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[Derideo_Te]

I have a female friend whos mostly been single her whole life, she was married for a year when she was in the Military but thats about it, no kids or anything. I like her and shes an awesome person but she looks, acts and behaves as if she is 20 years old and shes 36, she dates men in their 20s too and gets really upset because they won't commit, just want sex, cheat on her and play games. That is what alot of people in their 20's do men or women, I dated a 20 year old for a while too last year. Is it possible if a person is single for such a long time they get stuck in time and just behave as if their 21 forever?

Yes, unfortunately.

Probably not irredeemable but she might need an intervention or two.

I actually liked the girl but I learned my lesson, I consoled her after her ex bf broke up with her last time, he was cheating on her. We were talking for a while and we even agreed to take a trip to New Orleans together, one day I call and a guy who sounds like Shaquille O'neal picks up. She had re-united with her ex and didn't tell me, she just lives for the drama. We are still friends but I am done talking to her in that way, she was sick this past weekend and her ex broke up with her again but I am not going near that with a 10 foot pole, shes a big girl. Good luck to her.

Run, HG, run and don't look back!

I take back what I said about being redeemable. No one needs a drama queen in their lives. Just an emotional black hole that leaves everyone else drained and exhausted. How do I know this? Because that was my mother and my sister. Stable and sensible might not be exciting but it beats the alternative if you want a normal sane life for yourself.

 

[High_Gravity]

Yes, unfortunately.

Probably not irredeemable but she might need an intervention or two.

I actually liked the girl but I learned my lesson, I consoled her after her ex bf broke up with her last time, he was cheating on her. We were talking for a while and we even agreed to take a trip to New Orleans together, one day I call and a guy who sounds like Shaquille O'neal picks up. She had re-united with her ex and didn't tell me, she just lives for the drama. We are still friends but I am done talking to her in that way, she was sick this past weekend and her ex broke up with her again but I am not going near that with a 10 foot pole, shes a big girl. Good luck to her.

Run, HG, run and don't look back!

I take back what I said about being redeemable. No one needs a drama queen in their lives. Just an emotional black hole that leaves everyone else drained and exhausted. How do I know this? Because that was my mother and my sister. Stable and sensible might not be exciting but it beats the alternative if you want a normal sane life for yourself.

The girl is beautiful, smart and has alot to offer, she has a Bachelors Degree in Criminal Justice but decided she didn't like the field and instead works in Dillards. She just chooses to make life difficult for herself, I am convinced some people crave the drama but don't even realize it, its something inside. If she actually met a man who was good for her and treated her right, she wouldn't know what to do and just end the relationship.

 

[JohnL.Burke]

I've known men and women who were dramamaniacs. I remember one time in my younger days commiserating with a friend about my crazy-magnet. It seemed to me that the only kind of women I would attract were crazy, unstable, fatal attraction types. My friends response was to stop picking up girls at bars. It seems so simple right? However, that never even occurred to me! I felt like an idiot! How did I not equate the women I would attract with my surroundings? If you want a serious relationship then you have to meet people in a particular location. Church, work, Denny's, whatever. Maybe your friend needs to change some of her habits? Does she meet her future boyfriends at bars or nightclubs or the homeless shelter? Of course, maybe it's not bad habits but a psychologically driven addiction that leads some people to drama and misery. Either way, I'm not really sure what I'm talking about so I'm going to take a nap. It felt good to get that off my chest though.

 

[Mad_Cabbie]

I have a female friend whos mostly been single her whole life, she was married for a year when she was in the Military but thats about it, no kids or anything. I like her and shes an awesome person but she looks, acts and behaves as if she is 20 years old and shes 36, she dates men in their 20s too and gets really upset because they won't commit, just want sex, cheat on her and play games. That is what alot of people in their 20's do men or women, I dated a 20 year old for a while too last year. Is it possible if a person is single for such a long time they get stuck in time and just behave as if their 21 forever?

Avoid her like the plague.

She's a complete idiot.

People like her would not know a good man from a hole in the ground. They make you pay if you think that they care at all.

 

[dreolin]

Happy humbug, dreolin.

I have encountered those happy humbug dudes before at Artillery school...in the barracks at Fort Sill. Man, they were not only happy, they were friggin' ecstatic and crawlin' all over the place. It musta been all that replicating they were involved it.

 

[Statistikhengst]

I have a female friend whos mostly been single her whole life, she was married for a year when she was in the Military but thats about it, no kids or anything. I like her and shes an awesome person but she looks, acts and behaves as if she is 20 years old and shes 36, she dates men in their 20s too and gets really upset because they won't commit, just want sex, cheat on her and play games. That is what alot of people in their 20's do men or women, I dated a 20 year old for a while too last year. Is it possible if a person is single for such a long time they get stuck in time and just behave as if their 21 forever?

Avoid her like the plague.

She's a complete idiot.

People like her would not know a good man from a hole in the ground. They make you pay if you think that they care at all.

And they are exactly the kind who feed into the mentality of "**** their brains out, then show them the door", because a great many of them want exactly that. And then ***** like hyenas afterward because you did what they wanted.

Yes, avoid her like the plague.

Actually, now 4 years after my divorce, I am enjoying being single and alone. Time with my child to help grow her up is enough for me without the complications of a soft female companion next to me in bed.

There is something to be said about the tranquility of solitude.

 

[BDBoop]

Not to mention the peace of mind in not letting a possibly abusive person anywhere near your beloved offspring.

 

[Mad_Cabbie]

I'm very noncommittal and don't date too much, because I'm tired of hurting women with my indifference.

I'm not really that much of a prize anyway.

 

[Statistikhengst]

Not to mention the peace of mind in not letting a possibly abusive person anywhere near your beloved offspring.

Indeed. Amen.

 

[Statistikhengst]

I'm very noncommittal and don't date too much, because I'm tired of hurting women with my indifference.

I'm not really that much of a prize anyway.

I do think you should be kinder to yourself than that, unless of course you have three eyes (or maybe just one) in the center of your forehead...

 

[BDBoop]

I'm very noncommittal and don't date too much, because I'm tired of hurting women with my indifference.

I'm not really that much of a prize anyway.

I do think you should be kinder to yourself than that, unless of course you have three eyes (or maybe just one) in the center of your forehead...

And a Porsche can cancel that out.

 

[Statistikhengst]

I'm very noncommittal and don't date too much, because I'm tired of hurting women with my indifference.

I'm not really that much of a prize anyway.

I do think you should be kinder to yourself than that, unless of course you have three eyes (or maybe just one) in the center of your forehead...

And a Porsche can cancel that out.

depends where you park it:

[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xibtzwdXgfI]Small Package Prank by Tom Mabe - YouTube[/ame]

 

[AyeCantSeeYou]

Welcome to the USMB singles bar. Pull up a stool, order a drink and tell us about yourself.

Strawberry daiquiri, please, and thank you!

 

[AyeCantSeeYou]

Not to mention the peace of mind in not letting a possibly abusive person anywhere near your beloved offspring.

Amen to that!

 

[Ava]

Yes, unfortunately.

Probably not irredeemable but she might need an intervention or two.

I actually liked the girl but I learned my lesson, I consoled her after her ex bf broke up with her last time, he was cheating on her. We were talking for a while and we even agreed to take a trip to New Orleans together, one day I call and a guy who sounds like Shaquille O'neal picks up. She had re-united with her ex and didn't tell me, she just lives for the drama. We are still friends but I am done talking to her in that way, she was sick this past weekend and her ex broke up with her again but I am not going near that with a 10 foot pole, shes a big girl. Good luck to her.

Run, HG, run and don't look back!

I take back what I said about being redeemable. No one needs a drama queen in their lives. Just an emotional black hole that leaves everyone else drained and exhausted. How do I know this? Because that was my mother and my sister. Stable and sensible might not be exciting but it beats the alternative if you want a normal sane life for yourself.

I am so far from being a drama queen, I won't even argue with a significant other. That was the worst part of marriage, arguing, even though it is sometimes necessary. I just like to avoid it. I want peace and sensible discussion, with noooooo drama. There is a person in my life, I love, but won't be around because of their proclivity for argument and raising their voice. Hey....I won't hear you as well if you are going to yell.

 

[High_Gravity]

I've known men and women who were dramamaniacs. I remember one time in my younger days commiserating with a friend about my crazy-magnet. It seemed to me that the only kind of women I would attract were crazy, unstable, fatal attraction types. My friends response was to stop picking up girls at bars. It seems so simple right? However, that never even occurred to me! I felt like an idiot! How did I not equate the women I would attract with my surroundings? If you want a serious relationship then you have to meet people in a particular location. Church, work, Denny's, whatever. Maybe your friend needs to change some of her habits? Does she meet her future boyfriends at bars or nightclubs or the homeless shelter? Of course, maybe it's not bad habits but a psychologically driven addiction that leads some people to drama and misery. Either way, I'm not really sure what I'm talking about so I'm going to take a nap. It felt good to get that off my chest though.

I dated a girl from my local Grocery store for a few weeks, it didn't work and she said she was breaking up with me over something I said, I asked her what and she wouldn't tell me. Now I avoid that grocery store altogether, I am never going to date anyone from a place I frequent like the grocery store, work, favorite bar, favorite restautant etc etc because if you do and it doesn't work out, you may have to find a new barber, bar, restaurant etc etc unless you want your crazy ex cooking your wings for you.

 

[AyeCantSeeYou]

......
Do you like or dislike being single? ......

Considering what I went through when I was married, I prefer being single.

 

[AyeCantSeeYou]

I dated a girl from my local Grocery store for a few weeks, it didn't work and she said she was breaking up with me over something I said, I asked her what and she wouldn't tell me. Now I avoid that grocery store altogether, I am never going to date anyone from a place I frequent like the grocery store, work, favorite bar, favorite restautant etc etc because if you do and it doesn't work out, you may have to find a new barber, bar, restaurant etc etc unless you want your crazy ex cooking your wings for you.

Don't let anyone have so much control over you that you alter your life because of him/her.

 

[BDBoop]

Exactly. I don't want to do marriage again, not least because of expectations. I didn't try to change him and would have appreciated the same consideration.

 

[High_Gravity]

I dated a girl from my local Grocery store for a few weeks, it didn't work and she said she was breaking up with me over something I said, I asked her what and she wouldn't tell me. Now I avoid that grocery store altogether, I am never going to date anyone from a place I frequent like the grocery store, work, favorite bar, favorite restautant etc etc because if you do and it doesn't work out, you may have to find a new barber, bar, restaurant etc etc unless you want your crazy ex cooking your wings for you.

Don't let anyone have so much control over you that you alter your life because of him/her.

I'ds just rather not see her again,I don't want to do the whole awkward "hey how are you doing" bullshit when in reality neither of us can care less.