Yurt opens with a typical lie. He asked me to choose and I told him as I was challenged I would pass the choice on to him. He ran like a rabbit.
that is not true.....you asked me to pick any PRIOR topic and i did......then you cried.......you don't get a once more.....and then you ran
those are the facts
Dear
Yurt and
JakeStarkey
it seems the critical issue to resolve is
whether someone is deliberately lying or miscommunication is occurring,
and which person is misinterpreting the intent of the other person.
I don't see how you can communicate unless this first
issue is resolved. Why not start with that?
May I suggest that we first agree what style of communication
and managing conflict the two people have here, and see if that is causing the root problem
of why you two keep talking past each other and coming across as the problem.
1. accommodating - putting the other person before yourself
2. competitive - putting yourself before the other person
3. collaborative - including everyone equally
4. avoidance - avoiding conflict and people related to it
5. compromising - equally sacrificing in an even give and take as better than nothing
If you are both type 2 that conflict would need to be addressed
before you can even discuss any actual content at hand.
Jake also may be #4 and just avoiding altogether. (I seek #3 but end up as #1 when dealing with #5 - being outnumbers I end up compromising my own side before asking others to since there are usually more of them than there are of me. I believe in consent of both sides but when that doesn't happen more often than not the other side bullies me because I won't bully back against their will, but just keep defending my beliefs whether they respect that or not. So if they are the bullying type that doesn't respect consensus, they tend to run right over people like me who do believe in noncoercion and in compliance by mutual agreement and free choice)
Yurt how do you see yourself in this scheme of things: