While not having much experience with this problem. I've heard that many women use their delivery of sex as a weapon to get their men to toe the line. Basically.. do what I require or no sex. I hear men complain about this fairly regularly.
I recall having this problem when I was single, years ago, but that was different, I just took it as a bad sign and moved on.
It makes me wonder when in the evolution of civilization women gained control of men in that fashion. It seems likely to me that there was a time on earth when males simply ravaged females whenever they got wood and later there was Lysistrata in Aristophanes's time so there must have been a transition period or an instant when women began to take control of men by way of regulating the flow of joy juice. Could it be that this is what has driven men to drink and fostered the discovery of distillation?
A previous poster is exactly correct in saying that women want sex just as do men. It's a built in drive mechanism, installed in each human alive. Some drives are what I would call
normal , meaning controllable by adherence to societal standards, some are
extreme , meaning uncontrollable as with nymphomaniacs and their male counterparts, and a slight few have what I call a
nun drive.
The fact that women use sex as a controlling device for men is a testament to the ingenuity of the female gender. All men have to counter with is money and power.