Why Older Men Would Rather Die Alone

[sealybobo]

We're all social animals, we need human companionship. Have you heard that being alone is the equivalent of smoking 15 cigarettes a day?

If Loneliness Is Equivalent to Smoking 15 Cigarettes a Day, Then Imagine This … - ASA Generations

Why not combat loneliness in the same way we fought smoking?

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If you're alone, and retired, you have the freedom to do whatever you choose. Take advantage of it. Get on a plane and fly somewhere, meet other people, I travel solo all the time. So many people do these days, it's not unusual, it's very common now.

So true. My mom died and my dad won't go anywhere or do anything.

EXCEPT, he likes to go to metroparks and collect cans people leave behind. He loves making money. Brags about it ad nauseum. It's kind of pathetic and embarrassing and he thinks he's brilliant like no one else thought about it and he's making a fortune. Meanwhile his one son is a multi millionaire. He's bragging about finding $16.50 in cans then going to ALDI and taking 2 shopping carts back to make it an even $17 like he gives a ****!

But we encourage him. Why? Because he's out walking around, bending over and picking up cans, he's 82 and he's going to outlive us all.

 

[evenflow1969]

I can't help it I'm a dirty old man. I'm 55 and 5 years ago was dating a Belarussian in her 20's for about 5 years. She left me for a richer dude. I don't blame her.

Anyways, there is a beautiful woman my age in my condos and she's a divorced nurse and mother of 2. I should be thinking about her but I'm not. I'm thinking about her 22 year old daughter. Her oldest seems to have her shit together. The younger one is cute if you ask me but she might be a little slow and a little chubby. Maybe on the spectrum but only a little? A slacker. And not hot enough that she can just find a guy to take care of her. To me she's a doll but I'm 55. I'll tell you this. If I had the balls, I'd ask her mom if I could take her out. No way she'd say yes but if that girl would be into me, I'd marry her and take care of all her needs. She's not retarded. She's in college but doesn't know what she wants to do with her life. I think she'd be happy being a stay at home mom or wife. I don't want to have kids so hopefully she doesn't either. A lot of young people don't. I don't even know if she wants kids. Anyways, here is what I would offer. If we marry and never divorce, I'll be dead in about 20 years. You're 22. So at 42 you'll be free of me. Right now we get along and I can get hard ons but in about 10 years you're going to become my caregiver. But when I die, you'll be free with $1 million dollars. Should I propose this to her mom? What do you think she'll say? LOL.

I can't help it I'm a dirty old man. I'm 55 and 5 years ago was dating a Belarussian in her 20's for about 5 years. She left me for a richer dude. I don't blame her.

Anyways, there is a beautiful woman my age in my condos and she's a divorced nurse and mother of 2. I should be thinking about her but I'm not. I'm thinking about her 22 year old daughter. Her oldest seems to have her shit together. The younger one is cute if you ask me but she might be a little slow and a little chubby. Maybe on the spectrum but only a little? A slacker. And not hot enough that she can just find a guy to take care of her. To me she's a doll but I'm 55. I'll tell you this. If I had the balls, I'd ask her mom if I could take her out. No way she'd say yes but if that girl would be into me, I'd marry her and take care of all her needs. She's not retarded. She's in college but doesn't know what she wants to do with her life. I think she'd be happy being a stay at home mom or wife. I don't want to have kids so hopefully she doesn't either. A lot of young people don't. I don't even know if she wants kids. Anyways, here is what I would offer. If we marry and never divorce, I'll be dead in about 20 years. You're 22. So at 42 you'll be free of me. Right now we get along and I can get hard ons but in about 10 years you're going to become my caregiver. But when I die, you'll be free with $1 million dollars. Should I propose this to her mom? What do you think she'll say? LOL.

Well I am not in the habit of giving relationship advice but odds are mom ain't going to like it. Is mom single? If so not likely mom would like it. I have had married mothers try and push their daughter in my direction but I find this very odd. I am old , just makes me think the current guy is so awful my old ass looks good in comparison. If you have the patience to deal with another's feelings go for a relationship as long as they are legal. I no longer have that kind of patience. I do not belong in a relationship. Maybe this changes down the road but I doubt it for me. Good luck ! If ya wanna roll the dice go for it.

 

[sealybobo]

Dying alone is.just sad. Dont be like your friend.

That's you. Don't project that on to us. Did you respond to what I said earlier? Eventually you are going to be alone or your partner is. Are you going to quickly remarry if your spouse goes first to make sure you don't die alone?

Some people hate to be alone. Can't be alone. Don't want to be alone. That's not me.

You have to want to cohabitate to make it happen. I honestly can tell you I don't want to. I mentioned this cute 22 year old neighbor. I would let her move in and even pay all her expenses. Marry her and put her in my will. Seriously. No question about it. She's even smart. Liberal. We definitely get along politically. God I would love a young hot beautiful woman.

My grandfathers and all the men their age found Greek women in Greece who were 20 years younger. Give or take. Back when women in Greece wanted to escape the poverty of Greece. Or get out of their controlling parents houses. Because women in Greece in the 1960's where like women in the taliban pretty much. My brothers mother in law had to be escorted to the beach when she was a young girl. She couldn't just go to the beach in her bathing suit. So different times today.

 

[sealybobo]

Well I am not in the habit of giving relationship advice but odds are mom ain't going to like it. Is mom single? If so not likely mom would like it. I have had married mothers try and push their daughter in my direction but I find this very odd. I am old , just makes me think the current guy is so awful my old ass looks good in comparison. If you have the patience to deal with another's feelings go for a relationship as long as they are legal. I no longer have that kind of patience. I do not belong in a relationship. Maybe this changes down the road but I doubt it for me. Good luck ! If ya wanna roll the dice go for it.

I'm probably not going to do it because even though they recently moved out, mom will tell EVERYONE in my condos that I tried it and I'd be a bit embarrassed.

But they recently moved and I did friend the girl on facebook. I'm thinking about throwing some communication out there, asking if she has a boyfriend, maybe if she ever wants to go have dinner. Nothing perverted. I could say I'm being completely harmless and like you said, she's an adult.

If I didn't know the mom, I would absolutely have already tried it. But I have to be careful. Whenever I think about it a lot I go to youporn and find a video of barely legal blonde girl and jerk one off and I'm over it. You are right. I don't have the energy.

But if I could have anyone move in with me that I know, it would be her. So cute. OMG I bet she smells like flowers.

 

[sealybobo]

If my wife passes before me I'd have no interest at all in taking on another woman's baggage.

Since my dad died 9 years ago we've seen a few women become widows. They eventually are too much for the kids and they have to go to a home. I get so mad at this. My dad has 3 bedrooms and he's living alone in isolation. He needs companionship. Not sexual. He needs company. Friends. So why doesn't he ask these woman if they want to sell their homes and move in with him? He could charge them $1000 a month each room. He could make $24,000 and have two roommates and they could all look out for each other.

 

[1srelluc]

Since my dad died 9 years ago we've seen a few women become widows. They eventually are too much for the kids and they have to go to a home. I get so mad at this. My dad has 3 bedrooms and he's living alone in isolation. He needs companionship. Not sexual. He needs company. Friends. So why doesn't he ask these woman if they want to sell their homes and move in with him? He could charge them $1000 a month each room. He could make $24,000 and have two roommates and they could all look out for each other.

Tell him to get a dog if he needs a friend.

 

[Lockback]

If my wife passes before me I'd have no interest at all in taking on another woman's baggage.

Bingo.
I'm happily married but would have zero interest in finding someone else. I'm quite content to be alone most of the time anyway.
Just ask her.

 

[odanny]

Similar here except I will be buried instead of cremated. The funeral is paid for, headstone in place.......No service of any kind.

I'll be buried here.

See all those little headstones....That was from a whole family that died during the 1918 Influenza outbreak.

Flu was a real killer long before the 1918 "Spanish" flu (actually started in Kansas), there is a college in the area that was started by a rich woman whose 6 children all died before they reached 18, most of them died of the flu, so with no heirs, a college was born.

 

[sealybobo]

Tell him to get a dog if he needs a friend.

He won't. He insists he is the one person that wouldn't work on. He's an idiot. Says no to everything. So we're all like, hey, if he's happy, and doesn't want to take our advice, that's on him.

He's so upset his cable package sucks. I tell him $15 more a month he will get a lot more. But each time I tell him I'm watching something he would like to be watching he says "I'm not going to pay $15 more a month for just that". But it's not just that. There's a lot of things I see he wishes was on his TV.

They took NBA games off TNT AND on top of that his package doesn't have TNT. He says he doesn't care. But I have Fanduel and NBA TV and I see games all the time. His package btw is for people who don't have internet. He refuses. We bought him a Iphone, take it back. Tablet, take it back. Refuses to join the modern world.

So we stopped worrying about him. I tell him all the time dude, you're doing it to yourself, don't complain to me. Or "what do you want me to do about it?" Nothing he says. Okay then.

 

[evenflow1969]

I'm probably not going to do it because even though they recently moved out, mom will tell EVERYONE in my condos that I tried it and I'd be a bit embarrassed.

But they recently moved and I did friend the girl on facebook. I'm thinking about throwing some communication out there, asking if she has a boyfriend, maybe if she ever wants to go have dinner. Nothing perverted. I could say I'm being completely harmless and like you said, she's an adult.

If I didn't know the mom, I would absolutely have already tried it. But I have to be careful. Whenever I think about it a lot I go to youporn and find a video of barely legal blonde girl and jerk one off and I'm over it. You are right. I don't have the energy.

But if I could have anyone move in with me that I know, it would be her. So cute. OMG I bet she smells like flowers.

It seems like all fun and games till ya try and keep up with those youngins.

 

[sealybobo]

It seems like all fun and games till ya try and keep up with those youngins.

I have a neighbor who's a little too old and I think she's an alcoholic but one day she flirted with me and I said it's probably not smart to get involved with a neighbor unless you are REALLY sure it's gonna work out. You got to want it real bad to take that chance. I think she got the message and hasn't put that out there again to me.

But recently I heard she can't afford to go to Florida with another neighbor. I sure would love to have a relationship with her where whenever I need one, she gives me a hand job and I pay her $40. I'm not talking sex or blowjobs. I get why that's illegal and degrading. But a simple hand job? Harmless. And I would love it! She'd probably make $40 a week off me. x 50 weeks that's an extra $2000 a year for her. It's a shame that's illegal. Or would be embarrassing if it ever got out that I offered her that. Because honestly, that's all I need.

There's a massage parlor near my home that would do this but I haven't been there since before covid. And I heard they got raided. Like I said, I wish a jerk off was legal.

 

[sealybobo]

It seems like all fun and games till ya try and keep up with those youngins.

Have you seen these AI robots and how far they have come? One day old guys will have a hot android who can bathe us, drive for us, hang out with us. So realistic a lot of seniors will forget they aren't human. They won't be able to live without them. Many seniors will be able to live at home by themselves and not have to go to a high cost senior living home when they have a $20,000 AI robot. And it doesn't have to have a vagina. You can pay to have one put on yours but I would just buy some kind of pocket ***** and have her use her hand on me. And look at me and say dirty things.

 

[evenflow1969]

Have you seen these AI robots and how far they have come? One day old guys will have a hot android who can bathe us, drive for us, hang out with us. So realistic a lot of seniors will forget they aren't human. They won't be able to live without them. Many seniors will be able to live at home by themselves and not have to go to a high cost senior living home when they have a $20,000 AI robot. And it doesn't have to have a vagina. You can pay to have one put on yours but I would just buy some kind of pocket ***** and have her use her hand on me. And look at me and say dirty things.

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I have not checked into these things. I rose the white flag on all things romantic when I bought a 30 ft Sportcraft four five years ago. My boats have been a pretty good replacement. Lol.

 

[1srelluc]

He won't. He insists he is the one person that wouldn't work on. He's an idiot. Says no to everything. So we're all like, hey, if he's happy, and doesn't want to take our advice, that's on him.

He's so upset his cable package sucks. I tell him $15 more a month he will get a lot more. But each time I tell him I'm watching something he would like to be watching he says "I'm not going to pay $15 more a month for just that". But it's not just that. There's a lot of things I see he wishes was on his TV.

They took NBA games off TNT AND on top of that his package doesn't have TNT. He says he doesn't care. But I have Fanduel and NBA TV and I see games all the time. His package btw is for people who don't have internet. He refuses. We bought him a Iphone, take it back. Tablet, take it back. Refuses to join the modern world.

So we stopped worrying about him. I tell him all the time dude, you're doing it to yourself, don't complain to me. Or "what do you want me to do about it?" Nothing he says. Okay then.

Sounds like a OK guy to me. He's smart to resist your advice.

 

[Captain Caveman]

If I die a widower, I have left instructions that there will be nothing: No obituary, no funeral, no prayers...nothing. Cremate my remains and toss them into one of our lovely three rivers (Pittsburgh). They will not even make a splash. And that is how I want it.

I have that in my will, a direct cremation.

 

[Captain Caveman]

My buddy who is also in his 50's and single sent me this. It's so spot on



Some of the things I related to. Older guys have no interest in meeting someone, going on a few dates, in hopes that maybe she's the one. Emotional fatigue. Tired of the process and how fast the connection can be lost.

A guy who's happily married for 10 years and his wife dies is going to want to go out and find someone else because he was successful in finding a soul mate. Us older guys have seen too much failure to believe the next one could be the one.

We've seen too many times that attraction can fade quickly and without warning. Loyalty is conditional. It's not being cynical it's realistic. How quickly I can go from in love to not in love. Scar tissue. Each experience hardens us. Slow to trust. Being alone doesn't mean being lonely. Hobbies, purpose, freedom. We value ourselves. Starting over is regression. Peace is Invest in ourselves.

He said:

Love without peace is not love
Companionship without respect is not worth the effort
Peace is not negotiable.

I see a lot of guys who have to walk on eggshells around their wives. Or they say they pick and choose their arguments. This is because they don't want to be alone. You have to compromise to live with someone else. Us single guys haven't met anyone who made us want to take them into our homes and have to listen to them nagging.

As you get older, your view on relationships changes. They're now more of a companionship.

 

[initforme]

Know why divorces are expensive? Theyre worth it.

 

[braalian]

My buddy who is also in his 50's and single sent me this. It's so spot on



Some of the things I related to. Older guys have no interest in meeting someone, going on a few dates, in hopes that maybe she's the one. Emotional fatigue. Tired of the process and how fast the connection can be lost.

A guy who's happily married for 10 years and his wife dies is going to want to go out and find someone else because he was successful in finding a soul mate. Us older guys have seen too much failure to believe the next one could be the one.

We've seen too many times that attraction can fade quickly and without warning. Loyalty is conditional. It's not being cynical it's realistic. How quickly I can go from in love to not in love. Scar tissue. Each experience hardens us. Slow to trust. Being alone doesn't mean being lonely. Hobbies, purpose, freedom. We value ourselves. Starting over is regression. Peace is Invest in ourselves.

He said:

Love without peace is not love
Companionship without respect is not worth the effort
Peace is not negotiable.

I see a lot of guys who have to walk on eggshells around their wives. Or they say they pick and choose their arguments. This is because they don't want to be alone. You have to compromise to live with someone else. Us single guys haven't met anyone who made us want to take them into our homes and have to listen to them nagging.

Interesting topic, but that is a total shit AI-slop video.

Those AI videos should be banned from this site

 

[sealybobo]

I have not checked into these things. I rose the white flag on all things romantic when I bought a 30 ft Sportcraft four five years ago. My boats have been a pretty good replacement. Lol.

I purchased a pontoon when I was 45. It probably helped me score the 20something year old Belarusian girl. It's nice having a woman out with you on the boat. I hate going out on it by myself. My pontoon is 21 feet and can seat 10 people.

So since starting this thread, I shared this with some lady friends of mine and they say they feel the exact same way. In fact there is another video out there titled Why Older Women Would Rather Die Alone. Many of them feel the same way we do.

I think a lot and I mean A LOT of women in the past shacked up with guys for financial reasons. And men were willing, AND ABLE, to pay for them. Today us guys are not able or willing to take on baggage. She better not be in debt and she better be able to at least buy her own cloths, makeup, car, insurance and cellphone.

And a lot of women in the past stayed with a guy because what other options does she have? Guys stayed married because "it's cheaper to keep her".

I find this interesting because what is happening today with young people, is what I feel happened to me when I was in my 20's and 30's. Getting married and having kids just didn't sound like a good idea. Maybe in a perfect world where you have job security, good pay and will receive a pension when you retire sure but that's not reality today. Not for the masses who make $50K a year or less.

 

[evenflow1969]

I purchased a pontoon when I was 45. It probably helped me score the 20something year old Belarusian girl. It's nice having a woman out with you on the boat. I hate going out on it by myself. My pontoon is 21 feet and can seat 10 people.

So since starting this thread, I shared this with some lady friends of mine and they say they feel the exact same way. In fact there is another video out there titled Why Older Women Would Rather Die Alone. Many of them feel the same way we do.

I think a lot and I mean A LOT of women in the past shacked up with guys for financial reasons. And men were willing, AND ABLE, to pay for them. Today us guys are not able or willing to take on baggage. She better not be in debt and she better be able to at least buy her own cloths, makeup, car, insurance and cellphone.

And a lot of women in the past stayed with a guy because what other options does she have? Guys stayed married because "it's cheaper to keep her".

I find this interesting because what is happening today with young people, is what I feel happened to me when I was in my 20's and 30's. Getting married and having kids just didn't sound like a good idea. Maybe in a perfect world where you have job security, good pay and will receive a pension when you retire sure but that's not reality today. Not for the masses who make $50K a year or less.

No the youngins have their work cut out for them. I don't really need to work but I do work. Mainly to try and help my two kids come up with down payments for a house. Boy do those need to be a bigger sum than what I had to come up with. Once I get my kids in homes I will continue to work. I would like a better life style for myself but not really much better. I want some acreage so I can grow most my veggies. I get my meat through hunting and fishing for the most part.