So going to a going away lunch or not determines racism. Giving someone a job for nine years doesn’t count. If you miss lunch though... racist. This is the level of stupid you’re willing to go to.
Guy, you had it explained to you, you are being obtuse. He SHOULD have attended all three lunches. He didn't. The women of color didn't matter to him. That was the point.
I think the only person feeling guilty in this situation is you. It’s like you don’t think your skills are up to task and if you weren’t white you’d be homeless. So you project that onto some poor girl to make yourself feel better for your own shortcomings. But somehow you’ve decided you going to these women’s going away lunches has absolved you of your own guilt which now you can project onto someone else.
That's fucking retarded.
Here's why he SHOULD have gone to their going-away lunches. They had contributed to his company for a long time. They had made contributions. He couldn't be bothered. But, man, little Miss White Intern... he re-arranged his whole schedule for her.
Did he ever go to a non- white persons going away lunch? Did he ever miss a white persons lunch? Not just the three you mentioned for convenience of your story but any of them? Did he ever go to one for a non-white employee. Ever. Did he ever miss a white persons lunch? Did he ever miss a males going away lunch? If he did you may have a case for homophobia.
I wouldn't know about other departments. I can tell you that two other white people in OUR department, he went to their lunches.
First, if white guilt is real you have a terminal case of it.
Nope, it's not about me, guy, it's about how racist the system is, even in subtle ways. If he acted that way over a lunch, how would he act over hiring? Firings?
I can give you another example from this same Boss. After these three people left, we brought on a contractor, a black woman. He didn't pick her, the Temp agency sent her. Well, when he needed to create a job for one of his drinking buddies, guess who got the ax? (His Drinking buddy had no qualifications to do the job he was hired for and I had to do some of his work and all of hers when she was let go.)
Second, your goal is spreading that disease as far as possible to make yourself feel better.
Hardly. If I have ANY goal, it's to make us all aware of racism as a disease. I'm sure because you never say the N-word in public, you probably think you are a good person. Job done. You have a vested interest in denying racism, like most conservatives...
Third, white guilt is in your head and not a real thing.
Oh, I'm sure it's not a real thing for you... You can watch Trump spew the nastiest racism and rationalize it.