I wasn't bigoted or full of hate, ABS. I was pissed off and cussed with words I don't normally use here. And I never though I could "get away with it".
Never said that you specifically were bigoted or full of hate.
However...................I do sense a bit of anger there, and if you're smart, you know where anger comes from.
Anger is a secondary emotion, which means that something had to happen beforehand to make you angry enough to use it on someone else.
If I get angry, it means that you did one of two things to me, meaning that you either (a) scared me (which means that I have to get angry enough to scare you back so that you quit scaring me) or (b) it means that you've hurt me (which means that I have to get angry enough to hurt you so that you quit hurting me).
Hate is just anger or fear that is on steroids, meaning that you've let it get such a control over you that you lash out for no reason. Anger is the same, just a level less.
But..................obviously, if you used cuss words and lashed out, it was probably because you were scared of what you would lose, or angry because of what was taken from you.
Me? I try to think of why I get angry, and all of the time it comes back to you either scared me about what I thought you would take, or were hurt because of what you did.
I rarely get angry. And even if I do, I process it through those 2 channels and it goes away.
The reason my neg reps are so nasty, is because you gave me a negative reply, and I want to make sure you don't do it again, because you made me feel hurt or put fear into my life.
And..................for the record........................there are only a couple of things that could put fear into my life. Messing with my security or those I love does a good job on both, and here on a message board, neither can occur without my consent.
for Gracie
