Married... and flirting on line... is it OK?

My rule of thumb...if my husband saw it would he be ok with it? Would I say it in front of him? If the answer is yes then it is ok. I personally do not use endearments to other men unless it is done in extreme sarcasm. For me it comes down to being respectful. It depends on the manner in which you said something
 
If the flirtation is intimacy you're sharing with someone other than your spouse....yeah....it's a problem.
 
... or not?

Harmless? or dangerous?

what do you PERSONALLY think? This is not a "right or wrong" answer.
Personal opinions only.... along with any reasoning ... thanks! :)


Is this about that cheating website, Ashley Madison?

Who is Ashley Madison (is that a website?) - well I guess the answer is no since I have never heard of it!

No, I just mean coming on here and playfully flirting with people - let's give an example:

You are having a discussion about something else, and you get into a 1 on 1 banter with someone of the opposite sex, and it turns into playful silly conversation and things like "Oh, you're so cute!" and smilie faces etc.... if you're MARRIED, should you even be doing that ?
 
If the flirtation is intimacy you're sharing with someone other than your spouse....yeah....it's a problem.

So, okay as long it's just occasional and non personal.
Once it starts getting deep/person, problem?
 
It's OK if I don't mind hubby seeing it. If I need to hide it, its because its wrong.

Maybe it's not wrong. Maybe hubby (or wife) is a jealous, insecure maniac that gets into a jealous rage over you looking at a Victoria's Secret Girl (or Brad Pitt) on TV.....
 
It's OK if I don't mind hubby seeing it. If I need to hide it, its because its wrong.

Maybe it's not wrong. Maybe hubby (or wife) is a jealous, insecure maniac that gets into a jealous rage over you looking at a Victoria's Secret Girl (or Brad Pitt) on TV.....
Reminds me of my 2nd wife she would get jealous if I watched anything but the history channel always accusing me of lusting....you know why I divorced the bitch? You guessed it, she was the one cheating not me.

When someone is way insecure and always accusing, good chance they are really doing it.
 
... or not?

Harmless? or dangerous?

what do you PERSONALLY think? This is not a "right or wrong" answer.
Personal opinions only.... along with any reasoning ... thanks! :)


Is this about that cheating website, Ashley Madison?

Who is Ashley Madison (is that a website?) - well I guess the answer is no since I have never heard of it!

No, I just mean coming on here and playfully flirting with people - let's give an example:

You are having a discussion about something else, and you get into a 1 on 1 banter with someone of the opposite sex, and it turns into playful silly conversation and things like "Oh, you're so cute!" and smilie faces etc.... if you're MARRIED, should you even be doing that ?







If it's on the open forum stuff like that I don't see as an issue. Take it to private messages though, and it is.
 
... or not?

Harmless? or dangerous?

what do you PERSONALLY think? This is not a "right or wrong" answer.
Personal opinions only.... along with any reasoning ... thanks! :)


Is this about that cheating website, Ashley Madison?

Who is Ashley Madison (is that a website?) - well I guess the answer is no since I have never heard of it!

No, I just mean coming on here and playfully flirting with people - let's give an example:

You are having a discussion about something else, and you get into a 1 on 1 banter with someone of the opposite sex, and it turns into playful silly conversation and things like "Oh, you're so cute!" and smilie faces etc.... if you're MARRIED, should you even be doing that ?







If it's on the open forum stuff like that I don't see as an issue. Take it to private messages though, and it is.
what is she even talking about?

All I can figure is asking to many questions , better be suited for a cheaters are us forums...
 
... or not?

Harmless? or dangerous?

what do you PERSONALLY think? This is not a "right or wrong" answer.
Personal opinions only.... along with any reasoning ... thanks! :)

It can be both. One of those involved might just be joking around but the other one involved might infer it differently. There can be confusion that leads to unwanted trouble in one or more forms.

I am not in favor of it at all because a person who might feel un-fulfilled or needy at home whether single or in a relationship, might start depending upon the attention or excitement it brings to them and put forth less effort in their current real-life relationship or into pursuing a real one, should they be single and looking.

I have had married male posters offer me their email addresses asking me to email them anytime. I knew them well enough to know they weren't flirting with me, but I never did engage. I didn't want the cyber-relationship to become personal. I didn't/don't have a need for that and could foresee the potential problems it might create, should I have had.

In the past, PM rep comments, joking around while thanking a person, could also be taken out of context should the wrong ( insecure ) person see them. That did happen once. lol

Best to treat another the way you want to be treated. I wouldn't want my man flirting ( as I define that ) with anyone on board, so I wouldn't do that to him. :thup:
 
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... or not?

Harmless? or dangerous?

what do you PERSONALLY think? This is not a "right or wrong" answer.
Personal opinions only.... along with any reasoning ... thanks! :)

It can be both. One of those involved might just be joking around but the other one involved might infer it differently. There can be confusion that leads to unwanted trouble in one or more forms.

I am not in favor of it at all because a person who might feel un-fulfilled or needy at home whether single or in a relationship, might start depending upon the attention or excitement it brings to them and put forth less effort in their current real-life relationship or into pursuing a real one, should they be single and looking.

I have had married male posters offer me their email addresses asking me to email them anytime. I knew them well enough to know they weren't flirting with me, but I never did engage. I didn't want the cyber-relationship to become personal. I didn't/don't have a need for that and could foresee the potential problems it might create, should I have had.

In the past, PM rep comments, joking around while thanking a person, could also be taken out of context should the wrong ( insecure ) person see them. That did happen once. lol

Best to treat another they way you want to be treated. I wouldn't want my man flirting ( as I define that ) with anyone on board, so I wouldn't do that to him. :thup:
sexy half naked female avatars do have certain effects on male imaginations... Just sayin :)
 
No matter what you say, if you have a sexy pic, either as an avatar or in a gallery, you are looking for attention.....
no exceptions.
 
No matter what you say, if you have a sexy pic, either as an avatar or in a gallery, you are looking for attention.....
no exceptions.

There are always exceptions. :eusa_think:
I think the female form is great, and I wish all good looking women would walk around in string bikinis every day. Well at least when they are around me, but I tend to get jealous when other guys see my girls so that only goes for other women not my wife or daughter etc.. :-|
 
No matter what you say, if you have a sexy pic, either as an avatar or in a gallery, you are looking for attention.....
no exceptions.

Several women on this board (one is gone) consistently did the sexy pic thing. The one who is gone would say things like...."I do the sexy pics for myself because I like pretty pictures." :lol:

Ah...okay. :D

Of course there is nothing wrong with it but the motivations for doing so are interesting. I think the woman who is gone used the pics to either elicit a reaction from both men or women, garner attention, or to control people in a weird way.

She wanted to be the head mean girl...the top bitch at USMB. I think she saw the sexy avatars as a way to accomplish her goal. It was very manipulative and a little bit sad imho. I think the real people behind the fake pictures are probably a lot more interesting than the image they were trying to project.
 
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No matter what you say, if you have a sexy pic, either as an avatar or in a gallery, you are looking for attention.....
no exceptions.

Several women on this board (one is gone) consistently did the sexy pic thing. The one who is gone would say things like...."I do the sexy pics for myself because I like pretty pictures." :)

Ah...okay. :D

Of course there is nothing wrong with it but the motivations for doing so are interesting. I think the woman who is gone used the pics to either elicit a reaction from both men or women, garner attention, or to control people in a weird way.

She wanted to be the head mean girl...the top bitch at USMB. I think she saw the sexy avatars as a way to accomplish her goal. It was very manipulative and a little bit sad imho. I think the real people behind the fake pictures are probably a lot more interesting than the image they were trying to project.

I think she has a very sexy nature and was just having fun with her avi's, just as I and not unlike others who post avis they like and relate to for various reasons. I knew her well and she really does have a very sexy nature. Most avatars make a statement. They are an extension of the poster. It's not like it's a big deal. If you think it is because it's an attention-grabber, one could say some people seek attention by posting many OPs? I don't get what is wrong with attention regardless of it's form. In one way or another we all benefit. from one-another because of our variety.
 
No matter what you say, if you have a sexy pic, either as an avatar or in a gallery, you are looking for attention.....
no exceptions.

Several women on this board (one is gone) consistently did the sexy pic thing. The one who is gone would say things like...."I do the sexy pics for myself because I like pretty pictures." :)

Ah...okay. :D

Of course there is nothing wrong with it but the motivations for doing so are interesting. I think the woman who is gone used the pics to either elicit a reaction from both men or women, garner attention, or to control people in a weird way.

She wanted to be the head mean girl...the top bitch at USMB. I think she saw the sexy avatars as a way to accomplish her goal. It was very manipulative and a little bit sad imho. I think the real people behind the fake pictures are probably a lot more interesting than the image they were trying to project.

I think she has a very sexy nature and was just having fun with her avi's, just as I and not unlike others who post avis they like and relate to for various reasons. I knew her well and she really does have a very sexy nature. Most avatars make a statement. They are an extension of the poster. It's not like it's a big deal. If you think it is because it's an attention-grabber, one could say some people seek attention by posting many OPs? I don't get what is wrong with attention regardless of it's form. In one way or another we all benefit. from one-another because of our variety.
Nothing wrong with it.. but nonetheless, showing off the nearly naked form of a female as an avatar is going to be seen as a flirtation by men who have over active imaginations. Now if a guy does it... it just means I like this pic. Just sayin.
 
No matter what you say, if you have a sexy pic, either as an avatar or in a gallery, you are looking for attention.....
no exceptions.

Several women on this board (one is gone) consistently did the sexy pic thing. The one who is gone would say things like...."I do the sexy pics for myself because I like pretty pictures." :)

Ah...okay. :D

Of course there is nothing wrong with it but the motivations for doing so are interesting. I think the woman who is gone used the pics to either elicit a reaction from both men or women, garner attention, or to control people in a weird way.

She wanted to be the head mean girl...the top bitch at USMB. I think she saw the sexy avatars as a way to accomplish her goal. It was very manipulative and a little bit sad imho. I think the real people behind the fake pictures are probably a lot more interesting than the image they were trying to project.

I think she has a very sexy nature and was just having fun with her avi's, just as I and not unlike others who post avis they like and relate to for various reasons. I knew her well and she really does have a very sexy nature. Most avatars make a statement. They are an extension of the poster. It's not like it's a big deal. If you think it is because it's an attention-grabber, one could say some people seek attention by posting many OPs? I don't get what is wrong with attention regardless of it's form. In one way or another we all benefit. from one-another because of our variety.
Nothing wrong with it.. but nonetheless, showing off the nearly naked form of a female as an avatar is going to be seen as a flirtation by men who have over active imaginations. Now if a guy does it... it just means I like this pic. Just sayin.

If a guy does it, I see that as sexualizing a woman. If a woman does it I see her expressing her essence. And I love her essence. We used to have quite a few expressing their essence and I never saw it as for attention.

But then "we don't see things as they are, we see them as we are."

Until a few weeks ago, I expressed my essence in my gallery, then I removed my gallery. :)
 

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