman could defile her?

And i doubt seriously you would know how to have sex....so im pretty sure her hymen is safe.

you are cute. i dont hate you. you are quiete lovely

and i dont hate you either.....


if you did not get it.....im trying to help you.

as i said in my first post to you..... grow up, get laid and ... stop being so damn insecure.

 

[syrenn]

he knows how to have GOOD sex

how important is good sex for you? would you leave a guy if he were not good in bed?

let me put it his way...... who wants BAD sex? Do you? Would you care if this fantasy woman enjoy sex or not?


yes... enjoying sex is important in a relationship. However...sex is not a relationship, but it IS part of one.

You forget the bit about non virgins....being able to teach the fumbling buffoons who are not good in bed.... to understand sex and teach them how to be better in bed.

 

[Mortimer]

you do realize just being in the same room with a woman could defile her?

And i doubt seriously you would know how to have sex....so im pretty sure her hymen is safe.

you are cute. i dont hate you. you are quiete lovely

and i dont hate you either.....


if you did not get it.....im trying to help you.

as i said in my first post to you..... grow up, get laid and ... stop being so damn insecure.

yes but why should i get laid? i want a Family, not just get laid like after a night in the bar

 

[Connery]

you are cute. i dont hate you. you are quiete lovely

and i dont hate you either.....


if you did not get it.....im trying to help you.

as i said in my first post to you..... grow up, get laid and ... stop being so damn insecure.

yes but why should i get laid? i want a Family, not just get laid like after a night in the bar

There is nothing wrong with your perspective regarding sex especially if your find someone who has similar views. However, to have such a stringent perspective does not give you reason denigrate anyone who does not share your view.

A virgin is a state of mind as much as a physical reality. To enjoy another person, their whole being, is a journey itself; there are no two people the same in this world. I believe you are cheating yourself out of a very large part of what life's journey can have for you. True acceptance of yourself will give acceptance of others as they are, not, as you think they should be.

 

[Dreamy]

Sometimes I wonder if certain posters are just having some fun with some playful leg pulling. IM, you seem to be too much of a caricature to be for real. Are you making a statement or looking for advice or a bit of each?

 

[Cecilie1200]

how important is it to you?

id like to end up with a unkissed virgin, who never had any form of sexual physical contact to a other guy

Why?

 

[Cecilie1200]

How hard is it to have sex? Please, if monkeys can do it then I'm sure he can as well and there are plenty of women out there who would do it with anyone for a few dollars here or there.

my guess.... is he will last about as long and have about as much fineness as a monkey. Ever seen them have sex?

Let's just say, never take your kids to see the monkeys at the zoo. They are the most unholiest of creatures.....unless you want the dreaded question kids will always ask 100% of the time.

What question would that be? I've taken my kids to the zoo dozens of times, and never gotten any questions I dreaded.

 

[Cecilie1200]

I had only once Sex so im almost a Virgin. I could have more often but i rejected. And I dont have any STDS

Dude, "almost a virgin" is like "almost pregnant". I hate to break it to you, since this seems to matter so much, but it's pretty much a Pass/Fail sort of test.

 

[Cecilie1200]

i think it is not that important for guys to be virgin, guys and Girls are not equal

Are girls better than guys?

Not better or worse just different. It is common sense. If a Guy says to you "I **** your sister" you will feel insulted but if a Girl says "I **** your brother" you will just laugh. Girls and Guys are different.

Actually, I would think both were crass, uneducated garbage. Don't know that I would feel INSULTED.

 

[Cecilie1200]

then i am sure you can negotiate to buy one.....

i dont want to buy a woman. i want a enlightened free human being, with her having her "own head" and who is strong. i dont like weak women. i think weak women are sluts and strong women save for marriage

Do strong men save for marriage too?

Apparently not, since he already went out and gave it away.

 

[freedombecki]

how important is it to you?

id like to end up with a unkissed virgin, who never had any form of sexual physical contact to a other guy

Good luck, InquiringMind. In order to accomplish that, you better make the acquaintance with a gynecologist who can steer you to the right woman.

They're out there. Best wishes.

 

[Cecilie1200]

you are just jealous because you are not a virgin and you are offended if someone values virginity in a female because you lost yours when you have been 14

not jealous at all.

its call the real world. If anything i pity you and any woman who ends up being defiled by you.

i wouldnt defile any woman, because im a nice guy and not a asshole

Um, you already admitted that you had sex with a woman whom, presumably, you were not married to. Was that not defiling HER, the future wife of some other man, just as some man having sex with your theoretical intended would be defilement?

 

[syrenn]

you are cute. i dont hate you. you are quiete lovely

and i dont hate you either.....


if you did not get it.....im trying to help you.

as i said in my first post to you..... grow up, get laid and ... stop being so damn insecure.

yes but why should i get laid? i want a Family, not just get laid like after a night in the bar

why.... you have to ask why?

well... other then its fun and feels good.... and who knows after a few times you may just change your mind that it is fun.


no woman likes a fumbling buffoon with no skills pawing them.

 

[Dabs]

how important is it to you?

id like to end up with a unkissed virgin, who never had any form of sexual physical contact to a other guy

How's that working out for ya??

Good Luck!