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Hell, his taking credit for the shooting may well have been a fine set of words to utter. He takes credit for myriad things, damn near everything going on in the U.S., much of which he has no role in making happen or not happen, yet he didn't take credit for his policies' and his presence as POTUS' role in catalyzing the MSD shooter.
Sh*t, if the person is a liberal, his doing so may actually have made her feel better, which, at the end of the day, presumably was among the key points of his reaching out to the girl. Indeed, it wouldn't really have mattered in that moment whether he was telling truth in saying such a thing for he's said all sorts of things that clearly are not true. The man's so friggin' committed to lying that the least he could do is tell a "white lie" to make a child in some small way feel better.
The thing is that Miss Fuentes says she's a fan of Trump's. That he called am injured child who remains hospitalized and who is a fan of his and couldn't muster anything that made her feel consoled is just flat-out pathetic. I mean, really. Speaking to a fan and the best can say is "I didn't feel consoled." God-al-f*cking-mighty! How obdurate must Trump be for that to be the best one of his fans could muster to describe her feelings after her interaction with him?
Anyway....
I don't think anyone can identify specific combinations of words that one, much less a POTUS, should say to sufferers of such tribulations. All one can say that if one is going to speak with such folks, one must to those individuals seem empathetic, or at least sympathetic, because no matter how "blessed" any of us be, by the time we are 40-something or older, most of us have lost someone about whom we cared deeply. If one does to them so seem, one will have been successful in some small way, maybe a big way depending on how one handles it, consoling, comforting.
We know for sure that at 70+, Trump lost his parents and a sibling. We don't know the depth of his love for them, but one'd think it'd have been enough for him to relate empathetically to folks like the MSD victims and survivors enough that they'd have something, anything, nice to say about his remarks to them in the hours of their disconsolateness.
I doubt that anyone thinks themselves a great consoler. How can one? One cannot undo what's been done and sufferers feel what they feel. The best one can do is aid in advancing them toward thoughts of more hopeful and bountiful days ahead. That won't make them feel better about their current situation or prior events, but it may slightly help them feel better -- feel stronger,find a smidgen of optimism about the future, feel a bit closer to recovery -- about something. Alternatively, one might engage with them in reveling in the memory of of their life before the calamitous event(s); that may help them find the strength to sally forth just a bit more effectively.
Whatever one says or does, focusing one's remarks on the malefactor who caused the person's distress likely isn't going to console them. They don't give a damn about that person; they are thinking of how their life has by that person been irrevocably and deleteriously altered without their consent.
