I am just going with the OP and running with it.
If one is going to declare it murder, they should be willing to accept all that comes with the charge of murder. But very few who use that word are willing to do so, including the OP.
People like to say there is no difference between the fetus in the womb and any other human being. Yet, when push comes to shove, most do not act like they believe that. Take the OP for instance, he desired charge for the woman choosing and paying for the abortion is a suspended sentence. He will not answer my question, but I suspect he would not think that was enough punishment for a mother that paid someone to kill her 1 year old.
Even the new law in Texas makes it totally a civil affair and not one bit criminal. It seems unlikely they would do that if they truly felt there was no difference.