Why does the particular door matter?
Because, when you know which door has been opened, you have "ordered" your choice. Before opening the door, you were faced with a sample space of 4, equally likely permutations (you can look at them as the first element being behind the first door you open, with the second element being behind the second door you open):
BB
BG
GB
GG
When you open the first door and see a girl, you immediately eliminate half the permutations from your sample space: BB and BG.
Now, you are left with a sample space of two equally likely permutations. The probability of finding a girl behind the second door is 1/2.
Now, if it is shouted outside the house to you that somene inside has opened a door and found a girl, but you don't know which door, this changes. You can only eliminate one permutation from this sample space -- BB -- and are left with THREE, equally likely permutations. The choice has not been "ordered". Now, to you, the probability that the other room contains a girl is only 1/3.