Amanda
Calm as a Hindu cow
- Nov 28, 2008
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Sex doesn't have to be a game, or be put on a pedastal. It's just sex. It's typical for a teenage girl to take it off the table out of emotion, but really that isn't very productive in my opinion. Sex is an important part of a relationship. If you can't establish whether or not that chemistry exists early on, you're just gambling on your ultimate future.
I understand waiting a few dates, but taking it off the table indefinitely is a bit immature. You wouldn't buy a car you didn't test drive, you wouldn't buy a house you didn't inspect.
If it's your religious view, then being as how your boyfriend was also a christian, maybe he needs to rethink his faith becuase in theory, he should have been supportive. In such a case, you're only going to have success if you choose like-minded guys. Otherwise, be prepared for no sex to be a deal breaker every single time.
It's kinda complicated and personal to be putting all over a msg board but the thing is I didn't pursue him and I didn't misrepresent anything. I even started the relationship with doubts that it was the right thing to do at all. But he seemed nice and said the not having sex wasn't an issue, but then it became an issue over time.