If you meet the first sibling and get a girl, you are right that the permutations are then "moot"
False. Because you dont know which sibling you have met. Just as when the dealer holds the two cards behind his back, then hands you one red card. You never got to choose. You didn't order your choice. If the dealer draws two cards (from an infinite deck, for the hall monitors), holds them behind his back, then hands you one red card, the probability that the other card is also red is 1/3.
Now you have retreated to a semantic argument. So it appears that you DO understand that, if you are only given the information that at least one sibling is a girl, the probability of the other also being a girl is 1/3. Else you wouldn't be focused on calling this a "pick", or a card flip, using the word "meet"..
So, good on you, you do understand. However, "meeting" the girl doesn't mean you have ordered your choice. As I will show in the next post.