I just heard from a person who says he is my cousin on from my father's side who is doing a genealogy study for a family tree.
For a little background I was orphaned at 14 when my mother died of a drug overdose. My parents weren't married. My father who I really had no relationship with died when I was 8 he was an alcoholic and addict and died of liver failure. He was your run of the mill deadbeat dad and I actually didn't even find out he was dead until a year after he died.
I never met any of his family.
So this guy says he's my long lost cousin and wants to meet me and introduce me to his side of the family.
I still haven't decided what I'm going to do. These people are all just strangers to me and I really don't know if i want to know them.
Maybe he had just as dysfunctional a family life as you did, and also went through holy hell growing up, and finally he decided he could only heal by facing life straight on, or by finding other relatives? I dunno?
Maybe you, could help him somehow? Maybe this whole thing is not for your healing, but for him?
I was just working on my ancestry/genealogy and thought I'd take a break and come to USMB and boom, there is your thread regarding genealogy.... Weird.