Men...

[AVG-JOE]

And why is it that women lose interest in sex after they're married? I hear this complaint over and over from men. Are people too busy? too tired and overworked? Does sex leave the woman's mind once she is married?

People (including women) are most conservative on issues (like their man) that they know most about. --Ann Coulter

Perhaps women like the 'thrill of the hunt' too...

-Joe

 

[AVG-JOE]

So if we women know the formula for men, why are there so many problems in relationships? Heck, they don't even care if you don't get them a gift for every darn holiday, birthday, or anniversary...

This is SOOOOOOOOO NOT the case with Matt....he is the biggest child when it comes to Christmas, and birthdays....gees, we have birthday MONTHS, because one day of celebration is not enough! I kid you not, I get a whole month of whatever I want!!! Back rubs, foot rubs, whatever I request, and he gets the same for his birthday month....and I wasn't even the one who created our "birthday month", he did....

Though anniversaries he expects nothing from me, not even a card, but he goes crazy with buying me things...i usually get to pick a vacation spot to go away to and always get the most romantic card!

And yes, i still get the usual but varied sexual request as his answer of what he wants for his birthday or Christmas or whatever, but truly, he's still a kid, and wants the gadget toys too!

Maybe it is because we were never able to have children together that he has stayed such a kid....near decades later?

Care

Every couple should have a few 'toys and gadgets' that they play with on birthdays!

-Joe

 

[xotoxi]

The way to a mans heart hangs just below his stomach

Are you referring to belly roll that spills over the belt buckle?

 

[PoliticalChic]

And why is it that women lose interest in sex after they're married? I hear this complaint over and over from men. Are people too busy? too tired and overworked? Does sex leave the woman's mind once she is married?

Maybe the men and women become complacent? Or maybe they get to demanding?

I think a lot of people forget why they fell in love in the first place.

How many people hurt their mates feelings and then expect them to go to bed and be sexy?

Women appreciate it when the guy helps out with the domestic chores. When they don't, it's held against them in not so subtle ways. In our house things are a little reversed. Usually he's the one picking up after me...

 

[Care4all]

So if we women know the formula for men, why are there so many problems in relationships? Heck, they don't even care if you don't get them a gift for every darn holiday, birthday, or anniversary...

This is SOOOOOOOOO NOT the case with Matt....he is the biggest child when it comes to Christmas, and birthdays....gees, we have birthday MONTHS, because one day of celebration is not enough! I kid you not, I get a whole month of whatever I want!!! Back rubs, foot rubs, whatever I request, and he gets the same for his birthday month....and I wasn't even the one who created our "birthday month", he did....

Though anniversaries he expects nothing from me, not even a card, but he goes crazy with buying me things...i usually get to pick a vacation spot to go away to and always get the most romantic card!

And yes, i still get the usual but varied sexual request as his answer of what he wants for his birthday or Christmas or whatever, but truly, he's still a kid, and wants the gadget toys too!

Maybe it is because we were never able to have children together that he has stayed such a kid....near decades later?

Care

That's quite unusual. My husband would prefer it if he didn't get presents and would be perfectly happy with a card or a letter. I'm the same way. So I'm not so fun when a girlfriend wants to show off her new diamond necklace, etc.

You know what goes a long way? Mentioning how well something he did turned out. "Wow, that was great!" or "that was really nice how you handled that..." I don't think women need to be flattered as much so it didn't occur to me to do this until I saw him doing the same thing to me over and over.

Not matt, for Christmas, he is asking when i can put up the tree starting thanksgiving and if there isn't 50 presents between the two of us, under the tree by Christmas, then something's gone WRONG.... no diamond necklaces, or anything like that though, so nothing "upsetting" as that....

Like I said, he's still a kid himself...probably because he never had to grow up, without us having children of our own.

And on your last paragraph, this is SOOOO true and a good lesson to be learned!

Care

 

[xotoxi]

Heck, they don't even care if you don't get them a gift for every darn holiday, birthday, or anniversary...

It's the testosterone.

It helps us to forget unimportant events like birthdays and anniversaries, so we can focus on more important things, like when is the next meal and which teams are playing on Monday Night Football.

 

[PoliticalChic]

And why is it that women lose interest in sex after they're married? I hear this complaint over and over from men. Are people too busy? too tired and overworked? Does sex leave the woman's mind once she is married?

People (including women) are most conservative on issues (like their man) that they know most about. --Ann Coulter

Perhaps women like the 'thrill of the hunt' too...

-Joe

I'm puzzled.

 

[AVG-JOE]

The way to a mans heart hangs just below his stomach

Are you referring to belly roll that spills over the belt buckle?

Look lower, big guy. Use a mirror and pliers if you need to... you'll find it.

-Joe

 

[AVG-JOE]

And why is it that women lose interest in sex after they're married? I hear this complaint over and over from men. Are people too busy? too tired and overworked? Does sex leave the woman's mind once she is married?

Maybe the men and women become complacent? Or maybe they get to demanding?

I think a lot of people forget why they fell in love in the first place.

How many people hurt their mates feelings and then expect them to go to bed and be sexy?

Women appreciate it when the guy helps out with the domestic chores. When they don't, it's held against them in not so subtle ways. In our house things are a little reversed. Usually he's the one picking up after me...

If he picks up after you (and still has a set), you must be arm candy, good in the sack or both.

-Joe

 

[AVG-JOE]

And why is it that women lose interest in sex after they're married? I hear this complaint over and over from men. Are people too busy? too tired and overworked? Does sex leave the woman's mind once she is married?

People (including women) are most conservative on issues (like their man) that they know most about. --Ann Coulter

Perhaps women like the 'thrill of the hunt' too...

-Joe

I'm puzzled.

Is familiarity followed by complacency? Especially for activities that require a certain amount of effort and do not always yield the desired results?

-Joe

 

[xsited1]

Are they simple creatures, basically your standard Neanderthals that will be happy as long as they are fed, sexually satiated, and their egos stroked once in a while?

It's like you've known me all my life.

 

[RodISHI]

And why is it that women lose interest in sex after they're married? I hear this complaint over and over from men. Are people too busy? too tired and overworked? Does sex leave the woman's mind once she is married?

Maybe the men and women become complacent? Or maybe they get to demanding?

I think a lot of people forget why they fell in love in the first place.

How many people hurt their mates feelings and then expect them to go to bed and be sexy?

Women appreciate it when the guy helps out with the domestic chores. When they don't, it's held against them in not so subtle ways. In our house things are a little reversed. Usually he's the one picking up after me...

No doubt a man that is man enough to help around the house is definately sexy.

 

[Toro]

Are they simple creatures, basically your standard Neanderthals that will be happy as long as they are fed, sexually satiated, and their egos stroked once in a while?

Yes.

Absolutely.

 

[RodISHI]

Maybe the men and women become complacent? Or maybe they get to demanding?

I think a lot of people forget why they fell in love in the first place.

How many people hurt their mates feelings and then expect them to go to bed and be sexy?

Women appreciate it when the guy helps out with the domestic chores. When they don't, it's held against them in not so subtle ways. In our house things are a little reversed. Usually he's the one picking up after me...

If he picks up after you (and still has a set), you must be arm candy, good in the sack or both.

-Joe

I have an uncle that claims he can tell a good piece of *** by the car they drive.

 

[Abelian Sea]

Are they simple creatures, basically your standard Neanderthals that will be happy as long as they are fed, sexually satiated, and their egos stroked once in a while?

Yeah, pretty much.

Well, for happiness we typically need some sort of job or hobby, too. The ego needs to be based on something real, some activity that's productive and/or awesome. We're too simple-minded for it to rest on empty contrivances; we just can't keep up the self-deception very long without becoming essentially miserable.

 

[Iriemon]

Are they simple creatures, basically your standard Neanderthals that will be happy as long as they are fed, sexually satiated, and their egos stroked once in a while?

Good summary. Though truth be told I could probably go with the ego stroking as long as I'm fed and fucked regularly. : )

 

[dilloduck]

Are they simple creatures, basically your standard Neanderthals that will be happy as long as they are fed, sexually satiated, and their egos stroked once in a while?

Yeah, pretty much.

Well, for happiness we typically need some sort of job or hobby, too. The ego needs to be based on something real, some activity that's productive and/or awesome. We're too simple-minded for it to rest on empty contrivances; we just can't keep up the self-deception very long without becoming essentially miserable.

Yes---work and love. Freud wasn't that far off.

 

[Phoenix]

So if we women know the formula for men, why are there so many problems in relationships? Heck, they don't even care if you don't get them a gift for every darn holiday, birthday, or anniversary...

Because women tend to want to change men, rather than accepting them as they are and living with that for the rest of life. We see them as DIY projects, rather than the final product already.

 

[dilloduck]

So if we women know the formula for men, why are there so many problems in relationships? Heck, they don't even care if you don't get them a gift for every darn holiday, birthday, or anniversary...

Because women tend to want to change men, rather than accepting them as they are and living with that for the rest of life. We see them as DIY projects, rather than the final product already.

Why is that anyway ?

 

[random3434]

So if we women know the formula for men, why are there so many problems in relationships? Heck, they don't even care if you don't get them a gift for every darn holiday, birthday, or anniversary...

Because women tend to want to change men, rather than accepting them as they are and living with that for the rest of life. We see them as DIY projects, rather than the final product already.

Maybe younger women. The older you get, the more you realize that what you get is what it's going to be.

Love him or leave him, but don't try to change him!

I know what I want in a man, and if he doesn't have the qualities I'm looking for, why would I want him in the first place?