Why Older Men Would Rather Die Alone

[Zebra]

Similar here except I will be buried instead of cremated. The funeral is paid for, headstone in place.......No service of any kind.

I'll be buried here.

See all those little headstones....That was from a whole family that died during the 1918 Influenza outbreak.

headstones can talk

 

[Captain Caveman]

Know why divorces are expensive? Theyre worth it.

I asked the wife, "What would you like for Christmas?"

She said, "A divorce"

I replied, "I wasn't planning on spending that much"

 

[Hafar1014]

My buddy who is also in his 50's and single sent me this. It's so spot on



Some of the things I related to. Older guys have no interest in meeting someone, going on a few dates, in hopes that maybe she's the one. Emotional fatigue. Tired of the process and how fast the connection can be lost.

A guy who's happily married for 10 years and his wife dies is going to want to go out and find someone else because he was successful in finding a soul mate. Us older guys have seen too much failure to believe the next one could be the one.

We've seen too many times that attraction can fade quickly and without warning. Loyalty is conditional. It's not being cynical it's realistic. How quickly I can go from in love to not in love. Scar tissue. Each experience hardens us. Slow to trust. Being alone doesn't mean being lonely. Hobbies, purpose, freedom. We value ourselves. Starting over is regression. Peace is Invest in ourselves.

He said:

Love without peace is not love
Companionship without respect is not worth the effort
Peace is not negotiable.

I see a lot of guys who have to walk on eggshells around their wives. Or they say they pick and choose their arguments. This is because they don't want to be alone. You have to compromise to live with someone else. Us single guys haven't met anyone who made us want to take them into our homes and have to listen to them nagging.

The quality of social attachments is measure of mental health.

 

[sealybobo]

I'm sorry to say, but the fact that you feel comfortable spewing this stuff means that IRL you give off a certain vibe which will only attract a certain kind of woman. The kind who make OF but don't want to go on a date with you.

Also, you completely copy and pasted the last paragraph, yes?

Of course I could only attract a broken girl with daddy issues.

Let me go see if I cut and pasted what I wrote.

 

[sealybobo]

I'm sorry to say, but the fact that you feel comfortable spewing this stuff means that IRL you give off a certain vibe which will only attract a certain kind of woman. The kind who make OF but don't want to go on a date with you.

Also, you completely copy and pasted the last paragraph, yes?

Yes AI helped me with that last part.

Yes I would think and expect a young girl would go EWWW if I flirted with them in anything other than a harmless way. Like my uncle is 95 and flirts. Girls think it's cute.

I thought about you last night. This topic. What do you think about all the young college girls doing that kind of stuff on the internet for money? And a lot of them go farther than that. They hook up with guys if the price is right. But it has to be right. Don't blame us older rich guys. Of course we are willing to pay. Why don't you blame the young ladies willing to do that? It's a double standard.

What percentage of her sorority sisters do you think are on Onlyfans?

Lastly. Of course they "EW" the guy in front of mom. You think they act that way when mom's not around? Come on. Be real.

My Niece would EW an old guy and it would be sincere. Yes I do understand there are a lot of sweet young girls who would never dream of being a Melania Trump. I stay away from them.

Like my neighbors kid. She gave me no opportunity to flirt. But she would never end our conversations when she'd walk the dog we'd run into each other with the dogs. I would always have to end the conversation. Any more conversation and I'd start asking her if she had a boyfriend and shit like that. I always cut it off before it got to that. But not because I'm a good guy. She seemed into me. I think could have got her. Divorced family so daddy issues. And a bit chubby. She also has a Maren Morris head. I tried to set my chubby nephew up with her he said she wasn't hot. So maybe she's not cute to guys her age. She is to me. I would take good care of her. IF she can't find a good guy her age. Then when she's 50 and I'm gone, she'll have a retirement. Sounds like a good deal to me. Not as good as Melania but still pretty good.

Her condo faces the parking lot where I park my truck. I notice she's on her deck when I pull in, suddenly she's downstairs with the dog, running into me. I could tell it was on purpose. If it weren't for her ******* mother! LOL. Her mom probably thinks just like you, damn it. I know if it was my kid I would.

But she's an adult. Maybe we should raise the age of consent or pass a law you can't date anyone that much younger than you. But then Trump and Melania would have to divorce. Technically I'm not a dirty old man.

One other story. All the lions at the zoo were not ******* because they were all related. Lion's know not to **** cousins. So they brought in this really old male lion and he impregnated all the young lioness'. It's not EWWW it's nature. They came on to him. They could have fucked their cousins but that was more EWWWy.

 

[SweetSue92]

Yes AI helped me with that last part.

Yes I would think and expect a young girl would go EWWW if I flirted with them in anything other than a harmless way. Like my uncle is 95 and flirts. Girls think it's cute.

I thought about you last night. This topic. What do you think about all the young college girls doing that kind of stuff on the internet for money? And a lot of them go farther than that. They hook up with guys if the price is right. But it has to be right. Don't blame us older rich guys. Of course we are willing to pay. Why don't you blame the young ladies willing to do that? It's a double standard.

What percentage of her sorority sisters do you think are on Onlyfans?

Lastly. Of course they "EW" the guy in front of mom. You think they act that way when mom's not around? Come on. Be real.

My Niece would EW an old guy and it would be sincere. Yes I do understand there are a lot of sweet young girls who would never dream of being a Melania Trump. I stay away from them.

Like my neighbors kid. She gave me no opportunity to flirt. But she would never end our conversations when she'd walk the dog we'd run into each other with the dogs. I would always have to end the conversation. Any more conversation and I'd start asking her if she had a boyfriend and shit like that. I always cut it off before it got to that. But not because I'm a good guy. She seemed into me. I think could have got her. Divorced family so daddy issues. And a bit chubby. She also has a Maren Morris head. I tried to set my chubby nephew up with her he said she wasn't hot. So maybe she's not cute to guys her age. She is to me. I would take good care of her. IF she can't find a good guy her age. Then when she's 50 and I'm gone, she'll have a retirement. Sounds like a good deal to me. Not as good as Melania but still pretty good.

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Her condo faces the parking lot where I park my truck. I notice she's on her deck when I pull in, suddenly she's downstairs with the dog, running into me. I could tell it was on purpose. If it weren't for her ******* mother! LOL. Her mom probably thinks just like you, damn it. I know if it was my kid I would.

But she's an adult. Maybe we should raise the age of consent or pass a law you can't date anyone that much younger than you. But then Trump and Melania would have to divorce. Technically I'm not a dirty old man.

One other story. All the lions at the zoo were not ******* because they were all related. Lion's know not to **** cousins. So they brought in this really old male lion and he impregnated all the young lioness'. It's not EWWW it's nature. They came on to him. They could have fucked their cousins but that was more EWWWy.

This is a rambling mess, but I don't think OF is good for anyone. But it's really pervy of you to be honest to think all girls, or any girls, deserve to be catcalled because SOME are on OF. That's like me saying all men deserve to be mistreated by women bc some men are dogs. You hate that, right?

Secondly, my daughter was not with me. She told me the story later. And yes, the only women her age that would be into you, deep into middle age, are gold diggers for the most part. No 22 yo woman REALLY wants to be with a 55 yo man except for the $$$. Don't fool yourself otherwise.

 

[sealybobo]

This is a rambling mess, but I don't think OF is good for anyone. But it's really pervy of you to be honest to think all girls, or any girls, deserve to be catcalled because SOME are on OF. That's like me saying all men deserve to be mistreated by women bc some men are dogs. You hate that, right?

Secondly, my daughter was not with me. She told me the story later. And yes, the only women her age that would be into you, deep into middle age, are gold diggers for the most part. No 22 yo woman REALLY wants to be with a 55 yo man except for the $$$. Don't fool yourself otherwise.

So we agree no way Melania ever loved Trump right?

 

[Concerned American]

We're not 19 with raging hormones anymore.

We have no time for filghty, neurotic, excessively emotional drama queens in our lives.

The saying goes "life's too short"...Well, it's even shorter now, and there's no room to waste mental and emotional bandwidth on with women who don't have their shit together.

There, I said it.

After 50 years with the same woman, I hesitate to share this, LOL, but here goes.
Do you know why men tend to die before their wives?

Wait for it.

Because they want to.

 

[sealybobo]

After 50 years with the same woman, I hesitate to share this, LOL, but here goes.
Do you know why men tend to die before their wives?

Wait for it.

Because they want to.

I have this divorced neighbor shows up drunk at my house 2am on nye. Normally you think that'd be a good thing right? I'm getting laid right? WRONG. She shows up bitchy, rude, argumentative, unreasonable, slurring her words. Basically a bad drunk. Not the first time I've seen her show up home after the bar like that. Anyways, I see why her husband divorced her. The time you're supposed to be getting laid, you're getting in a fight with your drunk wife. He's probably soooo glad he got rid of her.

 

[SweetSue92]

So we agree no way Melania ever loved Trump right?

Are you holding him up as a standard? Are you thinking that, because I voted for him, I must think he is good and moral in all parts of his life?

That's how liberals think, like you. We don't. Because we don't idolize politicians, nor allow them to drive us literally crazy like you all do.

 

[ThunderKiss1965]

My buddy who is also in his 50's and single sent me this. It's so spot on



Some of the things I related to. Older guys have no interest in meeting someone, going on a few dates, in hopes that maybe she's the one. Emotional fatigue. Tired of the process and how fast the connection can be lost.

A guy who's happily married for 10 years and his wife dies is going to want to go out and find someone else because he was successful in finding a soul mate. Us older guys have seen too much failure to believe the next one could be the one.

We've seen too many times that attraction can fade quickly and without warning. Loyalty is conditional. It's not being cynical it's realistic. How quickly I can go from in love to not in love. Scar tissue. Each experience hardens us. Slow to trust. Being alone doesn't mean being lonely. Hobbies, purpose, freedom. We value ourselves. Starting over is regression. Peace is Invest in ourselves.

He said:

Love without peace is not love
Companionship without respect is not worth the effort
Peace is not negotiable.

I see a lot of guys who have to walk on eggshells around their wives. Or they say they pick and choose their arguments. This is because they don't want to be alone. You have to compromise to live with someone else. Us single guys haven't met anyone who made us want to take them into our homes and have to listen to them nagging.

Around 70% of divorces are instigated by the wife. Both of mine end that way. I worked hard, payed bills and would not argue over stupid shit. Somehow that equaled me being cold or uninterested. I would rather set my ass on fire than to go through that crap again.

I haven't dated in over 10 years and don't plan on ever doing it again. I will dies alone. I'm not overly happy but I refuse to be miserable trying to make others happy.

 

[rightwinger]

If my wife passes before me I'd have no interest at all in taking on another woman's baggage.

I am the same way

It would mean starting all over, developing a new relationship, her kids who don’t like you, grandkids you think are brats, assuming her financial issues

 

[SweetSue92]

Two things occurred to me as I read through this thread:

1) Sealybooboo is a HORRIBLE person.

2) What is meant by “dying alone”? Does it mean not having someone to care for you and visit you during the final few years, months, and weeks? Or does it mean the very moment of death, even if that person was blessed with a loving family and friends for months and weeks as the drying process unfolded, but for whatever reason was alone in the room when he drew his last breath?

Yeah, this creep thinks it's okay to catcall women half his age because SOME young women are on OF

Seriously, I'm sure the vibes he gives to decent women are something else

 

[multivita-man]

Dying alone is.just sad. Dont be like your friend.

We all die alone.

It's a matter of whether there are people who give a shit when and after you die, which doesn't really matter to someone who's dead.

 

[sealybobo]

Are you holding him up as a standard? Are you thinking that, because I voted for him, I must think he is good and moral in all parts of his life?

That's how liberals think, like you. We don't. Because we don't idolize politicians, nor allow them to drive us literally crazy like you all do.

If you are willing to vote for a man who does all these things to lead us, yes you must give me a pass piggy. And you must know your place as a woman. You clearly don't. You have too many opinions are argue back too much. You need to smile more.

**** you. I'm a perv for flirting on younger women and you vote for a ******* pedo. Wow that ******* takes the cake.

 

[BothWings]

I seriously doubt I'd be very excited about finding someone else if I lost my wife for whatever reason or cause. I really just don't want to be bothered with the courtship process anymore. I really don't like most people and simply don't want to be around them. This goes for male friends as well. In some ways I miss the pandemic, even though I know it was really a "PLANdemic". It kept people the fk away from me and I thought that was awesome.

 

[sealybobo]

I seriously doubt I'd be very excited about finding someone else if I lost my wife for whatever reason or cause. I really just don't want to be bothered with the courtship process anymore. I really don't like most people and simply don't want to be around them. This goes for male friends as well. In some ways I miss the pandemic, even though I know it was really a "PLANdemic". It kept people the fk away from me and I thought that was awesome.

If there was a woman I saw I wanted to be with, why not? Never say never. Even you. You could wait the 1 year and meet some woman who's in exactly your situation and you strike up a friendship, eventually living together because you spend all your time together anyways and live happily ever after, until yet again, one of you goes. Yea, it's exhausting. At our age it's like taking in a 10 year old dog. You're going to get it's worst years and the vet bills are going to be expensive. And how many good years 2 or 3? So yea, why bother. But some guys can't be alone. My buddy and I went to lunch today and we were talking about another guy we know who CAN'T be alone. Not even for a weekend. Can't stay at home on a Friday and just watch tv by himself. I love doing that. But some people have to go hang with friends when their wife is out of town. And if they get a divorce they are living with another woman within 4 months.

 

[BothWings]

If there was a woman I saw I wanted to be with, why not? Never say never. Even you. You could wait the 1 year and meet some woman who's in exactly your situation and you strike up a friendship, eventually living together because you spend all your time together anyways and live happily ever after, until yet again, one of you goes. Yea, it's exhausting. At our age it's like taking in a 10 year old dog. You're going to get it's worst years and the vet bills are going to be expensive. And how many good years 2 or 3? So yea, why bother. But some guys can't be alone. My buddy and I went to lunch today and we were talking about another guy we know who CAN'T be alone. Not even for a weekend. Can't stay at home on a Friday and just watch tv by himself. I love doing that. But some people have to go hang with friends when their wife is out of town. And if they get a divorce they are living with another woman within 4 months.

I've been quite the loner all my life. I was raised as an only child too, although I do have a half-brother and half-sister, but we aren't close. I only met my wife after several years of deliberate celibacy after about 2 decades of consecutive monogamy with "alone" time in between I also never really enjoyed hanging with more than about 2 people at a time. I really just don't like being around people much. A cabin in the woods with a cat and a dog is more my speed.

My uncle was very similar to me, although not an only child, and actually maybe a tad more social than me. He lived in a cabin in the Vermont woods that he built himself in the mid 70's. He married and had two girls, but his wife died back in '82. He never dated again and fervently asserted he didn't want to. A few women even hung around him here and there, but he rejected all of them. I have a history of often doing the same, even to some hotties that other guys would have jumped in a heartbeat. I DON'T LIKE most women. I mean the VAST majority of them! And my uncle (who died just 2-1/2 years ago) spent 41 years like that in earnest. One could argue that initially he didn't date because he missed his wife but as the years went on it was obvious he was a true hermit at heart. I think I am too.

Interestingly, the Hindu religion describes women's lives as having 3 phases, and men's lives as having 4 phases. The 4th phase of a man's life according to the Hindu "Laws of Manu", comprises wandering, searching and exploring and going on pilgrimages. My father, although a German, was like this himself. He wandered the world for his last 15 years or so. He travelled throughout Europe, back and forth between there, America and the Caribbean. His last journey was to Istanbul and he did it all alone. I'm not sure I would go that far, but I know I do have some of that in me too.

 

[Unkotare]

Some of y'all should be on a list or something.

 

[sealybobo]

I've been quite the loner all my life. I was raised as an only child too, although I do have a half-brother and half-sister, but we aren't close. I only met my wife after several years of deliberate celibacy after about 2 decades of consecutive monogamy with "alone" time in between I also never really enjoyed hanging with more than about 2 people at a time. I really just don't like being around people much. A cabin in the woods with a cat and a dog is more my speed.

My uncle was very similar to me, although not an only child, and actually maybe a tad more social than me. He lived in a cabin in the Vermont woods that he built himself in the mid 70's. He married and had two girls, but his wife died back in '82. He never dated again and fervently asserted he didn't want to. A few women even hung around him here and there, but he rejected all of them. I have a history of often doing the same, even to some hotties that other guys would have jumped in a heartbeat. I DON'T LIKE most women. I mean the VAST majority of them! And my uncle (who died just 2-1/2 years ago) spent 41 years like that in earnest. One could argue that initially he didn't date because he missed his wife but as the years went on it was obvious he was a true hermit at heart. I think I am too.

Interestingly, the Hindu religion describes women's lives as having 3 phases, and men's lives as having 4 phases. The 4th phase of a man's life according to the Hindu "Laws of Manu", comprises wandering, searching and exploring and going on pilgrimages. My father, although a German, was like this himself. He wandered the world for his last 15 years or so. He travelled throughout Europe, back and forth between there, America and the Caribbean. His last journey was to Istanbul and he did it all alone. I'm not sure I would go that far, but I know I do have some of that in me too.

Did you watch 1923? Your story reminds me of the main character. He had no interest in finding a woman. He was traveling the world doing all kinds of exciting/dangerous things. She was about to marry some rich dork when she saw him and she CLUNG to him until eventually he fell in love with her. He didn't want the baggage at first but eventually couldn't do without her. Would travel to the ends of the world to be with her. You meet the right woman she'll change your mind.

Not a lot of good women in their 50's. Put it this way. They ain't her. And she made herself useful to him. Do women today? I think women today think the only thing they need to offer is a vagina.