Not at all. I am saying I don't think anyone should be excommunicated for it.
I do find your position - that women shouldn't be excommunicated for having an abortion but those that enable it should - to be incongruent though.
We are speaking public excommunication versus the state of excommunication. Anyone who has an abortion
places herself in the state of excommunication until repentance and forgiveness of the sin occurs. This is the same with anyone who commits murder or any other mortal sin. There is no public announcement of excommunication, it is a private matter.
Public excommunication is rare and is reserved for those who, as a Catholic, publicly advocate or promote something serious, such as abortion. When a known Catholic promotes abortion in a public setting, then the Church makes a public statement/correction annoucing the excommunication which is noting that this particular Catholic, while making him/herself publicly known as a Catholic, has stepped outside the parameters of the Catholic faith. There is no incongruity.