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[earlycuyler]

Far too many red flags with this whole story.

I would have never planned on spending an entire day with someone on a first date to begin with. An hour and a half tops - enough time for dinner somewhere and a little talking. Leave him wanting to know more about you.

First two are dinner and or a movie.

I took a girl to a movie for a first date once, never again. You don't have time to really speak and get to know each other in a movie.

Depends. All the talking im interested in doing is done during dinner. The last time I left to much time for conversation I ended up getting psychoanalised by a ******* wing nut, lol. Really it just depends.

 

[Diana1180]

I personally think the texting and social media has put more buffers in the way of creating a relationship, instead of just picking up the phone and calling now you have email/instagram/facebook/texting/twitter etc etc etc all of this just gets in the way of getting to know a person imo.

Social media....the downfall of society,

I think youre absolutley correct.

Texting and social media has changed the way we interact with each other and not in a good way I think but thats just one of the problems, people want relationships to be easy and convenient for them these days and you very rarely can have it like that.

Agreed again.

 

[Derideo_Te]

Makes you wonder if so many married people are talking us singles, maybe the marriage racket isnt all its cracked up to be? the happiest people I know are single.

Sadly it just makes me think that no one wants a monogomous relationship anymore...and that you cant trust anyone,.

Managomy is a very difficult concept to grasp, everyone is greedy and wants to have their cake and eat it too, and they want everything to be easy with no work, that includes relationships especially. When it comes to something that needs work **** it throw it out the window.

The rule that anything worth having is worth working for applies to relationships too. If you find someone who understands that then you have a common basis to work on. Odds are those that don't appreciate this are not going to make good long term partners even under ideal circumstances.

 

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[Disir]

I really like being single. A lot. I like going where I want and doing what I want.

 

[BDBoop]

I really like being single. A lot. I like going where I want and doing what I want.

We really are the lucky ones. "Single" is the default setting.

 

[Disir]

Yes, we are! The women that I work with ask me, after venting, if I miss all that. My response is, "Nope."

 

[earlycuyler]

I really like being single. A lot. I like going where I want and doing what I want.

The only thing I miss about being married is the wife and all the little things. Waking up and talking about the day, coming home and doing the same, cooking and eating all that. And doing all that with her. As it is now, I dont crave any of that. Im good. Back at my old job and fitting in. Everyone who works with me and knows me as well as my family and those I go to church with all say I am much better to be around now. So Im okay with out that. Having fun and yes, sex is about all im intrested in. So there is no small talk in the morning. Ill sit here finish my coffee, and then I will climb up on this shit and paint it.

 

[Disir]

I really like being single. A lot. I like going where I want and doing what I want.

The only thing I miss about being married is the wife and all the little things. Waking up and talking about the day, coming home and doing the same, cooking and eating all that. And doing all that with her. As it is now, I dont crave any of that. Im good. Back at my old job and fitting in. Everyone who works with me and knows me as well as my family and those I go to church with all say I am much better to be around now. So Im okay with out that. Having fun and yes, sex is about all im intrested in. So there is no small talk in the morning. Ill sit here finish my coffee, and then I will climb up on this shit and paint it.

Well, my ex and I separated in November of 2003 and were officially divorced in 2005. I would be lying if I said that I missed any of that then. I don't miss it now either. I can say that it gets easier over time for most people.

I have a lot of interests and only so much time. There is still so much to do and see. I would have to sacrifice something somewhere and I am just not willing to do that.

 

[Diana1180]

Good Morning and a (late) Happy Easter to everyone

 

[Ava]

I really like being single. A lot. I like going where I want and doing what I want.

And without answering to anyone about it all. I like the freedom of living without constraints of any kind. It took several attempts of trying life with partners to realize I am not cut out for it. In the past I was told several times, you are too much for any one man but I thought they were crazy. Little did I know their observations would turn out to be the truth.

I did have a great time, trying though. But the rewards of marriage to me, were not worth the sacrifices. The men were good men. It is I, who needs more than marriage can offer. And I'm good with that. The good and bad times made me a better person. Everybody moved on to find what they really needed, to be content. Two are still single. I think they like being that way, also, or they wouldn't be.

 

[BDBoop]

Good Morning and a (late) Happy Easter to everyone

Morning, pretty eyes!

 

[Diana1180]

I am 50/50 on the liking being single thing.

Half of me likes not having to deal with being in a relationship...the freedom as one put it before me. Do what I want, when I want. etc etc.

But the other half...really misses having someone there. I have friends but I miss having that person to talk to thru the day or come home to. Its just my daughter and I so I work, come home, be a mom...cook, homework, chores.

I love my life....but sometimes think it wouldnt be so bad with soemone else in it too.

 

[BDBoop]

I really like being single. A lot. I like going where I want and doing what I want.

And without answering to anyone about it all. I like the freedom of living without constraints of any kind. It took several attempts of trying life with partners to realize I am not cut out for it. In the past I was told several times, you are too much for any one man but I thought they were crazy. Little did I know their observations would turn out to be the truth.

I did have a great time, trying though. But the rewards of marriage to me, were not worth the sacrifices. The men were good men. It is I, who needs more than marriage can offer. And I'm good with that. The good and bad times made me a better person. Everybody moved on to find what they really needed, to be content. Two are still single. I think they like being that way, also, or they wouldn't be.

Exactly.

Also, it's interesting when someone, actually more than one person speaks a fundamental truth about you - and it takes time and wisdom before you can see that they hit the nail right on the head.

 

[High_Gravity]

I really like being single. A lot. I like going where I want and doing what I want.

Amen

 

[BDBoop]

But that's good, Diana. Because for you, either will do. It's kinda like being bisexual about committed relationships.

The ones who worry me are the young women who honestly think that they cannot or will not be happy until they find their "other half."

 

[Diana1180]

But that's good, Diana. Because for you, either will do. It's kinda like being bisexual about committed relationships.

The ones who worry me are the young women who honestly think that they cannot or will not be happy until they find their "other half."

lol..good way to put it.

My daughter is 15 and getting into that boy crazy stage.

I am trying to teach her that being single/ not having a bf is NOT a bad thing lol.

 

[Ava]

But the other half...really misses having someone there. I have friends but I miss having that person to talk to thru the day or come home to.

I looked for that too, until realizing most men really don't want to talk with their wives very often. I found friendships with women to be the most gratifying for the purpose of conversation and interests-in-common.

 

[BDBoop]

What I told her way early on is honey, the only thing worse than being single and lonely is being married - and lonely. Same goes for any relationship.