Thank you for a thoughtful and interesting topic Lisa. I regret that it generated so many negative responses because it didn't deserve that.
The problem with censoring this or that word on any venue is that the hateful will just find another word to use. Or they'll make one up.
There is probably no law, no regulation, no legal provision that won't have a downside. The downside to free speech is that the immature, ugly, hateful, malicious will use speech that is hurtful. But at least when they do that, the mature, reasonable, intelligent people will see them for what they are.
Those using rhetoric that provoke or inspire the criminal or mentally unbalanced to do violence is the huge risk of free speech. But suppressing opinions is even worse and gives license to government to do violence to people who do not deserve that.
Our duty as moral people I think is to lead by example, promote decency, civility, constructive debate. We should consider the childish ugly stuff for what it is, i.e. the language of the poorly educated or those too unintelligent to formulate and actual valid argument.
I can't imagine a mentality that uses the most vile and hateful/hurtful words they can think of to address other members here at USMB. But many do that. It has become a blood sport here. Maybe some have fun doing that here because they wouldn't ever do it in real life. Some are immune to such attacks. Those that are hurt by them probably won't ever say that.
But the alternative is to take away an unalienable right of the people to express their opinions. The precise words used do not matter. Either those people are decent and constructive in their speech or they aren't.
I was giggled on a 'Christian forum' for using the term Democrat instead of Democratic. That was considered 'harassment' on that forum. Once you start censoring words, it can get that silly.
I could go for a rule that you could not call another member a 'Nazi' or some other derogatory term. That would restore an element of civility. But in reality, it would just change into "Your post is Nazi-like because. . . ." The childish and uncivil will continue to be that way no matter how much you change the rules.
One of the laws of management drilled into me long ago:
--You can't change bad people by changing the system.
--You can't change a bad system by changing the people.
So no easy solution for this particular problem. We need to change the culture and the mindset of most of the people to fix it I think. I don't want to take away rights in a futile effort to accomplish that.
And, I would not have to like to consult a word list before I made a post and I think that would add another burden to the mods in keeping the board as sane as possible.