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I wish it weren't so lonely around here. When grandma is asleep, it reminds me of how lonely it's gonna get when she's gone. I don't have much family. And all my friends have moved on. It absolutely sucks.
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Oddball
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That's how I feel caring for mom...Though she's still relatively fit and not losing her cognitive edge at 84, it's only a matter of time before the eventual downward slide...Not looking forward to it.
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Saturday morning!
Porky gets his patriot on.
Let the cartoon begin!
Porky gets his patriot on.
Let the cartoon begin!
Foxfyre
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I hear you. It's pretty much a sign of the times. People are fixated on their phones or other electronic devices in lieu of real life interpersonal relationships so it's much more difficult now to make close friends to do things with than it was for the previous generation.
But one thing you can do is get involved and active and participate in activities--Sunday school, ministries, social groups, etc.--in a good church or other volunteer organization. People have to be really proactive these days or their worlds will seriously contract and their isolation will increase. I wish you every success in managing your world.
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I hear that.
My Mom has been gone for many years now but I still miss her, especially during holidays. What I'm dealing with is her youngest sister who at 97 was fantastically well and active up to about a year ago, but this last year has hit her hard with dementia that came on fairly rapidly. When it hit, we moved her out of independent living into a very good (and very expensive) assisted living facility that does memory care so they can administer her meds and see that she is taken care of.
Dementia is a cruel cruel thing that tears away everything that was important to a person and creates all manner of delusions, irrational perceptions, and other difficulties. It is brutal for family members to deal with. If I didn't have my niece, (her great niece), and her husband to help deal with it, I don't think I could manage at all.
But the odds are good that your mom won't ever have to endure that. There are many many people in their late 80s and 90s that retain pretty much all of their mental acuity. Losing it is not inevitable.
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Oddball
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The only way she leaves this home is feet first....If in-home care is needed, then that's the way it will be.
Sold my Steamboat condo and moved semi-permanently back to WI in '15 to tend to the tree ranch, as she's less and less able to handle things every year....I gladly eat the stigma of "living with mother".
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Dementia is awful. The MIL got hit with it the last two years and just went somewhere far away. She does not come back very often (maybe once a month) and then right there in front of you she goes away. My mother, who had liver cancer for a month, died mentos compos, thank heavens, in her sleep.
T K, consider volunteer work. Since you have shared a bit of yourself (a brave thing, I might add), maybe at a care facility for autistic adults. Or at a food bank. Or senior athletic games, which is always a lot of fun.
The way to fight loneliness, I think, is go to where you won't be lonely. Just my thoughts.
Foxfyre
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But accept the fact that the time may come that professional care may be necessary for your mom's well being most especially if in home care becomes unable to deal with things.
But if you can keep her at home that would be a true blessing for you and for her.
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The time before pc's was a golden olden time in my opinion.
Foxfyre
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Definitely follow your gut if you don't trust the PCP.
But seriously, IMO your grandmother should be seeing a good PCP at least twice a year. They can catch and stave off a lot of unpleasantries that can interfere with quality of life, can make a person miserable. But the goal should be quality of life.
If you can find somebody who will make in home visits that would be good. Or video appointments have also become popular.
It's tough having your responsibility in all this TK but your heart is in the right place. I will be pulling for you to find good solutions for the problems.
Foxfyre
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In a way. But I will have to say that since Hombre and I are in our more advanced years with some disability involved, our computers are a really critical component for recreation, keeping in touch with friends and family, and doing most of the business that we do. I find it much more satisfying to use my PC and 27" monitor to play games, to do banking, manage our small investment portfolio, order many things that we need personally or for the household, to keep informed, etc.The time before pc's was a golden olden time in my opinion.
The mobile phone, mobile tablets and such I think might be more of a detriment to interpersonal relationships as you don't see folks visiting and enjoying themselves as much anymore but they're focused on those hand held electronics.
Then again in today's world, I feel lost if I don't have my phone. Everybody wants to do business on that phone with texts, verifications, etc.
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Though I'm not a super religious type, this little story in my feed today provided food for thought....Hope y'all enjoy...
This is probably the best answer l've ever heard to the question, "Why did God create evil?"READ THIS...
Why did God create evil? The answer struck me to the core of my soul!
A professor at the university asked his students the following question:
- Everything that exists was created by God?
One student bravely answered:
The professor asked :
- If God created everything, then God created evil, since it exists. And according to the principle that our deeds define ourselves, then God is evil.
The student became silent after hearing such an answer. The professor was very pleased with himself. He boasted to students for proving once again that faith in God is a myth.
Another student raised his hand and said:
- Can I ask you a question, professor?"
Of course," replied the professor.A student got up and asked:
Students laughed at the young man's question.
The young man answered:
- Actually, sir, cold doesn't exist.According to the laws of physics, what we consider cold is actually the absence of heat.
A person or object can be studied on whether it has or transmits energy.
Absolute zero (-460 degreesFahrenheit) is a complete absence of heat. All matter becomes inert and unable to react at this temperature.
Cold does not exist. We created this word to describe what we feel in the absence of heat.
A student continued:
- Professor, does darkness exist?
— Of course it exists.
- You're wrong again, sir.
Darkness also does not exist. Darkness is actually the absence of light.
We can study the light but not the darkness.
We can use Newton's prism to spread white light across multiple colors and explore the different wavelengths of each color. You can't measure darkness. A simple ray of light can break into the world of darkness and and illuminate it. How can you tell how dark a certain space is? You measure how much light is presented. Isn't it so? Darkness is a term man uses to describe what happens in the absence of light.
In the end, the young man asked the professor:- Sir. does evil exist?This time it was uncertain, the professor answered:
- Of course, as I said before. We see him every day. Cruelty, numerous crimes and violence throughout the world. These examples are nothing but a manifestation of evil.
To this, the student answered:
- Evil does not exist, sir, or at least it does not exist for itself. Evil is simply the absence of God. It is like darkness and cold—a man-made word to describe the absence of God. God did not create evil. Evil is not faith or love, which exist as light and warmth. Evil is the result of the absence of Divine love in the human heart. It's the kind of cold that comes when there is no heat, or the kind of darkness that comes when there's no light.
The student's name was Albert Einstein.
This is probably the best answer l've ever heard to the question, "Why did God create evil?"READ THIS...
Why did God create evil? The answer struck me to the core of my soul!
A professor at the university asked his students the following question:
- Everything that exists was created by God?
One student bravely answered:
- Yes, created by God.
- Did God create everything? - a professor asked.
The professor asked :
- If God created everything, then God created evil, since it exists. And according to the principle that our deeds define ourselves, then God is evil.
The student became silent after hearing such an answer. The professor was very pleased with himself. He boasted to students for proving once again that faith in God is a myth.
Another student raised his hand and said:
- Can I ask you a question, professor?"
Of course," replied the professor.A student got up and asked:
- Professor, is cold a thing?
- What kind of question? Of course it exists. Have you ever been cold?
Students laughed at the young man's question.
The young man answered:
- Actually, sir, cold doesn't exist.According to the laws of physics, what we consider cold is actually the absence of heat.
A person or object can be studied on whether it has or transmits energy.
Absolute zero (-460 degreesFahrenheit) is a complete absence of heat. All matter becomes inert and unable to react at this temperature.
Cold does not exist. We created this word to describe what we feel in the absence of heat.
A student continued:
- Professor, does darkness exist?
— Of course it exists.
- You're wrong again, sir.
Darkness also does not exist. Darkness is actually the absence of light.
We can study the light but not the darkness.
We can use Newton's prism to spread white light across multiple colors and explore the different wavelengths of each color. You can't measure darkness. A simple ray of light can break into the world of darkness and and illuminate it. How can you tell how dark a certain space is? You measure how much light is presented. Isn't it so? Darkness is a term man uses to describe what happens in the absence of light.
In the end, the young man asked the professor:- Sir. does evil exist?This time it was uncertain, the professor answered:
- Of course, as I said before. We see him every day. Cruelty, numerous crimes and violence throughout the world. These examples are nothing but a manifestation of evil.
To this, the student answered:
- Evil does not exist, sir, or at least it does not exist for itself. Evil is simply the absence of God. It is like darkness and cold—a man-made word to describe the absence of God. God did not create evil. Evil is not faith or love, which exist as light and warmth. Evil is the result of the absence of Divine love in the human heart. It's the kind of cold that comes when there is no heat, or the kind of darkness that comes when there's no light.
The student's name was Albert Einstein.
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I think being a bit arrogant ignorant and un pc can be charming and very American
Twenty years ago they laughed at Bush for asking if there are any black brasilianians yes he mispelled brasilians or when biden called zelensky President putin
Twenty years ago they laughed at Bush for asking if there are any black brasilianians yes he mispelled brasilians or when biden called zelensky President putin
Foxfyre
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Einstein was amazing and brilliant in many ways he looked at our world. As an adult, he did not believe in a God that was directly involved in our our daily activities or events here on Plant Earth. But he did believe in a kind of cosmic or, for want of a better name for it, supernatural intelligence that was guiding the process. He reasoned that the symmetrical patterns and the beauty to be found throughout our world and the universe and our ability to see and appreciate it was not just due to random accident or chance, but that there was an intelligence behind it.
To have classified him as an Atheist would not be accurate.
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Saturday morning!
Hope your summer wetweat is more westful than this.
Let the cartoon begin!
Hope your summer wetweat is more westful than this.
Let the cartoon begin!
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One of the stray cats out back fell asleep on our back steps in the heat last night. Slowly slid the door open and got in a few pets before she woke up
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