One additional thought. Your wife obviously thought she had a "right" to partake in the Sacrament of the Eucharist, receiving the Body, Blood, and Divinity of Jesus, even though she may not have believed in his living presence in the Eucharist. If she held this belief, did she hold the equal belief that she should ask a priest to hear her confession before receiving the Eucharist for the first time? Before receiving their first communion, Catholics receive the sacrament of confession (reconciliation and repentance) for their sins.