Why do humans hate?

[Sky Dancer]

I hate one individual, and I've been looking at why. The reason that came is because I don't accept the individual enjoys being harmful.

I find that repulsive.

Anyone else have thoughts on this?

Obviously, hatred isn't a religious or spiritual value or practice.

An interesting question, Sky Dancer and in one day look at the responses you’ve gotten.

I dislike the word hate, and hope that I don’t do it, seeing it as a waste of time. I prefer the word “despise,” which is a word that I can get my mind around. But to use your word, I think we “hate” that which we fear. I have only one instance of this strong emotion in my entire life. If I think back on this emotional event in it’s context, it seems that the feeling came out of the inability to cope with a person who I knew was doing evil things, achieving a level of “popularity” but at the same time causing me to doubt the efficacy of what I believed was doing the right thing.

But before the situation I refer to began to develop, I only felt unfriendly and a moderate feeling of revulsion for this person, happy to have nothing to do with him. When I attempted to shut him out, by being unwilling to sell him some land he wanted and I controlled, he found a way around me and got in anyway. Although I felt reasonably the master of my environment, this person had invaded it. This "exclusiveness" had been immature on my own part.

Once in, he followed through with the sort of thing I knew he was capable of, making my life in the neighborhood I’d developed as “uncomfortable” as he could over a period of about 10 years. My only revenge had to be that of simply living “the good life”, one that earned me respect in my community for at least trying always to do the right thing. In a way he may have actually helped me.

To sum up, I think that a feeling of fear experienced on a subliminal level translates into a strong feeling of “anger”. But if that anger is not a reasonable emotion to feel, it is transmuted by the chemistry of our soul into the emotion we call hatred.

So when I hear people say that “I hate” this or “I hate” that, I discount that as being out of proportion to what could truly be described as hatred.

For many this feeling must be founded on having been “bullied” in their childhood or later on; heaven knows bullies are always around. My own experience with bullies, was that as soon as I was sure that they were fastening their attention on me, I challenged them in a physical way that left no question in their minds of what I was about to do, and lots of times I was force to follow through.

With the person in my long narrative above, there seemed to be no equivalent solution that I had found worked so well in my childhood, or even in my life in the military, so I despised him, but always treated him as just another neighbor, one who I kept my distance from, but who I would not even deign to speak disdainfully about.

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That's the most thoughtful response I've seen to this thread. Thank you.

 

[Sky Dancer]

Foul language doesn't bother me. Deliberate cruelty is another thing, the kind of person who enjoys taking the wings off flies.

The truly cruel don't think about it.

They are in the moment.

Enlightened cruelty? They are truly in the moment.

 

[catzmeow]

You stomped on her itty bitty heart--now apologize so she'll shut up and be lit up and all that rit rot.

I wonder what I've done recently to create such a shitstorm in Sky/Arthur/Jalu's heart. I mean, I didn't even realize I'd interacted recently with Sky. Why is she hating me TODAY of all days?

 

[dilloduck]

You stomped on her itty bitty heart--now apologize so she'll shut up and be lit up and all that rit rot.

I wonder what I've done recently to create such a shitstorm in Sky/Arthur/Jalu's heart. I mean, I didn't even realize I'd interacted recently with Sky. Why is she hating me TODAY of all days?

grudge

 

[Sky Dancer]

That's what you think? Who is Love Bites? Someone you know?

I know all of the bloggers on that site. Are you trying to bait me, Sky? Or, just stalk me? Should I feel flattered? Why did you pick Love Bites out of the many writers on that site? Perhaps I am Calamity or Miss Missives. Or, maybe, I'm Father Gene.

I couldn't make hide nor hair out of it. I read a post by some blogger called Love Bites. I've thought about it today. I took the questions I had about that post into into my meditation.

It was a post about hatred.

 

[007]

That's what you think? Who is Love Bites? Someone you know?

Hate is a strong emotion. I find it interesting that you are capable of hating a person from a message board. I don't think I could generate that level of emotion for someone I have never met face to face.

AaaaaAAAAaaaaahh.... NOW this thing is starting to shake out...

 

[catzmeow]

I couldn't make hide nor hair out of it. I read a post by some blogger called Love Bites. I've thought about it today. I took the questions I had about that post into into my meditation.

It was a post about hatred.

I'd like to read it. Care to link it?

 

[xsited1]

I hate one individual, and I've been looking at why. The reason that came is because I don't accept the individual enjoys being harmful.

I find that repulsive.

Anyone else have thoughts on this?

Obviously, hatred isn't a religious or spiritual value or practice.

Do you have children? Hate is not only common, but can have value if used properly.

 

[catzmeow]

grudge

That's some grudge.

 

[Sky Dancer]

I couldn't make hide nor hair out of it. I read a post by some blogger called Love Bites. I've thought about it today. I took the questions I had about that post into into my meditation.

It was a post about hatred.

I'd like to read it. Care to link it?

It's in the link of the OP that you provided.

 

[Sky Dancer]

I hate one individual, and I've been looking at why. The reason that came is because I don't accept the individual enjoys being harmful.

I find that repulsive.

Anyone else have thoughts on this?

Obviously, hatred isn't a religious or spiritual value or practice.

Do you have children? Hate is not only common, but can have value if used properly.

Hate is child like. That's what struck me about the post I read by the blogger Love Bites and hate is momentary.

At least, my hatred is momentary.

Some people make a grudge permanent.

 

[catzmeow]

A post that read "we are the bloggers you love to hate" inspired all of this?

Jeez. You need to get out more.

 

[catzmeow]

At least, my hatred is momentary.

Some people make a grudge permanent.

Yes, it's so momentary it's lasted for several months now, and you keep revisiting it, often.

Silly Jalu, you make me laugh.

 

[xsited1]

I hate one individual, and I've been looking at why. The reason that came is because I don't accept the individual enjoys being harmful.

I find that repulsive.

Anyone else have thoughts on this?

Obviously, hatred isn't a religious or spiritual value or practice.

Do you have children? Hate is not only common, but can have value if used properly.

Hate is child like. That's what struck me about the post I read by the blogger Love Bites and hate is momentary.

At least, my hatred is momentary.

Some people make a grudge permanent.

You've got that right! Kids have to be taught to be good.

I'm sure this is an overgeneralization, but I've noticed women seem to be able to hold on to hate longer than men. Hate doesn't stay with me for very long. I just get tired of it and move on.

 

[Sky Dancer]

A post that read "we are the bloggers you love to hate" inspired all of this?

Jeez. You need to get out more.

Love Bites the blogger wrote this post about how she is hated by someone and doesn't understand why. I had two thoughts. One was how clueless is this blogger that has no idea why someone hates her.

The second thought I had was is there anyone I actually hate? I was surprised there was one such person.

 

[catzmeow]

Love Bites wrote this post about how she is hated by someone and doesn't understand why.

Do you know that blogger?

It's that post that got me thinking and asking myself if there was anyone I actually hated.

I know all of the bloggers on that site. I'm quite certain that if Love Bites is hated by someone, he/she knows why.

 

[Sky Dancer]

Love Bites is you, isn't it?

 

[catzmeow]

Not I, darlin. I just do the work on the site. Make it look good, and all. And comment, occasionally. But, it's flattering to what lengths you will go to try and find me elsewhere.

 

[Sky Dancer]

Funny you would say that, considering you whore your blog site on this forum. There's a poster who is pestering me to put YOUR photo in my avatar.

You know the chubby faced one in the PJ's? I don't go to photobucket but other posters do apparently.

Nice blue bird avatar. Jalu is flattered.

 

[catzmeow]

Funny you would say that, considering you whore your blog site on this forum. There's a poster who is pestering me to put YOUR photo in my avatar.

You know the chubby faced one in the PJ's? I don't go to photobucket but other posters do apparently.

Nice blue bird avatar. Jalu is flattered.

I'm not particularly worried about my picture being posted online. Or, by your stalking activities. Or, by your threats of outing me.

The thing about going through my photo bucket is that I have done web designs for several bloggers and a couple of companies. Not all of the pictures in there are of me or my family.

But, for the record, are you threatening to dig through my photobucket and reveal personal photos on here?