please go get an example where helping people was horrible for mankind?
where in history did you learn that from?
OK, I'll go with the obvious on this, the topic of the discussion. Welfare in the United States is designed to keep people dependent and is therefore horrible because it locks people for generations into cycles of dependency.
The reason for that is that true "help" is when givers give voluntarily, then the receivers, churches and the organizations involved in the help are accountable to the giver or they stop giving. When government does it, they do it at the point of a gun and are not accountable to the giver but the receiver because the receivers are in larger numbers. And therefore, the giving is designed according to the selfish desires of the receiver and we end up with what we have.
I still like how you describe taking people's money by force as helping each other....
That's good as far as it goes. BUt further, there is a bureaucratic lobby for more welfare because the more cases they have, the bigger the budgets they get. So everyone has every incentive to continue and expand welfare: the recipients because it beats working, the bureaucrats because it's job security, the politicians because they look kind and compassionate with other people's money.