Are you having fun yet??LOL are you done fisting alreadyMaybe he had just as dysfunctional a family life as you did, and also went through holy hell growing up, and finally he decided he could only heal by facing life straight on, or by finding other relatives? I dunno?I just heard from a person who says he is my cousin on from my father's side who is doing a genealogy study for a family tree.
For a little background I was orphaned at 14 when my mother died of a drug overdose. My parents weren't married. My father who I really had no relationship with died when I was 8 he was an alcoholic and addict and died of liver failure. He was your run of the mill deadbeat dad and I actually didn't even find out he was dead until a year after he died.
I never met any of his family.
So this guy says he's my long lost cousin and wants to meet me and introduce me to his side of the family.
I still haven't decided what I'm going to do. These people are all just strangers to me and I really don't know if i want to know them.
Maybe you, could help him somehow? Maybe this whole thing is not for your healing, but for him?
I was just working on my ancestry/genealogy and thought I'd take a break and come to USMB and boom, there is your thread regarding genealogy.... Weird.
Then maybe your cousin needs some sort of healing, or is just an all around good guy who believes blood, is thicker than water???I don't think I need any healing. I dealt with my past and have literally not thought of it in a long time.Maybe he had just as dysfunctional a family life as you did, and also went through holy hell growing up, and finally he decided he could only heal by facing life straight on, or by finding other relatives? I dunno?I just heard from a person who says he is my cousin on from my father's side who is doing a genealogy study for a family tree.
For a little background I was orphaned at 14 when my mother died of a drug overdose. My parents weren't married. My father who I really had no relationship with died when I was 8 he was an alcoholic and addict and died of liver failure. He was your run of the mill deadbeat dad and I actually didn't even find out he was dead until a year after he died.
I never met any of his family.
So this guy says he's my long lost cousin and wants to meet me and introduce me to his side of the family.
I still haven't decided what I'm going to do. These people are all just strangers to me and I really don't know if i want to know them.
Maybe you, could help him somehow? Maybe this whole thing is not for your healing, but for him?
I was just working on my ancestry/genealogy and thought I'd take a break and come to USMB and boom, there is your thread regarding genealogy.... Weird.
From the little I know it seems that my father's extended family is pretty average and it was my father who was the black sheep
I'd be a little curious and at least meet him once, somewhere neutral... Bring your wife too....
But that is just my opinion....and talk with your wife about it....see what she thinks of it all....in general, (your mom not included) women have pretty good intuition and judgement on these kind of things, imho.