Zone1 Divorce - The BIGGEST "Red Flag" of them all

[MarathonMike]

Several of my relatives are involved in long term relationships but they all refuse to get married. In all cases, both parties are divorced at least once. It seems that the main reason for not tying the knot is financial.

 

[Dragonlady]

Trump has been divorced what, 3 times? So there is some truth to the fact that some divorcees are truly crummy people.

In most cases, whether someone is divorced or not has nothing to do with future success or failures in relationships.

And he publically cheated on all three of his wives.

When you marry a man who cheats on his wife, what you get is a husband who cheats on his wife.

 

[EvilCat Breath]

I was being facetious!

I was not. Be warned!

 

[pal]

New sketch.
Quite an uninteresting question in next statement.

 

[midcan5]

Been married longer than most of you have existed. Secret hmmm... Not sure how and we married young without a pot to you know what in, but made it. Grandkids will soon be marrying...yikes.... Piece below is interesting.

Couples Who Stay Together Forever Do These 10 Things

What do the world's happiest couples do differently that helps them stay together forever?

jamesmsama.com

 

[initforme]

Divorce is a necessary and good thing. There has to be a way out of an unhappy marriage. If there isnt, then nobody should get married at all.

 

[EvilCat Breath]

Several of my relatives are involved in long term relationships but they all refuse to get married. In all cases, both parties are divorced at least once. It seems that the main reason for not tying the knot is financial.

Filling out a change of address card is easier than filing for divorce.

 

[Lisa558]

The main reason for getting married is for children. If you don’t want any, or already have ones from a prior marriage, there’s really no need.

 

[Dogmaphobe]

I'm divorced.

My two sons were already grown at the time, but both told me that they would have wanted to live with me had they been younger.

I don't see my divorce as a sign of failure, and I don't feel tainted by it. It seems pretty harsh to judge somebody negatively for such without knowing any of the details.

 

[DGS49]

There are two prongs to the marriage thing: Picking the right mate, and making it work.

The culture makes a cruel joke of picking the right mate. It teaches us to look for our "soul mate," the one person in the universe that we will love emotionally from the instant we first encounter each other until we are separated by death. This is utterly ridiculous, but a large percentage of the population buys into it. So we have men marrying pretty young women, with the vain hope that they will never change, and women marrying men who "need a little work," in the vain hope that they WILL change. Then when they realize that their hopes were foolish they want out - while they are still young enough to snare another mate for a second try.

The other philosophy is "marry your best friend and make it work." Nothing is certain, but I think this one has better prospects for success.

 

[initforme]

The main reason for getting married is for children. If you don’t want any, or already have ones from a prior marriage, there’s really no need.

Hence less people are getting married and having kids...a positive trend

 

[Ava]

So you’re saying I should limit myself to married people?

Or, widowers?

 

[Lisa558]

Or, widowers?

Them too.

 

[Admiral Rockwell Tory]

Hence less people are getting married and having kids...a positive trend

Especially if the kids turn out to be old and crotchety like you, Methuselah.

 

[Fang]

“choose wisely” is the best advice I’ve received. The red flags are always there while dating. Do you choose to ignore, or do you take them in to account? I have no idea if divorce is a red flag, but clearly someone who is divorced did not choose wisely.

 

[Ava]

I have the best of both worlds. My "significant other" of five years is also my former husband. We live separately. We have always been committed to one another in every way. We still feel married, only now I have the space I need and so does he. We have dates every Sunday; "just us" dates as he likes to call them. We have contact ( face time ) each day through email, phone, or brief business contacts. ( yesterday, we got together and had steaks and wine ) Today, back to other obligations. He is a good man, a "keeper." We still refer to one another as hubby and wife for in our hearts, we are.

He just called and told me to email him my grocery list. awww. So much better living together, separately. Not for everyone but for us---- close to perfect.

 

[Dorian Mode]

Want my advice? Don't get relationship advice on the Internet. Don't get medical advice on the Internet. Don't get financial advice on the Internet. Ask your real friends who know you and care about you. Don't have any friends? Get some. They come in real handy sometimes.

 

[Leo123]

Women institute divorce proceedings 70% of the time. The excuse is usually dissatisfaction with unequal household or emotional labor. Their expectations of emotional support are higher that is realistic and they want what they call 'economic independence.' IOW women's expectations are not really real. Feminism has sold them a bill of goods that just doesn't exist in nature.

 

[JustAGuy1]

No, there are too many variables.

 

[initforme]

Women institute divorce proceedings 70% of the time. The excuse is usually dissatisfaction with unequal household or emotional labor. Their expectations of emotional support are higher that is realistic and they want what they call 'economic independence.' IOW women's expectations are not really real. Feminism has sold them a bill of goods that just doesn't exist in nature

What you are going against is the fact young adults are becoming more independent of each other. The growing number that remain single only will strengthen the nation.