But the problem is - abstinence works, but abstinence only programs don't. And the reason is - kids will have sex. They don't enter into unprotected sex thinking - ok, I might get her pregnant/get pregnant. There's a lot of wrong information out there about sex and pregnancy readily available. I'd rather they have a reliable responsible "Plan B" to fall back on - if you are bound and determined to have sex, then be protected and part of that Plan B is making birth control easily available.
Another thing to consider here is that you can make "birth control" as "free" and "easily available" as you want. But there will be women out there who will simply, flat out
not want it. They want to take that risk without considering the consequences (either positive or negative) in relation to it.
An unborn child is both a positive consequence and a negative one. Positive for being planned, negative for being "unplanned." However, my opinion is that if you, as a perfectly healthy young woman, take that risk and reject any medically approved method of birth control (short of abortion), then you should bear (literally) the negative consequence of your decision.
I'm a strong believer in rewards and punishments, or acts and consequences. When a woman uses birth control, it only gives her an out to keep engaging in the same sexual behavior that got her pregnant in the first place. Hence, abstinence. If married, family planning. It's not hard. I know, because I was an unplanned pregnancy, and a bastard child. I had to reconcile myself with my religious views on pre-marital sex. That's why I now encourage abstinence and self-control.
Well said, and very true. You are right in that there will always be women (and men) who opt not to utilize birth control even when freely offered. Then it's on their head. You can't force responsibility but you can help make the right choice easier. I train dogs, and it's not all just reward and punishment. There's first the teaching of something, then there is the point where they have the opportunity to make a choice.
You don't set them up to fail. You set up the situation in such a way as to make it easier to make the right choice then the wrong one. That's how they learn. They always have a choice and every choice has consequences or rewards. The problem with choices involving sex is that there are both rewards and consequences and the consequences are life changing.
When you say:
When a woman uses birth control, it only gives her an out to keep engaging in the same sexual behavior that got her pregnant in the first place.
I struggle to find agreement here, and I can't. The reason I can't is this:
a woman.
Casual sex has long been denied women because she is the one that always pays the price of pregnancy - historically. The pill changed that hugely and allowed women to indulge in what was long considered the male perogative. Women were valued for their chasteness and virtue and men for their virility. In my view, when a woman uses birth control she is not enaging in the same behavior that got her pregnant, she is altering it by taking responsibility. And that means using birth control.
This isn't to say I advocate free-wheeling sex, I don't - it's up to each individual to determine for him or herself what they wish.