Since this thread is about various thoughts on homosexuality here a few additions I'd like to add:
I have a friend, is name is Phil (really). I knew him before he came out. He was a very unhappy guy, not mean or grumpy in any way but I knew he was a list soul. Since he came out he's a changed man. Happy, successful, well liked and charming. I'm so proud of him.
I have another friend who's name is Jaime. She was the first lesbian I ever met. Wonderful woman, heartbreakingly tragic childhood. She calls me her "dad" and often confides in me. I pray for better things for her.
My wife's ex-husband Jon, is gay. She found this out after they got divorced. He's an asshole. Jaime and Phil can't stand him either.
And then there's my friend Chip. He's in the entertainment biz. He's quite talented with artwork and FX. Good all around guy, would give you the shirt off his back. He's also a very funny guy both intentionally and unintentionally.
I bring up my friends to supply a background to my statements.
1. There is a president in nature for homosexuality. In some species of animal, rabbits for example, if a community gets too large, males and females will attempt to mate with each other and this continues until the population drops. Could this be the same phenomena in humans? Might explain the population of gays in big cities.
2. Is it Nature or Nurture? i say a little of both. I believe that there is a gene or combination of genes that with the right environmental stimuli, produces homosexuality. That's the nature part of the Equasion. All four of the people I know that are homosexual had tragic or abusive childhoods. Of course Jamie has told me all about her childhood, I've learned some smattering of details from Phil and Chip as well. Jon, my wife's ex, well, I've met his parents and they are incredible assholes to him. That's Nurture.
The interesting thing about Jon is that he was adopted. He has two older siblings, one male and one female and they are both also homosexual. Tends to support the proponents of Nurture.
Lots of people have shitty childhoods and not all of them are gay, which is why I tend to believe that it's a combination of both.
I don't know any homosexuals that did not have a crappy childhood. Logically I would have to believe that there are some homosexuals that had great childhoods, but I don't know any and I know four.