Well I was going to say that the idea of "big government" versus "good government" isn't really the issue, because "good government" doesn't exist, but that seemed to be outside the scope of your thread. Everything the government does is based on violence and coercion to begin with so it's never good, but the bigger it is the more it does so the more it engages in violence and coercion.
From the get-go I want to state I respect you and hope we can engage in clean debate. This is a fundamental question about government that deserves serious consideration. Ultimately, I think you are right about there is no good government. Most people attracted to power are mediocre and our institutions have been slanted towards personal gain over the good of all.
But the fact is we have government, so we need to consider what's good and what's not. You assert all government activity is violent. I sharply disagree but I suspect it's because your definition of government is coercion. So that' won't do for our purposes of discussion since by definition I have no chance of asserting otherwise. I'm sure you are attached to that term and tautology so I will use a modified term: really existing government.
So given really existing government (REG) we can take a look and see if there is anything REG does that is not violent. Take any number of welfare programs. I have received benefits on occasion and I can assure you there was no violence, there was no coercion in the process. I was simply without adequate food and after much bickering decided to see how good government can be if at all. It turns out I was able to get the nutritious food my body needed and this quickly became a celebratory day when my card would be loaded. It meant I had access to sustenance that was denied to me through prices and the market.
To argue this is coercive is to simply speak in an esoteric language that does not vibe with reality in this case. I can offer more specific examples but suffice to say, REG does good as well as bad. but I most curious by your anarcho-capitalist stance. I find this an oxy-moron at best and an outright contradiction at worst. I want to reiterate I respect you and you are clearly intelligent so I have chosen to engage your views on a critical level as I hope you enjoy. I mean no harm and it's sad that most participants I've engaged on USMB feel deeply threatened and hurl insults at me for merely challenging their assertions.
Anyway, allow me to explain. You probably imagine free enterprise is the fuel for freedom. But free enterprise cannot exist without private property, right? Right. So how do we come to hold private property? Through drawing up a document that claims you own such and such. This document is then embedded in a set of legal statutes governing "property rights." But in order to defend property rights once you own something there must be those who defend that property from altercations and invasions.
Well, property then is by no means self-evident and is entirely arbitrary from its deed to its legalisms. For without property, there is no need for property rights and no need for laws that arbitrarily support property. Nor is there a need for an army of defense to serve those with property while limiting those who do not have property from accessing life sustaining land or water. Thus, some form of government must exist in order to protect property rights. Inherent, according to John Locke, Hobbes and others whom I've read say that the state of nature does not work for property. That governments must be instituted and have been to protect property (but the only way property had nascence was through state protection from outsiders by arbitrary legal documents.
Therefore capitalism is state dependent and if we take a look at subsidies of corporations and tax incentives, we can see that fact is really beneficial. State re-distribution of taxes is alive and well and much of it is re-distributed upwards to private hand though various means. We can discuss this more if you like but suffice to say it doesn't take much thinking to realize anarcho-capitalism is blatantly unaligned with anarchism. Anarchism is absence of state and capitalism is dependent upon the state for private property to be protected.
If you want to get hypothetical and say capitalism can exist without government then who protects the property? The private enterprise-ers. But how would they protect property? The only way possible: the same way the government does: through intimidation, coercion and violence. Thus, authority is sneaked through the back door while still calling it private. Well, technically all authority is is private people cooperating and there would be cooperation among the few corporations that own a majority of the earth's supposed "private property." So it seems anarcho-capitalism is a contradiction in terms.
If you'd like further discussion listen to this podcast at around 30 minutes in:
CrimethInc. Ex-Workers? Collective : Podcast Episode #18