Singles bar

[AyeCantSeeYou]

I dated a girl from my local Grocery store for a few weeks, it didn't work and she said she was breaking up with me over something I said, I asked her what and she wouldn't tell me. Now I avoid that grocery store altogether, I am never going to date anyone from a place I frequent like the grocery store, work, favorite bar, favorite restautant etc etc because if you do and it doesn't work out, you may have to find a new barber, bar, restaurant etc etc unless you want your crazy ex cooking your wings for you.

Don't let anyone have so much control over you that you alter your life because of him/her.

I'ds just rather not see her again,I don't want to do the whole awkward "hey how are you doing" bullshit when in reality neither of us can care less.

Then just ignore her if you ever see her anywhere. Act as though you don't see her, and if she says anything to you, act as though you don't hear her. You could also tell her that you have nothing to say to her.

 

[High_Gravity]

Don't let anyone have so much control over you that you alter your life because of him/her.

I'ds just rather not see her again,I don't want to do the whole awkward "hey how are you doing" bullshit when in reality neither of us can care less.

Then just ignore her if you ever see her anywhere. Act as though you don't see her, and if she says anything to her, act as though you don't hear her. You could also tell her that you have nothing to say to her.

I've always tried to avoid awkward situations whenever possible, maybe thats why I am the way I am and things ended up this way. Anyways I am moving to Richmond next week so I won't be seeing her anymore anyways.

 

[JohnL.Burke]

I dated a girl I worked with. It ended badly and I went from having a job that I enjoyed to having a job diseased with awkward side glances, snide remarks and acidic rumors. I was much younger then so I blame my naivete and her tight pants. Horrible combination.

 

[Ava]

I dated a girl I worked with. It ended badly and I went from having a job that I enjoyed to having a job diseased with awkward side glances, snide remarks and acidic rumors. I was much younger then so I blame my naivete and her tight pants. Horrible combination.

Yes, it is a risky idea to date a co-worker....usually.

When my favorite former hubby and I hired any of the 45 employees we needed to run the business, we avoided hiring anyone we knew who was married or dating another in our efforts to stay on top of the repercussions of those romantically involved. We had to learn the hard way, as if one employee becomes mad at the owners for any reason, and quits their job, or gets fired, then you will often lose two employees.

 

[High_Gravity]

I dated a girl I worked with. It ended badly and I went from having a job that I enjoyed to having a job diseased with awkward side glances, snide remarks and acidic rumors. I was much younger then so I blame my naivete and her tight pants. Horrible combination.

Exactly! I love my job and I like to keep things drama free, that all changes automatically when you start dating someone in the work place.

 

[AyeCantSeeYou]

Drama Queens - We had a secretary at work once that was a major drama queen! Not a day went by that something 'major' happened in her life that everyone at the office had to hear about. Thing is, it was the stupidest crap you'd ever hear. She did everything she could to bring attention to herself, even when talking to someone on the phone. She'd 'fake' laugh all the time. At the time, me and another co-worker would start baaaa'ing like a billy goat when she'd laugh, just because that is what it sounded like.

 

[High_Gravity]

Good thing about being single, its cheaper. You don't have to buy a spouse gifts for birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, Valentines day etc etc I think I saved hundreds of dollars on gifts alone this year by being single.

 

[Derideo_Te]

Good thing about being single, its cheaper. You don't have to buy a spouse gifts for birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, Valentines day etc etc I think I saved hundreds of dollars on gifts alone this year by being single.

Expectations again! I lucked out in that area because of my absentmindedness. It is so bad that I managed to forget my own mother's birthday once. (Never heard the end of it either but I digress.) I don't buy my spouse presents on those occasions unless it is something really special. But I will buy her random gifts. She admired a painting at a friend's house and so I tracked down the artist (80 year old lady as it turns out) and commissioned her to do one for my wife. When it was ready I picked it up and gave it to her. I see things at a garage sale or while I am out for lunch and it doesn't matter how much or how little it costs either. It is because I was thinking of her that counts.

 

[High_Gravity]

Good thing about being single, its cheaper. You don't have to buy a spouse gifts for birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, Valentines day etc etc I think I saved hundreds of dollars on gifts alone this year by being single.

Expectations again! I lucked out in that area because of my absentmindedness. It is so bad that I managed to forget my own mother's birthday once. (Never heard the end of it either but I digress.) I don't buy my spouse presents on those occasions unless it is something really special. But I will buy her random gifts. She admired a painting at a friend's house and so I tracked down the artist (80 year old lady as it turns out) and commissioned her to do one for my wife. When it was ready I picked it up and gave it to her. I see things at a garage sale or while I am out for lunch and it doesn't matter how much or how little it costs either. It is because I was thinking of her that counts.

Alot of the younger women these days want the bling, they see the Kardashians on tv and want a wedding like her, they want her purse, he shoes etc. if you propose the engagement ring better be in the thousands at least, they want all this but have nothing to offer in substance, and get bored of you in less than a year and want to be single again. Than the cycle continues.

 

[Derideo_Te]

Good thing about being single, its cheaper. You don't have to buy a spouse gifts for birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, Valentines day etc etc I think I saved hundreds of dollars on gifts alone this year by being single.

Expectations again! I lucked out in that area because of my absentmindedness. It is so bad that I managed to forget my own mother's birthday once. (Never heard the end of it either but I digress.) I don't buy my spouse presents on those occasions unless it is something really special. But I will buy her random gifts. She admired a painting at a friend's house and so I tracked down the artist (80 year old lady as it turns out) and commissioned her to do one for my wife. When it was ready I picked it up and gave it to her. I see things at a garage sale or while I am out for lunch and it doesn't matter how much or how little it costs either. It is because I was thinking of her that counts.

Alot of the younger women these days want the bling, they see the Kardashians on tv and want a wedding like her, they want her purse, he shoes etc. if you propose the engagement ring better be in the thousands at least, they want all this but have nothing to offer in substance, and get bored of you in less than a year and want to be single again. Than the cycle continues.

If those are their expectations then you need to look elsewhere in my opinion, HG. Library volunteers, book clubs, choirs, cooking clubs even volunteers at soup kitchens are people with real values. The people I have met in places like this are not obsessed with bling and yes, they are all ages from teenagers still in school to the elderly and everything in between. What they all have in common is that they are nice, ordinary people who like to give back to their community.

 

[AyeCantSeeYou]

Alot of the younger women these days want the bling, they see the Kardashians on tv and want a wedding like her, they want her purse, he shoes etc. if you propose the engagement ring better be in the thousands at least, they want all this but have nothing to offer in substance, and get bored of you in less than a year and want to be single again. Than the cycle continues.

Gold Diggers! They want money and arm candy, nothing else. The Karatrashians are nothing to aspire to being like, unless someone wants to be nothing more than a high-priced hooker. Lots of men are the same way - they want arm candy. Any female that can think for herself and take care of herself doesn't stand a chance with most. I'm one that refuses to stoop down to be what someone else wants me to be.

 

[High_Gravity]

Alot of the younger women these days want the bling, they see the Kardashians on tv and want a wedding like her, they want her purse, he shoes etc. if you propose the engagement ring better be in the thousands at least, they want all this but have nothing to offer in substance, and get bored of you in less than a year and want to be single again. Than the cycle continues.

Gold Diggers! They want money and arm candy, nothing else. The Karatrashians are nothing to aspire to being like, unless someone wants to be nothing more than a high-priced hooker. Lots of men are the same way - they want arm candy. Any female that can think for herself and take care of herself doesn't stand a chance with most. I'm one that refuses to stoop down to be what someone else wants me to be.

I understand that naturally women want a man to protect her and care for her but the standards that alot of these women I have met these days want is insane, they want a man that looks like Vin Diesel with a fat bank roll and who drives a fancy sports car. I can't compete with any of that, its over whelming at times.

 

[AyeCantSeeYou]

Alot of the younger women these days want the bling, they see the Kardashians on tv and want a wedding like her, they want her purse, he shoes etc. if you propose the engagement ring better be in the thousands at least, they want all this but have nothing to offer in substance, and get bored of you in less than a year and want to be single again. Than the cycle continues.

Gold Diggers! They want money and arm candy, nothing else. The Karatrashians are nothing to aspire to being like, unless someone wants to be nothing more than a high-priced hooker. Lots of men are the same way - they want arm candy. Any female that can think for herself and take care of herself doesn't stand a chance with most. I'm one that refuses to stoop down to be what someone else wants me to be.

I understand that naturally women want a man to protect her and care for her but the standards that alot of these women I have met these days want is insane, they want a man that looks like Vin Diesel with a fat bank roll and who drives a fancy sports car. I can't compete with any of that, its over whelming at times.

That's because they are all fake and have no idea what they really want. What they THINK they want is what others tell them.

 

[Mad_Cabbie]

 

[Statistikhengst]

Alot of the younger women these days want the bling, they see the Kardashians on tv and want a wedding like her, they want her purse, he shoes etc. if you propose the engagement ring better be in the thousands at least, they want all this but have nothing to offer in substance, and get bored of you in less than a year and want to be single again. Than the cycle continues.

Gold Diggers! They want money and arm candy, nothing else. The Karatrashians are nothing to aspire to being like, unless someone wants to be nothing more than a high-priced hooker. Lots of men are the same way - they want arm candy. Any female that can think for herself and take care of herself doesn't stand a chance with most. I'm one that refuses to stoop down to be what someone else wants me to be.

I understand that naturally women want a man to protect her and care for her but the standards that alot of these women I have met these days want is insane, they want a man that looks like Vin Diesel with a fat bank roll and who drives a fancy sports car. I can't compete with any of that, its over whelming at times.

Even more difficult is that some of them look like this:

Kind of imbalanced, eh?

 

[AyeCantSeeYou]

No sad stories here! I'm in my HAPPY place!

 

[High_Gravity]

Gold Diggers! They want money and arm candy, nothing else. The Karatrashians are nothing to aspire to being like, unless someone wants to be nothing more than a high-priced hooker. Lots of men are the same way - they want arm candy. Any female that can think for herself and take care of herself doesn't stand a chance with most. I'm one that refuses to stoop down to be what someone else wants me to be.

I understand that naturally women want a man to protect her and care for her but the standards that alot of these women I have met these days want is insane, they want a man that looks like Vin Diesel with a fat bank roll and who drives a fancy sports car. I can't compete with any of that, its over whelming at times.

Even more difficult is that some of them look like this:

Kind of imbalanced, eh?

Those girls are the pickiest ones now.

 

[Diana1180]

I am back. My father passed away on Saturday (7th) unexpectedly. Spent the week taking care of arrangements and playing hostess to family and friends for the week. Had to come back home on Saturday feeling guilty for leaving my mother at the house alone. Trying to convince her to come stay with us (me, my brother and sister live an hour away in the same town) thru the holidays so we will see.I am surviving, just trying to come to the reality that I cant call my dad for advice like I used to. It will take time.

But other than that..I just read some horrible dating stories from you guys. I can top them I am sure. First relationship I had after marriage..dated him for a year...little did I know he got married about 5 months in...to someone eles. Total double life. And my last relationship...oh, he went back to his ex who treated him like crap...but she asked him if he would give her another chance and he said yes. To his credit he was honest with me and wanted some time to think about it. Told him if he needed to ask me for time then he can just go. 3 weeks later they broke up again. She didnt change. Throw in there random dates where guys were hoping I was some closeted bi-sexual porn star..and theres my dating history for the past 12 years.

So those dates make me hate dating. But still have not fully given up lol.

 

[Statistikhengst]

I am back. My father passed away on Saturday (7th) unexpectedly. Spent the week taking care of arrangements and playing hostess to family and friends for the week. Had to come back home on Saturday feeling guilty for leaving my mother at the house alone. Trying to convince her to come stay with us (me, my brother and sister live an hour away in the same town) thru the holidays so we will see.I am surviving, just trying to come to the reality that I cant call my dad for advice like I used to. It will take time.

But other than that..I just read some horrible dating stories from you guys. I can top them I am sure. First relationship I had after marriage..dated him for a year...little did I know he got married about 5 months in...to someone eles. Total double life. And my last relationship...oh, he went back to his ex who treated him like crap...but she asked him if he would give her another chance and he said yes. To his credit he was honest with me and wanted some time to think about it. Told him if he needed to ask me for time then he can just go. 3 weeks later they broke up again. She didnt change. Throw in there random dates where guys were hoping I was some closeted bi-sexual porn star..and theres my dating history for the past 12 years.

So those dates make me hate dating. But still have not fully given up lol.

Dear [MENTION=45679]Diana1180[/MENTION] - my condolences to you and your loved ones on the passing of your father.

Yes, dating when single again can indeed be a challenge. One day, I might just write a book.

The story about the dude who got married 5 months into your relationship with him - wow. Was he always telling you that he was on a business trip to a certain city?

 

[Luissa]

Welcome to the USMB singles bar. Pull up a stool, order a drink and tell us about yourself.

Singles bar? Why am I just seeing this? Lol


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