Sky Dancer
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Let's see if I get your question right. You don't think I SHOULD shove my feelings, thoughts,motivations, actions or words onto others? If someone asks my opinion, I can answer, but otherwise, I should be silent? I should hold back my honest response to a post unless directly asked to comment?
Noble of you sky.
But i am a bit confused. It is not alright to shove your sexuality onto others... but it is alright to shove feelings, thoughts, words, motivations and actions onto others?
What manner of self-expression are you ok with? Are you saying it would be best if I didn't post at all?
You may be right. From a Buddhist perspective, this is ALL "idle chat".
That's a much more ambitious practice than I intended, but I will consider it. You guys are a real riot. I've already agreed to no longer post on the topic of homosexuality or Christianity, or any of FF's posts, and I have removed my "offensive" avatars.
What's your request?
Please note that I am asking these questions because I don't know the answers. I have no idea what your point is. I don't get it.
It is more of an observation of you sky...not a question per se.
You seem to not want to shove your sexuality down others throats in terms of your old avi and because of the comments you got for it. Noble of you to change it... ( i don't think you should care what others think about your avi. If you like it use it.)
however..
You do seem to feel it is just fine to lie about what other people think, feel, say and do. You feel it is alright to assume what motivates others....and state said lies as fact.
Not so noble of you sky.
its a go figure thing sky. Its picking your vice.
Sating your opinion is one thing... but when you state other people opinions that are not true, makes you a liar.
I don't think anyone cares if you post about chirstianity or homosexuality or not, sky. So you "agreeing" to "not posting" about it is rather ....well....interesting.
My request? Well my request would be you take heed of your own words. You do it all the time to just about everyone you post with.
The idea that you know me, and my opinion, better than I know it myself, is a putdown. To say someone doesn't know their own mind is degrading. That may not have been your intention, but there you have it.
When I state an opinion, that's all it is, an opinion. When I ask questions and the person declines to answer, that leaves me to "guess" or infer what they mean, and I sometimes get it wrong. I've seen you interpret a question as a lie.
Some people care about what I post about Christianity and they don't like it. It makes them hurt and angry.
I've decided on my own, that if I can't say something pleasing about Christianity, then I won't comment on it at all. I'm choosing to avoid the topic of gay civil rights issues.
You are quite fond of interpreting my posts, but I hear you, that you don't want me to interpret yours. You've stated a number of things you've thought about me that aren't true in my experience. I am remembering you TELLING me what my motivation was for starting a particular thread, and it took me many, many PM's to straighten you out on that and you NEVER did take me at my word.
I hear you that you don't want me to do it to you or anyone else. Nobody likes to be interpreted wrong. I am often told what my view is and it's wrong, but I don't call someone a liar for saying it, even when what they are saying isn't true. People have opinions. Often times, the opinions they hold aren't true.
Your comment about finding it "interesting" that I'm no longer posting on Christianity or homosexuality is "interesting" too. What is so "interesting" about it? What difference does it make to you what I post about or don't? I'm not doing this for you. I'm taking this on as a training for myself and a service to others.
From now on, I will take great care, to not state something that you feel isn't true about you or someone else.
Thanks for the feedback. It's great knowing I have all of you watching to see if I screw up, LOL.
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